To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

When I was a student in Edinburgh, a friend's-friend started a business as a wedding photographer. He got a gig in a fancy hotel near where we lived and invited us along as his 'assistants' ie free food and booze in exchange for carrying some bags for him. It was a big wedding, loads of champagne flowing freely. The first dance had finished and lots of guests were up on the dance floor. Then some bloke (one of the bride's brothers apparently) came charging across the room, launched himself at another man, they both flew backwards and crashed right through a set of french doors onto the terrace 😱where they proceeded to kick the shit out of each other. Half the dance floor followed them outside (it was summer so still light) and either joined in or cheered them on. Fucking mental. The bride was inside bawling her eyes out and being comforted by her mum and bridesmaids. My friend and I stayed in the (free) bar with eyes on stalks while the photographer carefully packed away all his expensive gear in the middle of this total barney.

I wouldn’t rely on that.

Our wedding was alcohol free (my dad and groom’s dad were alcoholics - my dad dry drunk, my FIL died of liver disease) and it was clearly specified on the invitation because we just did not want any drama from all the other big drinkers in the family.

When I say “specified” I mean not about the alcoholism but about it being soft drinks only.

STILL people snuck in bottles of wine / liquor - one my dad’s golf buddies got so drunk from his smuggled in wine that he vomited under the table. He would have been in his mid to late 50s at the time. Ridiculous behaviour. 🙄.

This thread has made me realise that there was some really shitty behaviour at my wedding that I clearly blocked out!

I had to google how to spell it 😂

David Starkey?

Omg that can’t be true 😂😂😂😂. I am crying at this!

Well she dealt with the issue rather than everyone smiling through gritted teeth as the vows were ruined. So I say Go Aunt Sadie!

Aye, don’t mess

Mine has NOTHING on some of these, but it was an eye-opener at the time.

I'm in a small choir which can be booked for weddings. We sing what is requested and because we're only amateurs, it takes some time to meet and rehearse (as well as sourcing the actual music and sometimes buying it).

We were booked for a very flash wedding at a huge church where we were singing from the gallery above. Everyone was dressed to the nines but the uncouth congregation chatted, laughed and scrolled on their phones for the entire service, including the vows. They totally ignored our efforts - OK, but they had specifically requested a choir.

When we left to find our cars (parked in a specific place on the advice of the church, to enable us to get away before the wedding party, which was going to be there for ages) we found we were all totally blocked in for the next hour and a half (while photos were taken) by huge 4 x 4s parked just anywhere.

And they never paid us.

Some people have absolutely NO class.

asco · Yesterday 11:04
Jesus, we are in the process of setting up a unique wedding venue, restored building for the venue and a fair amount of accommodation on our land and this thread has me panicking.
Wonder would I get away with an alcohol free venue?????😂

After reading this thread, I think you're very brave even to consider it. My sister was planning to this at one time, but I'm so glad she didn't.

But at least, reading these posts, you can be aware and try to prepare for almost anything.😂😮😳

I think that for some people, party drugs are quite mainstream, and they look upon a wedding as an excuse for a party.

Yes, reading this I'm beginning to realise why wedding venues charge such astronomically high prices.

How horrendous and traumatic for her. I hope her life is on the up now.

Sorry, NRTWT. But have to ask whether your Username is specific to this post, or is it a joyous coincidence?

Not a problem at the reception and not randy like the other comments but....

My friends from high school were finally getting married. It was great on the lead up to the wedding which was delayed for 2 years because her grandmother and aunts needed to hand embroider the dress as her family was Ukrainian and very traditional. Despite this and getting married in the Eastern Orthodox Church (so very Catholic) it had been agreed that the service would be all in English as the groom wasn't Ukrainian or even Catholic. The priest would do one blessing in Ukrainian and then the standard English ceremony lasting about 15 minutes.

Come the day of the wedding the priest was called away to give last rites to some old boy and a different priest agreed to do the ceremony. Two hours worth of wailing and chanting in Ukrainian and Latin complete with waving incense about. We told our groom friend that we would vouch for him if he wanted an annulment on the basis that he didn't know what was happening throughout the ceremony as apparently the first part was baptising him as a Catholic.

I’m a bit taken aback at all the weddings where people have taken drugs. I can understand getting drunk but taking drugs at a wedding is just a bit weird.

Sadly I'm not. Some people don't think a party is a party unless they've got a nose full of coke to go with their drink. It's probably as ubiquitous at weddings these days as cheese and pineapple on sticks, Party Sevens and doing the Ooops Upside Your Head dance while sitting on the floor used to be.

@Verytall Please tell me that was Klute!

Why are you making excuses for such bad behaviour? If she had such social anxiety then she should have declined being a bridesmaid!

A wedding we were at, the groom’s sister for some inexplicable reason wore a long white gown (she may have also been wearing a tiara but it’s possible my memory is exaggerating). That being said that seems very tame compared to a lot of these stories 😱

Klute!! Very happy memories. Worst nightclub in Europe and all that, IYKYK.

Friends husband screaming at her for getting drunk and dancing

Tame by comparison to some of the previous posts, but....
I wasn't at this wedding in the 70s, but l was told about it by another family member.
One of my dad's much older (by more than 20 years) sisters was at the wedding of one of her granddaughter's husband's sisters. The bride was very visibly pregnant.
At the evening reception my auntie had (allegedly) had more than a few sherries, and was introduced to the bride and groom by her granddaughter.
When she was talking to another family member a while later, she remarked (referring to the groom's looks and the bride's condition) "Dear me, it must have been dark the night she went with him....."

SmudgeButt
I've just had a coughing fit laughing at 'Two hours worth of wailing and chanting in Ukrainian and Latin complete with waving incense about.' 😂

@Idontjetwashthefucker

I have trouble understanding how it could be - the person who related the story said it was someone with the title of "Sir" and David Starkey isn't a Sir.

I'd have stuck a fork in it to see if it was cooked.

🙄 What do you mean you 'have trouble understanding'? Clearly the person who related the story got that bit wrong. Have you never made a mistake? She has confirmed it WAS DAVID STARKEY! Plus you are the 97th person to mention that he is not a Sir!