To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

It’s hard to say anything with your mouth full.

A couple for me:

We were invited to my wife's work colleagues wedding. We knew it was going to be a lairy one as when we turned up at the venue, loads of the grooms family were hitting the booze pretty hard in the venue car park (this was before 11am and there were shots, bottles of prosecco and everything going around).

The day was great fun albeit very boozy and we'd just had speeches, wedding breakfast and music was starting around 3-4pm. Next thing we know, there's announcement to say the dance floor has been closed and loads of the venue staff are circled around the centre of it. We later found out that one of the grooms aunties had shat herself on the dance floor. She then passed out on the toilet and was removed from the venue (this was around 4pm). There were also several uncomfortable looking arguments, I was asked if I had any cocaine more than once (I did not). We made our excuses to leave around 8pm and we were later informed that 6 people were barred from the venue for life due to fighting!

I also attended a friend's wedding several years ago, where one of his siblings boyfriends had a blazing row with the mother of the bride and called her a "fat slag". It was suggested he left before anyone else found out and he ran out of the venue!

I’ve seen the dirty bit.

This sort of thing is actually really common, sadly. I imagine it rarely happens at weddings where it's a genuine shock to most of the guests though.

Some people, their families and the sorts of people they choose to surround themselves with are incapable of having a party without getting horribly drunk and incapable of getting horribly drunk without it ending in a fight or a row.

I can see why some people want to slope off quietly and get married with just a small handful of the only people they can trust not to be arseholes.

The brides mum and the photographer disappeared during the reception. It transpired that they had been having an affair for a couple of years and chose that moment to run off together.

The photographer never sent the happy couple the photos and the bride never saw or spoke to her mum again.

This was 40 years ago. The mum (if she is still alive) is now a granny and great granny several times over. I wonder if it was worth it.

I decided not to have bridesmaids or flower girls at my wedding. One of my cousins was very offended by this. On the day she turned up with her daughter dressed in a flower girl dress. She even had a little bouquet. Her son was in a 3 piece suit, complete with tails😳. Moving on to thr reception, her brother, who has rsvp'd to say he couldn't make it, turned up with his wife and their 3 dc. No place settings because he'd said they weren't coming. To top it off, he'd come straight from his shift as a bus driver, and was still in his uniform...

David starkey

I have a great one.

It was my wedding, many things happened, it's 7 years ago now and luckily I'm not a perfectionist so I just look back on it with fond baffled hilarity.

All my male cousins took their shirts off and flung them round the room to Sweet Caroline.

My sister got falling over drunk and had to be taken home early.

The young lads from my husbands work got in a fight with my uncles and shirtless cousins, we still aren't sure of the cause - it may have been do do with stealing.

The best man forget his entire speech due to nerves two lines in and told the whole room children included that my new husband had shit in a cupboard at school.(he did have que cards and we told him there was no pressure to do a speech if he was too nervous!)

At least they knew who did it. There’s an entire podcast about such an antic!

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/who-shat-on-the-floor-at-my-wedding-and-other-crimes/id1538165808

What a bizarre reply 😂

The bride pushing her brothers head into the wedding cake.

One where the bride's step mum turned up in what could have been a wedding dress (full length, white and glittery with a matching white fascinator). To this day it horrifies me to think about and wonder what on earth she was thinking! I think the bride showed a lot of dignity in ignoring it and getting on with her day. She looked stunning and no way anyone could have outshone her anyway.

Haha brilliant! I will listen to this! Apparently it was extremely obvious who did it, luckily we were both sat facing away from the dancefloor at the time! The bride and groom are apparently now estranged from the auntie after a disastrous holiday...🤣

The wedding where the bride and groom vanished for two hours to have photos taken after the ceremony, leaving everyone stranded outside the not-yet-open reception venue eking out a single glass of bubbly each. We eventually get into the reception to discover that it’s a cash only bar…in the middle of nowhere. Whole tables ended up doing whip rounds to try and scrape together enough change for a cheap bottle of wine.

The one where the first dance was to Shakira’s ‘underneath your clothes’ - i get the sentiment but really didn’t need to picture the groom in the buff as he was related to me 😫

The one where the bride’s father’s speech consisted of him talking about himself for 48 minutes (i timed it!)

The one where the bride’s very posh mother (think Miranda’s mum, such fun!) got hammered at the reception and started hitting on the very sweet and very gay best man who clearly hadn’t experienced anything in his life so far that had prepared him for such a situation. His husband was in fits of laughter and tactically ignored his pointed ‘save me’ looks.

I went to one as a friend of the bride where the reception venue had lots of separate small rooms. The brides Welsh valleys aunties took over one room got drunk and started singing. I am not saying they were badly behaved, they weren't but it really highlighted the social differences between bride and groom.
The bride was lovely, friendly and enjoyed life. Whereas the groom was already middle aged at 27
The marriage lasted about a year.

I can see that she might want the grandchild at the end of the long table and not in the spotlight incase they needed the loo / needed entertainment or distraction during speeches etc and they didn’t want to disturb the top table

And here we have the female equivalent of penis sausage roll man!!!!!!!!

Thank god he didn't marry her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did she do this on other occasions too?

Interesting, this was a very long time ago, but I heard at the time that I was not at all alone, he frequently behaved in a similar fashion with others whilst attending events for work/PR purposes. Honestly one of the (thankfully rare) most vile men I have ever encountered. Was shocking at the time, but more because of the significance of the building he was in (think huge historic and highly secure site/ huge tourist magnet) and his fondness for using this site as the backdrop for so many of his professional projects. I always wondered if he ever improved his behaviours later, when he got "cancelled".

My (Northern Irish) father in law told me about a wedding he was at many years ago where the wedding cake (all of it!) was hurled across the room at the reception (he didn't say who threw it) and came to rest on a wall light fitting.
Where it stayed, with bits of it dropping off and sliding down the wall for the rest of the evening.

My cousin's wedding where the BM (brother's) speech was a bizarre tribute to the late family dog, complete with a slide show of family pictures of them growing up where the majority were them with said dog. I can't remember any comments about the bride or welcome to the family sort of thing. Speeches went on forever and were before the meal, not after, so we were famished.

I was MoH for a good friend some years ago who has the mother from hell.

I didn’t really get why her mum didn’t come with us to choose the dress until the day. The bride came down the stairs in her dress and veil she looked utterly beautiful, really breathtaking. Her mum sniffed and said “well, she looks ok. Better than she deserves given that she hasn’t lost any weight for the day.” And went on to point out that the Brides (tiny) childhood facial scar would be prominent in the photos. And that was just the start. By the time we got to the reception I couldn’t stand it any longer, the relentless needling and barbed comments were just awful but just quiet enough and just far enough away from me that I couldn’t do anything. Her comments were just so cruel. So I buttonholed two of our bolshiest mates with instructions to man-mark the MoB and keep her the fuck away from the Bride. And it worked a treat. MoB tells everyone how all the Bride’s friends treated her like royalty, the Bride was completely caught up in her day and didn’t realise and the Groom spotted it all and gave us bottles of champagne to say thank you. They are now a very happy couple and live about 200 miles from her mother.

My one is the MOG in Funereal black complete with huge hat with veil.
The Groom was ex public school. The Bride was ex rough council estate.
The Groom's side were not happy. An excrutiatingly awkward wedding. The MOG turned to the wall during the Church service & sobbed. Loudly. Poor Bride.
Reader, she Divorced him. He is a twat (ex MP who struggles to find work now)
& she is very happy with a truck driver :)

My other one is my half brother who failed to bring any money to pay when he got married at a Register office. I lent it to him. Not grateful & never returned.

I remember poor Kayleigh who’s fiancés Simon spent so much money on himself and best man trip to Vegas that there was not enough money left to invite Kayleigh’s brother to her wedding. She seemed like a nice long suffering woman - I hope she ditched the fool and life has been kind to her

People doing obvious cocaine in the toilet. So rude.