To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

[HappyHappyHawaii]

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

Yep, totally agree. My bridesmaids were complete twats, behaved like sulky children all day. One was (now ex) best friend and the other my sister. Apparently they were anxious. Nope. You were not the centre of attention for 5 minutes. I have a whole list of the selfish crap they pulled individually that day. Utter arses

My DH did that....😲

David Starkey?

😲 You leave David Attenborough alone! PP's confirmed it was David Starkey.

I wasn't a guest I was working at the time. But we were hosting a very fancy Asian wedding reception and everyone was dressed up to the nines, except for one guy who came dressed in a tracksuit and sat in the lobby harassing the waitresses as they carried food between the kitchen and reception. He grabbed my arm as I walked past to try and chat me up so the manager ended up telling him to pack it in and move from the lobby.

And then about half an hour later a massive fight broke out between him and some guests from the wedding because apparently he'd been chatting up someone's young teenage daughter. It turned into a punch up and the police had to be called and everyone had to leave. It was awful, one of our bar staff had to be taken to hospital because she'd been punched in the head during the commotion.

Drink, drugs and the chief bridesmaid shagging the best man with the door open spring to mind. 😳

Elaborate please.
Why did the bride put up with that ?
Are they still together?

Strange how your “carefully arranged seating plan” clearly hadn’t done him the courtesy of being seated with someone he’d want to sit with - yet no doubt it managed to seat you with those whom you wanted to be with.

My mother (im nc) pulls these stunts at anything where shes not the centre of the focus

When my brother and sister in law got engaged,my mother saw the ring (very small,but classy and tasteful) and said 'well its,um,very small'

They said they'd set a date

Cue a ton of whinging that they couldn't have THAT day as it was 'too upsetting!' so they said they'd set another date but that was 'too upsetting' as well

By the 5th/6th change of date that wasn't good enough,they went back to the original one

My mother tried to kick off at every stage of planning,from the dress to the food,it was done her way or not at all (she wasn't paying!) and was finally told to wind her neck in or not come at all,so she moaned and whinged to anyone who would listen about 'what a mistake the groom was making'

Fast forward to the wedding and as soon as the bride appeared,my mothers many (and fictional) illnesses flared up and played up all day (she tried to show up in a neck brace,which would have looked fetching against her black outfit)

Fake fainting,claiming her blood sugar was too hig/low,her blood pressure was too high/low,her heart was on the verge of giving up,she felt shaky,her arm was hurting/going numb and she kept holding her breath so she'd go red faced

We family members where so used to this so ignored her so she started sulking and tucked into the g&t's while making loud and nasty comments (loud enough to be heard outside) about the bride,other guests (including the brides family) and what she thought was crap about the day (all of it) to her sisters/our aunts (who hadn't been invited but she insisted they where found a seat)

She then puked up into a flower pot,lost her teeth and my poor father had to take her home in a taxi

Fast forward to their first pregnancy and instead of being pleased she was having another grandchild,she wailed loudly that she had to 'find the money for another christmas present' (shes loaded-money isnt an issue,but spending in anyone but herself is)

She then wailed loudly that she'd had 3 stillbirths (sadly,thats true) and that she hoped this pregnancy would 'go the course'

She banged on so much about her stillbirths that she convinced sis-in-law that every twinge was the start of one-she became really paranoid that she was going to lose her baby and almost lived at the doctors

It affected her so badly,they refused to have another baby even though they wanted two

Im glad to be away from the drama

One wedding, two incidents: bride’s father punched by his partner and was bleeding, and groom’s sister had a hissy fit and loudly stormed out.

Oh and a different wedding, best man unveiled a full size poster print of the groom mooning on his stag weekend during his speech. To all the elderly relatives. Cringe.

Over 52 years ago, my dad's cousin, as she came up to me in the receiving line on MY wedding day, said "You look very tired and pale, dear!" What obnoxious bitch says this to a bride? My mother said later that apparently she was always jealous at weddings as hers had been a hurried wartime registry office do. If I'd known, I wouldn't have invited her. She's dead now, and it STILL annoys me!

Bride was in the toilet shagging her new husbands friend when the first dance was on. Everybody was looking for her. She was having an affair before the marriage. Marriage lasted three months. Relationship with the affair partner lasted seven years until he left her fir a younger model.

@NoFilleraren’t you the charmer! He’d been put with his siblings, who still talk about his behaviour at family events now, forty years later. But obviously, I’d have gone out of my way to make sure guests were as miserable as possible because that’s what brides want 🙄

“Strange how your “carefully arranged seating plan” clearly hadn’t done him the courtesy of being seated with someone he’d want to sit with - yet no doubt it managed to seat you with those whom you wanted to be with.”

Well of course the bride “was seated with whom she wanted to be” - which would have been her new DH. Seating plans are a nightmare, and sometimes you just have to put up with being next to family members you might prefer not to be with - that’s the nature of weddings. It’s outrageous for anyone to change a seating plan.

DHs family decided to have a lock-in at BILs very nice wedding hotel. They brought their own booze and basically refused to leave the venue until the early hours. Trashed the reception room, smoked all night.
Venue didn’t want to call the police as they were friends with brides dad and didn’t want to cause trouble.
PIL and other relatives then refused to get out of bed/room until after 11 and then came downstairs demanding a full breakfast after ‘all the money they spent’ which they hadn’t.
Venue had another wedding the next day, just have been awful for them.

Oh, the night before my cousin's wedding, whole family in the pub, his mother (my aunt) got completely shit-faced and told everyone groom was making a terrible mistake, and how he should have married darling Jane instead. For context, Jane was a rather plain girl with BO, but she was a duke's daughter, so my aunt, who had delusions of grandeur, loved her. Eventually she got so offensive that another of my cousins, who was a big lad and amateur boxer, put her over his shoulder and carried her home, and the next morning she pleaded a migraine and didn't actually get to the wedding. The marriage lasted over 40 years, and surprisingly, the bride and MIL got on well!!!

Oh, and the big cousin who took such decisive action ran off with the best man's wife the day after, married her, and they barely spoke to the rest of our family for the rest of his life.

Friend in the UK married a woman from overseas and a lot of her family came from her home country. 4 of them (2 couples) had decided to make it a bit of a European tour with the wedding at the end. When they arrived at the wedding they had all fallen out and told the groom that none of the could possibly sit at the same table at the reception so he had to try to rearrange things so they were all on separate tables. One was sitting near me and spent the whole meal and speeches complaining about the others, sneering at them and mouthing something I assume was unpleasant at them.

DH was best man for a friend. Bride and groom had small children, as did many of the guests so the whole thing was intentionally very family friendly. AS best man, DH was seated on the top table for the meal and speeches, and I was a few feet away with our DC on a different table with other friends and their DC. I was aware of this arrangement before the day and it was all perfectly fine. Groom's mother kept coming over to me telling me it was 'disgraceful' that I had been 'intentionally separated' from DH and left to 'fend for myself'. Apparently she also told DH he was a terrible parent for 'abandoning' me. There was an evening disco starting at about 7pm and most of the DC and parents were dancing together. Groom's mother went round at about 7.30pm telling everyone (including B&G) that their DC should be in bed and tried to get the DJ to stop and go home

This summer,wedding venue had a fire pit in the outside area, one very drunk lady managed to fall in the fire pit and her outfit caught fire.

She was pulled out quickly and dowsed with beer. 5 minutes later she was back at the bar ordering more drink, still looking very charred.

The story was certainly very much in line with my own experience of him.

Christ on a bike. All 3? Well done to your DB for not inviting her!

Not in any way the same but my mum had to leave both of brother’s weddings early due to over imbibing, though in fairness she just quietly slipped away (was put in a taxi) with no fuss. I don’t think it was intentional. She was fine at mine.

Attended my bosses wedding years ago... the groom and all the grooms men were off their faces on coke from first thing in the morning.
My bosses assistant (work setting) was meant to be helping out. She got drunk and shagged one of the coked-up groomsmen and I had to collect her in the morning with a spare dress and she had lost hers.

Have you ever seen Last Tango In Paris ?

Some people are just twats, not everything can be, or should be, excused by some therapy cop out.

I have no clue who David Starkey is 🤣