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Time for Women with Talent to Take Back Older Female Roles in Pantos

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

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ShowMeTheSea · 10/02/2026 12:38

the character of the Dame was never a female role to begin with. It is a male character written for a male actor

I was just about to say that, but you beat me to it

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:40

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/02/2026 12:36

You've been incredibly dismissive. That one comment doesn't cancel all of the others. You're also missing a rather important point - the character of the Dame was never a female role to begin with. It is a male character written for a male actor.
For someone who is supposedly an 'expert' it's rather odd that you ignore that fact.

I could say the same to you.

You have totally dismissed my comments as wrong.

Even if the male character was supposed to be a man (although another poster has just said the opposite a few posts back) I can still believe that women should be given the opportunity to play the Dame. Especially as their principle boy role is often now played by a man.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/02/2026 12:40

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:34

Amateur productions can include many more characters because the actors are unpaid. It is the fact that older women’s livelihoods can be affected, not just panto but, as I pasted earlier, women getting ousted from all sorts of jobs in the industry when they reach a certain age.

I am aware there are lots of scripts but in professional shows the trend towards both the Dame role and the principle boy both being played by men it leaves less opportunity for women. This is just factual really.

The company that perform the panto at my local theatre are a professional theatre company. They have a main characters which are written for women and performed by women.
They have different performances and cast performing in a number of theatres across the UK.

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:42

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/02/2026 09:33

It’s clearly not accurate though is it? We go to two pantos a year- a big one in our nearest city and one performed by a theatre company at our local theatre.
I see that there are roles for older women. Your argument doesn’t hold up.

I didn't say every single panto I said ‘general trend’.

A general trend still affects women

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:42

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/02/2026 12:40

The company that perform the panto at my local theatre are a professional theatre company. They have a main characters which are written for women and performed by women.
They have different performances and cast performing in a number of theatres across the UK.

That’s great! I am delighted that some productions are doing this.

As I said before

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 12:43

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 09:30

The Fairy God mother is one of the minor parts and you well know that.

The panto my son was in last year the Fairy Godmother role was the main star billing.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 10/02/2026 12:46

You have totally dismissed my comments as wrong.
But you have been wrong so...

Even if the male character was supposed to be a man (although another poster has just said the opposite a few posts back) I can still believe that women should be given the opportunity to play the Dame. Especially as their principle boy role is often now played by a man.

The dame has always been a male character - that is a fact. Given your extensive expertise why don't you know that?

If a company wants to write a dame character for a women there is nothing stopping them. But it shouldn't be forced upon anyone.

They would need to accept that it would change the dynamic of the performance as much of the humour derives from the fact the character is male. But there is nothing stopping them.

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:46

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 12:43

The panto my son was in last year the Fairy Godmother role was the main star billing.

I did say this in one of my earlier posts that it’s often a minor role unless it’s played by the top billing female or such like. It’s exactly what i wrote in fact.

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 12:50

I've never known the Fairy Godmother/Spirit of the Ring/Fairy Moonbeam character played by a member of the chorus. It has always been an older minor celebrity woman. The ones in my son's panto both this year and last year had fabulous voices as they had also done musical theatre as well as being a Cbeebies personality. Years ago when my daughter was in panto it was someone from Phoenix Nights.

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:55

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 09:39

In Cinderella the main part is normally Buttons and closely followed depending on the cast by the Ugly sisters, Prince, Dandini and Cinderella next step down and unless they have cast a famous female as the star the fairy godmother would be a more minor part. I really do understand this industry very well.

@Comefromaway

"unless they have cast a famous female as the star the fairy godmother"

beAsensible1 · 10/02/2026 13:01

Calling them highly visible roles is a stretch.

beAsensible1 · 10/02/2026 13:02

The pride and prejudice panto was the best I’ve seen. It had lots of women and a male dame. You can do both

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 13:04

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 12:55

@Comefromaway

"unless they have cast a famous female as the star the fairy godmother"

The script of the pantos generally stays the same regardless of who is cast, (with some added local bits) they just move around the different theatres. So the benevolent fairy role is the same size role regardless. And I have never seen it played by a member of the chorus.

TempestTost · 10/02/2026 13:05

The whole point is that it is topsy turvey.

I'd like to see the principal male actor go back to being a young woman which supports that element of the panto.

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 13:11

This year in my son's panto there was

Benevolent Fairy - star billing
Panto Dame - local actor
Comedy Sidekick - always plays that role at the theatre
Hero - Musical theatre actor/been on a TV show
Female baddie - fabulous musical theatre actor
Heroine - MT actor

IN the next city the panto he did last year there was

Male baddy - star billing
Benelvolent fairy - 2nd billing TV presenter
Hero - Theatre actor been on TV
Panto Dame
Sidekick
Heroine

AT the exact same panto last year the fairy was the star billing and the Hero 2nd billing

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 13:22

Comefromaway · 10/02/2026 13:11

This year in my son's panto there was

Benevolent Fairy - star billing
Panto Dame - local actor
Comedy Sidekick - always plays that role at the theatre
Hero - Musical theatre actor/been on a TV show
Female baddie - fabulous musical theatre actor
Heroine - MT actor

IN the next city the panto he did last year there was

Male baddy - star billing
Benelvolent fairy - 2nd billing TV presenter
Hero - Theatre actor been on TV
Panto Dame
Sidekick
Heroine

AT the exact same panto last year the fairy was the star billing and the Hero 2nd billing

I totally agree with you.

My issue is how few female roles there are compared to men in most shows.

I’m coming at this from a feminist persepctive.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/02/2026 14:32

For all your experience and expertise Tankflop why do you keep referring to principle boy and not principal boy?

taxi4ballet · 10/02/2026 15:12

I despair. This thread isn't about giving women opportunities in the theatre. It was never intended to be.

The homophobia and transphobia shown by some posters on this thread under the guise of feminism is quite staggering. There. I've said it.

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 15:13

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/02/2026 14:32

For all your experience and expertise Tankflop why do you keep referring to principle boy and not principal boy?

Oops sorry I am dyslexic.

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 15:17

taxi4ballet · 10/02/2026 15:12

I despair. This thread isn't about giving women opportunities in the theatre. It was never intended to be.

The homophobia and transphobia shown by some posters on this thread under the guise of feminism is quite staggering. There. I've said it.

Where?

taxi4ballet · 10/02/2026 15:19

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 15:17

Where?

Read the entire thread in one sitting. That should solve the puzzle for you. 🙂

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 15:21

taxi4ballet · 10/02/2026 15:19

Read the entire thread in one sitting. That should solve the puzzle for you. 🙂

No it hasn’t. Please could you point out what it is?

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/02/2026 15:46

Tankflop - as you've never posted on any other thread, can you clarify whether you
a) joined specifically because somehow you heard about this thread;
b) are a previous poster to this thread but name changed to carry on your wind up; or
c) are being unbelievably obtuse?

Tankflop · 10/02/2026 15:51

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 10/02/2026 15:46

Tankflop - as you've never posted on any other thread, can you clarify whether you
a) joined specifically because somehow you heard about this thread;
b) are a previous poster to this thread but name changed to carry on your wind up; or
c) are being unbelievably obtuse?

Ok, it’s a bit rude of you.
I name change regularly.

Honestly I think you are being very rude

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 10/02/2026 17:49

taxi4ballet · 09/02/2026 20:40

You are calling them 'actresses'? Oh dear.🙄

That's pretty outdated, and some people find it denigrating. The majority of people in the performing arts use the gender-neutral 'actor' these days.

I'm older so I'm sticking with "actress" which I don't consider to be an insult any more than the word "Princess". It's borrowed from French where every noun is either masculine or feminine, ditto for Spanish & Italian and lots of other languages we borrow from.

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