To think a meal should not be part of a Birthday Present?

[zaktha]

I recently turned 60. I like material gifts not experiences and my family know this.

For my 60th birthday present, DH got me a pair of earrings (c£200) and is paying for a slap up meal with him, me, and our adult dc (c£300).

AIBU to think the meal isn’t really a gift to me?

You poor thing. That is just awful, you should divorce him.

im with the OP. I would rather have the whole £500 spent on a decent pair of earrings. £200 is cheap for a 60th birthday.

Wow, I guess hats off to you. Being grabby and owning it.😂

You like immaterial things.

And then not had a meal with your family?

You get a slap after every course. Such 😁

you are very greedy - you have lovely expensive earrings and they want to celebrate your birthday

You're an adult now, you can buy your own presents. 🤷🏻‍♀️

thats horrendous. I usually got nothign for my birthday and my husabnd is a high earner but I shouldn't have put up with that. it broke me down

60 is only a number. But for some there has to be a monetary value on “your special day”. Not like you’ve had 59 others.

I'd love it if my DH did that as I think most people would. He's got you an expensive gift and is treating you and the family to dinner, which also is a tad expensive.

I do think you are being very ungrateful. If you have a gift/experience in mind you'd prefer in future I suggest you communicate that with your husband.

Get a grip.

Sounds similar to what I might get fir my upcoming 55th (more like £100 on the gift though).

I ask for experiences for my presents, be it birthday or Christmas. I want to be able to go places with my husband and kids and don’t want or need material possessions. I will ask for a meal out somewhere we all want to go or a theatre trip or tickets to a music event. Memories made are worth so much more than material gifts in my opinion.

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how do your family know you prefer material gifts - did you do a big announcement or do you go on about it?

A meal is definitely part of the birthday present in our household. Although for a milestone birthday, we might also throw in a holiday or something, but we would both organise that and split the cost. I’d be chuffed with jewellery and a meal out otherwise!

Wow! You seem ungrateful
There is nothing I love better than getting together with all my kids. It doesn’t happen much anymore as everyone lives all over uk and are very busy so its guaranteed to make me cry 🥲.Going out for a meal with them would be up there as a present

Well, we’re all different I suppose but I’d argue £500 is a lot to spend on someone for their birthday and you should perhaps be more grateful.

I agree a meal with my family isn’t really a present. Unless it was a particularly posh place (and the cost doesn’t really seem to indicate that). But a £200 pair of earrings would be considered a great present in my eyes!

This has got to be a reverse.

She did this for her husband (obviously not earrings, but similar) and he’s ungrateful.

Surely, women aren’t this shallow nowadays?

What a lovely gift. Time with my children is the best gift in the universe.

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