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To think France's plan to write to every 29 year old reminding them to breed is patronising nonsense??

189 replies

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:12

Nobody alive is forgetting to do this

A lot of people don't want to because in the modern era it's not necessary and a lot less fun than other stuff

Some people DO want to but can't in which case idk give them the missing tools or funds

But nobody is forgetting

Why does this whole topic seem to bamboozle policymakers so hard?

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WhatNoRaisins · 07/02/2026 22:13

Can't see that one working.

soupyspoon · 07/02/2026 22:13

I havent heard of this, what is this?

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 07/02/2026 22:15

Now now, don’t forget to make yourselves time impoverished, sleep impoverished, energy impoverished, and impoverished impoverished.

It’s your duty

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SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 07/02/2026 22:17

This can’t be true

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:17

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 07/02/2026 22:17

This can’t be true

I'm telling you policy people these days are dummies

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Miranda65 · 07/02/2026 22:18

If true, patronising AND offensive!

FastFood · 07/02/2026 22:19

It's to remind women that they can freeze their eggs for free, which is pretty new in France, and I guess raise awarness about the risks of infertility.

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:20

FastFood · 07/02/2026 22:19

It's to remind women that they can freeze their eggs for free, which is pretty new in France, and I guess raise awarness about the risks of infertility.

Oh no not the inability to do something they don't want to do anyway anything but that

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Designless · 07/02/2026 22:20

Honestly the Basics walk among us and it's freaky

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LameBorzoi · 07/02/2026 22:22

I didn't know about the egg freezing. It sounds patronising, but by the number of posts on here that go "you can have kids at 42, no problem", perhaps a little public education in the UK is needed, as well.

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:23

LameBorzoi · 07/02/2026 22:22

I didn't know about the egg freezing. It sounds patronising, but by the number of posts on here that go "you can have kids at 42, no problem", perhaps a little public education in the UK is needed, as well.

Nobody on the goddamn planet is surprised by this.

Fewer people are breeding because it has always been the case that a fair number simply don't want to and this is the first time ever that it has become genuinely optional.

Treating adults like morons is just a recipe for disengagement from government.

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LameBorzoi · 07/02/2026 22:24

But yes, actually making it possible to house, raise and feed kids would be a nice strategy.

ColdAsAWitches · 07/02/2026 22:24

It's part of a National Infertility programme, part of which is free IVF and letting women know about this scheme's availability. But that isn't click-baity enough of a headline

FastFood · 07/02/2026 22:25

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:20

Oh no not the inability to do something they don't want to do anyway anything but that

Well a lot of people suffer from infertility so surely they want to have kids otherwise they wouldn't even know they were infertile, right?

For years, egg retrieval process + freeze was free only under the condition that a woman would donate her eggs (in France egg donations are not paid so its not easy to attract donors).
In recent years that has changed, now a woman can keep all her eggs without donating some, all paid by the health services.

GoddessOfHellfire · 07/02/2026 22:25

This doesn’t surprise me. When I almost married my French ex, I recall being horrified at the ‘dossier’ we had to prepare beforehand at the behest of the town hall, which was to include a full gynaecological examination. The fact I was already ‘proven’ (in that we’d already bred) didn’t seem to make one iota of difference.

Thankfully we never compiled the ‘dossier’ and never got married.

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:26

ColdAsAWitches · 07/02/2026 22:24

It's part of a National Infertility programme, part of which is free IVF and letting women know about this scheme's availability. But that isn't click-baity enough of a headline

I don't care if it's part of a plan to put Frenchwomen on Mars

It's bullshit nonsense

"dear 29 year old we've noticed you're not very interested in nappies and sleep deprivation! Did you know your time to experience this amazing deal is limited?? What's that you say yes you did because you're capable of reading hence your ability to read this letter?"

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BestZebbie · 07/02/2026 22:28

I'm interested to know if the French healthcare and education systems could cope if everyone read the letter and then had unprotected sex every day consecutively until they were pregnant or had got someone else pregnant (although obviously the powers that be wouldn't be expecting that level of response).

Fozzleyplum · 07/02/2026 22:28

When I worked in Paris in the late 1980s, there was a government campaign to boost the birth rate. There were posters with photos of babies and also a regular short tv programme late every evening called "Super Sexy". It was basically soft porn (rather "Benny Hill" in style, iirc), designed to encourage people to breed. I can't imagine that it was effective.

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:29

BestZebbie · 07/02/2026 22:28

I'm interested to know if the French healthcare and education systems could cope if everyone read the letter and then had unprotected sex every day consecutively until they were pregnant or had got someone else pregnant (although obviously the powers that be wouldn't be expecting that level of response).

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Fortunately for these systems it ain't gonna happen

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SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 07/02/2026 22:29

Many cancer patients would love to be able to preserve eggs for free.

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:29

Fozzleyplum · 07/02/2026 22:28

When I worked in Paris in the late 1980s, there was a government campaign to boost the birth rate. There were posters with photos of babies and also a regular short tv programme late every evening called "Super Sexy". It was basically soft porn (rather "Benny Hill" in style, iirc), designed to encourage people to breed. I can't imagine that it was effective.

Hahaha this reminds me of the danish "do it for grandma" adverts

Vomit all round

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Designless · 07/02/2026 22:30

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 07/02/2026 22:29

Many cancer patients would love to be able to preserve eggs for free.

Well they probably should be told it's not that effective

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FastFood · 07/02/2026 22:31

GoddessOfHellfire · 07/02/2026 22:25

This doesn’t surprise me. When I almost married my French ex, I recall being horrified at the ‘dossier’ we had to prepare beforehand at the behest of the town hall, which was to include a full gynaecological examination. The fact I was already ‘proven’ (in that we’d already bred) didn’t seem to make one iota of difference.

Thankfully we never compiled the ‘dossier’ and never got married.

I call BS. No one is forced to have a gynaecological examination to get married. All my friends are married and not one, not a single one had to do a medical exam

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 07/02/2026 22:32

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:30

Well they probably should be told it's not that effective

Im sure they are? And what’s the alternative? Some chance is better than zero chance.