My boyfriend

[Denisa2024]

My boyfriend and I were thinking about getting married. He was hoping he wasn’t still married, even though he never signed any papers after many years apart. His ex-wife has moved on with a new boyfriend and they have a little girl together.

My boyfriend and this woman aren’t divorced yet, and I later found out she’s low on money and waiting for him to finalise the divorce. I’m also wondering — is my boyfriend the legal father of her daughter, even if he’s not the biological dad?

Thanks!

He was hoping he wasn’t still married, even though he never signed any papers

Is this real?

If she put him on the birth certificate then he is, and she could have done that without him there as they are married. Would she have done that? It would be a really weird thing to do. How does a man 'hope' he's divorced even though he didn't sign divorce papers?

So he hasn’t got his decree nisi or absolute through yet?

Presumably the father is on the birth certificate so your boyfriend isn't the legal father, the father is the legal father.

Divorce would be a lot easier if you could just wish your ex away, but he is pretty stupid if he thinks he's divorced and didn't sign a thing.

I wouldn't be hitching my wagon to this man, he sounds completely passive about his own life, and you would be sorting out everything for eternity.

He sounds a bit thick to be honest!

Not sure

You really want to marry someone like him???!

Nobody is too thick to know whether they’re divorced. Are you in the UK? Were they married in the UK?

What? 😂

Its a train wreck

He needs to get divorced fast.

In the Republic of Ireland where Divorce was prohibited by the constitution for a period and it seems that the powers that be were pretty bloody-minded about it men could end up liable for their estranged children by other men however I dont see it happening here

There is however a legal presumption of legitimacy for any children born to a married woman

He was hoping he wasn’t still
married 🤣

Why did you edit this so many times?

Im not sure

Normally I would agree with you but are you new on here

Op if he doesn't know this he was not mature enough to know if he is married in the first place

Is this a new boyfriend since the one you had just married in around August OP, whose ex pestered for money? You certainly get around.

The Russian spy one or the onw who is butler to the Queen of Uzbekistan?

Or was that another poster?

Married to a chap with two kids in fact...

Oh dear, she's back and just as dim

Where is your husband in all this?

Yes Darling 😅

???

So you married this man bigamously?

He was hoping he wasn’t still married, even though he never signed any papers

And you are seriously considering getting married to this man?

Are you comfortable with the idea that this is how he is going to be in your marriage. Everything and I really mean everything will be down to you. If he ever decides the relationship isn’t for him, he is likely to wander off and just get together with someone else who is prepared to put up with this.

You won’t be able to say that you were not warned.

How long have you been together, if more than 5 years then ok. But you really need a long time to get to know someone well

Why do you want to marry such a stupid and useless man?