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Drag Queen Storytime at my local library (photo attached)

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Carla786 · 03/02/2026 18:59

I had a lovely trip to my local library yesterday. Spent a long time there choosing books, basically the whole time there was a very noisy toddler event going on in the next room. I didn't mind, they host a lot of stuff for various people & that's good.

As I left, I looked at the posters of various things they were advertising. I saw one for 'Mama G', clearly a drag queen, which I photographed for identification purposes. I thought this nonsense of drag story hours might be quietening down, but clearly not at my library. I'd never seen them advertise anything like that before 🤦‍♀️

Checking the photo when I got home, I saw the event had taken place that day, while I was choosing my books. I wasn't listening particularly hard, but from what I heard it sounded more like a 'panto dame' style event than anything sexualised. It still seems odd and inadvisable though. If a drag Queen wants to do panto style entertainment for kids too, he should have a separate line in that, rather than mixing it up. 'Drag queen shows ' are by nature sexual and adult, so 'drag queen' shows blur boundaries whatever the content/intention.

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PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 21:59

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 21:52

If you are talking about their drag persona, you would say she

How about we don't bring the dead into this as a way to slag people off??

Drag queen is not a protected characteristic. The man dressing up as Mama G is a male actor. There is no reason not say "he"

BluebellShmoobell · 03/02/2026 21:59

Oh how different this would be if it was blackface, yeah im in agreement with those that dont really want to see men parodying women, it reminds me of minstrels, there's no place for it anymore. Its outdated and not even funny.

SleepyHollowed84 · 03/02/2026 22:00

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 21:55

So according to that logic it would be acceptable to you for the men employed as teacher's, or police men, or any other occupation to dress up as a parody of a woman while doing their everyday jobs?

I mean everyone knows the jokes on women in society isn't it ?

Well obviously not because the job of a policeman is not to entertain, it’s to keep people safe. The job of a teacher isn’t to entertain, it’s to teach.

The job of a performer/actor is to entertain. Drag has been used for centuries (both genders) as a vehicle for entrainment. Look up the history if you don’t understand it.

Are you fundamentally against Shakespeare because men played female characters? Should we ban Hamlet?

Laura95167 · 03/02/2026 22:00

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 21:54

If someone dressed as the gruffalo was reading stories and telling jokes no one would care..

That's a fair point. Are there story time sessions done that way?

So theres sometimes characters at seven stories library in Ouseburn in Newcastle if youre Northern.

I dont know if they read to the kids or just wave at them and take photos. But i think it would be lovely if The Gruffalo read the Gruffalo/Gruffalos child.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:00

Carla786 · 03/02/2026 21:57

I was NOT insulting The Vivienne. My point was about how the media treated him as his petsona when reporting on his tragic death. Using 'she' and 'her' etc. It looks like, ar least judging by what people close to him said, The Vivienne did not actually do this outside of performances.

But his fame came from being The Vivienne. The papers reported the famous death. They did also use James and the right pronouns where needed. But using the gutter press as an example isn't the best

And you are using this thread to slag off the profession that James absolutely adored and relished...

Lily Savage and Paul O'Grady were both famous in their own right, that's why it was different

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 22:01

PortSalutPlease · 03/02/2026 21:56

I really couldn’t care less. If people want to wear a dress then why shouldn’t they. I wear trousers. Do you get angry about Scottish men wearing kilts?

Do you not know the history of the kilt? It has nothing to do with parodying women.
The whole intent of drag is parodying women.

Carla786 · 03/02/2026 22:01

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 03/02/2026 21:58

My kids would have hated that grotesque make up.

Parents should also be concerned which books these men are reading to their kids. It’s generally a vehicle to indoctrinate them into gender ideology.

Yes, it would have scared me, though as pps have said similar stuff like clowns etc is promoted as for children, though many are also scared by that.

Good point re the stories - what stories were read? I don't remember hearing anything specific... the snatches I remember didn't seem to be about gender ..

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:01

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 21:59

Drag queen is not a protected characteristic. The man dressing up as Mama G is a male actor. There is no reason not say "he"

If you are talking about the actor. Yes. But if you are talking about Mama G then it's she...

pinktonyclub · 03/02/2026 22:01

EmmaOvary · 03/02/2026 19:09

Here’s the photo of the offending Dame, I see she’s showing a bit of ankle, oo er

My kids would LOVE this.

berightorbehappy · 03/02/2026 22:02

I think it looks great fun ..why should it be more deep than that ? Bet the kids loved it.

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:03

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 03/02/2026 21:58

My kids would have hated that grotesque make up.

Parents should also be concerned which books these men are reading to their kids. It’s generally a vehicle to indoctrinate them into gender ideology.

Well being as the parents were there... if they felt the book was inappropriate then they remove their child

Ffs some posters make it sound like this was compuslory

Carla786 · 03/02/2026 22:04

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:00

But his fame came from being The Vivienne. The papers reported the famous death. They did also use James and the right pronouns where needed. But using the gutter press as an example isn't the best

And you are using this thread to slag off the profession that James absolutely adored and relished...

Lily Savage and Paul O'Grady were both famous in their own right, that's why it was different

Agree re press differences,but otoh couldn't you say similar re actors famous for a particular character? The press doesn't normally report their obit using the character's name etc, even bad papers.

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PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 22:04

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:01

If you are talking about the actor. Yes. But if you are talking about Mama G then it's she...

Why? I wouldn't refer to (the deeply unfunny) Mrs Brown as "she"

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 22:06

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 22:01

Do you not know the history of the kilt? It has nothing to do with parodying women.
The whole intent of drag is parodying women.

Agree re kilts. Dragging (see what I did there) kilts into this debate is risible regardless of anyone's views on drag queens. I cringed at that post.

Laura95167 · 03/02/2026 22:06

Laura95167 · 03/02/2026 21:57

No. I dont, I remember them cuddling and an episode where she was ill and sweep had a "broken paw" and Sooty and Scampi tucking them all into bed. And the later cartoon ones in early 2000s cuddled i think.

But there wasnt a scandal around Sue Preem as far as im aware of either and that was Matthew in drag.

I dont think drag is a problem. I understand the difference between a transperson and a person in drag and I dont see the issue in letting someone dressing as a character, either recognisable or one they've invented, to entertain kids. If a child's entertainer says inappropriate things or uses adult material that entertainer is a problem and it needs addressing. But I think just assuming they must be inappropriate is unfair.

I would add i was watching this in the 90s and Matthew Corbetts hand puppets cuddling wasnt a problem then.

It might have been a scandal in 1965 but wasnt when I watched.

I do know that the first couple ever shown sharing a bed on TV (oh the scandal) were Fred and Wilma Flintstone in the cartoons

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 22:07

SleepyHollowed84 · 03/02/2026 22:00

Well obviously not because the job of a policeman is not to entertain, it’s to keep people safe. The job of a teacher isn’t to entertain, it’s to teach.

The job of a performer/actor is to entertain. Drag has been used for centuries (both genders) as a vehicle for entrainment. Look up the history if you don’t understand it.

Are you fundamentally against Shakespeare because men played female characters? Should we ban Hamlet?

Traditionally men played female characters because women were barred from being actors. There was a reason for it.
Reading to children in a library isn't "entertainment" : it is educational. To teach the children to enjoy and benefit from books.

JLou08 · 03/02/2026 22:09

"it sounded more like a 'panto dame' style event than anything sexualised"

So not sexualised, panto dame style, like the panto dames children and adults have enjoyed in entertainment for years? Have you had an issue with panto dames in the past or is this post just a hunt for attention because you know MN is big on gender issues?

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:10

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 22:04

Why? I wouldn't refer to (the deeply unfunny) Mrs Brown as "she"

You would though

Because Mrs Brown is a character who uses she/her

Brendan O'Carroll on the other hand...

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 03/02/2026 22:11

Carla786 · 03/02/2026 22:04

Agree re press differences,but otoh couldn't you say similar re actors famous for a particular character? The press doesn't normally report their obit using the character's name etc, even bad papers.

Because they aren't always appearing to the world as that character

The Vivienne was always The Vivienne

Carla786 · 03/02/2026 22:12

CatatonicLadybug · 03/02/2026 21:21

@Carla786 to answer your question about principal boys in panto, they have largely gone because they were largely a way of ogling a young woman on stage. Principal boys would be cast for long legs they could costume with short shorts (or similar) in a time and place when a catcall would be a group activity from the whole audience, and then many of the stories would have that male character (played by a woman) pursue a female character (also played by a woman) and eventually it just got too far removed from popular entertainment and social norms to work. A panto dame doesn’t appear for catcalling and rarely has a romantic element to their plot point - they have a comic role and principal boys do not.

Interesting, thanks for the info.

I agree re principal boys often being a way to ogle. That dates back to the Restoration when cross-dressing plots were kept to objectify actresses, who were generally seem as sexually available.
Peter Pan being played by a woman is similar (though minus the catcalling), I remember reading one critic who noted 'Peter being played by a leggy lady was a none-to-subtle way of ensuring fathers were part of the jolly family outing' 🙄 I think that was also due to difficulties of using child performers for Peter though.

Do performances of Peter Pan still sometimes cast a woman? I personally think the principal boy tradition did at least mean the cross-dressing focus wasn't entirely on the man (pantos seem to focus mainly on the dame now), and couldn't the costume issue be adapted?

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Carla786 · 03/02/2026 22:14

JLou08 · 03/02/2026 22:09

"it sounded more like a 'panto dame' style event than anything sexualised"

So not sexualised, panto dame style, like the panto dames children and adults have enjoyed in entertainment for years? Have you had an issue with panto dames in the past or is this post just a hunt for attention because you know MN is big on gender issues?

My issue is with the drag billing, I thunk that's a slippery slope. He should have billed as panto dame.

I do have smaller quibbles re panto dames but I don't think they're necessarily misogynistic per se so no, I don't have a blanket objection to panto dames.

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Tootsiroll · 03/02/2026 22:14

I had the true pleasure of knowing and working alongside a drag queen, very British style of drag, Widow Twankey meets Kylie Minogue sort of look. This man could sew a frock, style a wig, paint a face, sing a song and crack a joke with the best of them. When he did Story time it was nothing bad, kids loved the colourful dress, big hair and larger than life persona as well as the silly entertainment of it all.

There was no smutty innuendo, overt messages about homosexuality or early indoctrination into the gay scene. The whole thing was a simple message about differences and acceptance in a format kids would find entertaining. There was nothing about girls liking girls or boys liking boys, girls being boys and boys being girls, it was purely about people being different and that being OK.

One thing he was dead set against was any form of adult humor or innuendo. His own words were, "Keep that away from the kiddies". He did the whole story time for a while and really thought he was doing a good thing, he stopped though when there was backlash (not against him personally but the concept as a whole).

SleepyHollowed84 · 03/02/2026 22:14

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 22:07

Traditionally men played female characters because women were barred from being actors. There was a reason for it.
Reading to children in a library isn't "entertainment" : it is educational. To teach the children to enjoy and benefit from books.

Great, I’m glad you know the history.

I feel for your children if you don’t see a storytime session in a library for children as entertaining.

You’re right, books, reading and libraries must be utterly joyless and purely educational. God forbid any of them crack a smile.

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 03/02/2026 22:14

Arlanymor · 03/02/2026 20:27

Victoria Scone. Drag Kings also exist.

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