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Asking for an apology AIBU

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MyLimeRaven · 01/02/2026 13:38

Back in October I nearly died, I stopped breathing and my partner had to do CPR until the ambulance appeared. In the hospital it was discovered I had a very high dose of tramadol, diazepam and PCP!!

No idea where the PCP came from and I had only taken the prescribed dose of the painkillers and diazepam. I was asked if I had taken the tablets intending to kill myself which I hadn't. The doctor wasn't too concerned and said aslong as my oxygen levels stayed up without being on oxygen I could go home the next day. I woke up the next day feeling like absolute crude and had to go back on oxygen as I was sitting at around 85% without it and they discovered I had pneumonia because I had been eating pizza when it all happened and they thinking it must have gone into my lungs.

At lunchtime my partner and I were talking when my social worker walked in. He looked at my partner like he was something he had trod in and snapped he needed to speak to me alone. We went to the day room where another social worker was sitting and he said that someone had made a complaint that my partner tried to kill me and has been controlling me for the last 9 years. I laughed as I thought he was joking but quickly realised he wasn't. He told me that I couldn't go home or that my partner would have to go somewhere else. I told him that that wasn't happening as I wasn't at risk from him in anyway shape or form. He then said that basically I was a silly little girl that was going to end up dead because of this man. Now this social worker has been in my house and has seen how my partner and I are together. My the time this conversation was over my partner had left as he knew from the look that something had been said against him. The police then went to see my partner and ask him what had happened. He gave his account of the day, then they came to see me and obviously our accounts were the same, so the police said their would be no further action as it was an anomaly and it was clear to them that I wasn't in any danger as my partner wasn't controlling or trying to kill me. I got home after the weekend and I was on antibiotics. We got another visit from the police as they wanted me to sign paperwork that they had told me the danger I was in even though 2 days previous the police said I wasn't in danger and he was clear of fault. The social worker then called again to find out why I had gone home with him and reiterating that he was going to kill me and I really needed to go somewhere safe. I asked him not to contact me again as I was sick listening to him say things about my partner that were not true. He contacted me again and I made a complaint to his line manager. Now I have no complaint with him coming to check that I wasn't in danger but the way he looked at my partner then told me not to tell him what he had said to me and to be miscalling him even after the police had done their investigation and we had proved that there were no missing tablets and then to keep contacting me when I have asked him not to. Would I be unreasonable to ask for an apology from him for myself and my partner. My partner has only just started not having a panic attack if people chap the door or he has a car door closing outside the house.

OP posts:
user1471538275 · 01/02/2026 15:23

I think the people who are trying to help you have a clearer idea of what is going on that the select parts you are choosing to give us.

It is clear you have severe issues. I think you need to focus on dealing with those rather than complaining about those helping you.

liamharha · 01/02/2026 15:25

MyLimeRaven · 01/02/2026 13:44

They have genuinely no idea. I only get my medication weekly and it comes in a tray made by the chemist. There were no tablets missing and there were no extras in the house that I could have taken without telling anyone.

But your partner was im the house potentially with the drug and could off administered it you .
Op you seriously need to atleast consider the possibility of why the police and SW are saying

trynnahide · 01/02/2026 16:05

Barrenfieldoffucks · 01/02/2026 14:04

Why do you only get your drugs weekly in a tray? There is so much going on here

It'll be due to previous OD attempts - I suspect that's always why SS are involved......

Op your obviously in a very vulnerable position - please seek further support

lifewillopenup · 01/02/2026 16:06

This thread is terrifying.

I have no idea what has gone on, but know the threshold for social workers' action is quite high.

More men will be drugging female partners systematically than we would ever suspect - they count on not getting caught.

Mo819 · 01/02/2026 18:09

Bloodycrossstitch · 01/02/2026 15:17

Not necessarily. Our GP always does them weekly regardless

Yes but op said in a tray by which I assume she means like a blister pack simmerlar to a weekly pill box with days and times.

dreichluver · 01/02/2026 18:14

You administer your pills from a dispenser you get from the chemist. Despite this you overdosed on Tramadol, Diazepam and 'suspected' PCP and went into cardiac arrest.

Why are you so disinterested in finding out how this happened?

WinterBlues26 · 01/02/2026 18:42

You overdosed.

Either you forgot you had already taken your tablets and double dosed
OR
Your partner poisoned you.

Bloodycrossstitch · 01/02/2026 19:50

Mo819 · 01/02/2026 18:09

Yes but op said in a tray by which I assume she means like a blister pack simmerlar to a weekly pill box with days and times.

Yes, that’s what I mean. I’m actually not sure if it’s down to the gp or the local chemist but you always have to pick your blister pack weekly here

Mo819 · 01/02/2026 20:13

Bloodycrossstitch · 01/02/2026 19:50

Yes, that’s what I mean. I’m actually not sure if it’s down to the gp or the local chemist but you always have to pick your blister pack weekly here

It usually has to be agreed by the gp before being implemented by the chemist.

Ihad2Strokes · 02/02/2026 11:34

Createausername1970 · 01/02/2026 15:08

On his pack there is a label that says what tablets are in there and what they look like. So although the tablets can vary from week to week, they should match the description on the label. It was because there was, for example, a blue oval tablet in the daily pouches, but not one listed on the contents label.

Oh that's really good. Something to keep in mind if it gets anymore difficult! Thank you

Oakcupboard · 02/02/2026 11:45

You probably don’t realise it yet OP, but something doesn’t sound right here. I’d very cautious. I appreciate it’s easier to see looking in rather than out.

Also very telling that he left when the social worker appeared.

Please be very, very careful ❤️

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