To turn down a job when the interviewer talked solidly at me for 1.5 hours

[PeacockPalace]

And wouldn’t let me get a word in edgeways? He is the company owner so I’d be working directly for him.

He literally talked at me for 90 minutes. If I tried to speak he just carried on talking. Even at the end where he asked me if I had any questions, I went to ask a question and he cut in, finished what he thought the question was going to be and carried on talking.

He offered me the job within an hour of finishing the interview but I couldn’t work for someone like that. I’d find it draining and probably never get listened to.

He then emailed me to ask why I’d turned it down and I said I don’t feel that the fit is there for me. So he then emailed me again asking me to elaborate and why isn’t the fit right. I didn’t reply and he’s messaged me another two times in two days asking the same.

AIBU for turning down the job? WIBU to just ignore his emails from now on, as I don’t think he’s the type of person that would value my feedback anyway?

I’ve seen he’s still advertising the job on Indeed so others must have felt the same.

He sounds like the owner of my company. My colleagues 30 minute appraisal was 3.5 hours long. You dodged a bullet there 😂

I mean I’d quite like to get a job without even talking at the interview…😂

He sounds like the guy I previously worked for (see username) - he was a decent person, but OMG could he talk. I wondered if you might have been interviewed by him, but there is no way he would chase anyone afterwards if they turned him down! As far as he is concerned, if you are not absolutely blown away by his superior intellect and business skills then you must be an idiot anyway.

What industry, if you are prepared to say?

I didn't feel I was listened to in the interview so I couldn't take the position as I don't think I would be heard.

Sounds like a complete narcissist.

Oh I'd tell him. Not because I think it'd make any difference to the way he behaves in future, just because it'd probably make me feel better.

Don't pull any punches.

'You monologued at me for 90 minutes. I couldn't get a word in, you spoke over me when I tried. You asked questions, then answered them for me, speaking over me again.
I have declined the role and you have persisted in contacting me despite me making it clear I am not interested.

To be crystal clear - I do not wish to work for you because you have a complete inability to listen to anything but the sound of your own voice and I cannot work with someone I cannot communicate with.'

You should tell him exactly why you dont want the job.

Could you tell him you will work if he doubles the salary and you retain the right to wear ear defenders and he can only speak when he's holding a conch?

‘Thank you for the opportunity to interview. My honest reasons for declining the role are that I found it very difficult to speak during the interview. I felt that you dominated the space and I was unable to answer any questions or discuss the opportunity fully. I’m grateful for you following up but would like to ask that this correspondence ends here. Thank you.‘

I got my current job like this. Was interviewed by someone who talked at me the whole interview. At one point she asked me a question, answered it herself and then told me that was a great response.
I had not owned my mouth 😅

What's the job like now that you're in post?

Definitely fine to turn it down (assuming you're not otherwise on benefits), however if he's really pushing for feedback, I'd tell him! Then ask him to stop contacting you!

Block his emails who would want to get up everyday and work with someone of this personality..
You've responded the first time you don't need to say anything else.
He obviously taken it personal 🤭🤣

I’d tell him why!

Ten to one if OP is honest and tells him why he will deny it.

These types always do, they ask for a reason but they dont really want any reason that paints them in a negative light.

Jokes are meant to be funny

The oestrogen is strong with this one.

Tell him kindly.

This job isn't in west Yorkshire is it 😂

I agree. I would send a one liner.

Well to be blunt I couldn’t get a word in edgeways.

@PeacockPalace Depends solely on what the job pays. I'm fine to be talked at if the pay is good.

What was the pay?

Other people will refuse the job for the same reason. Since he keeps asking, you should tell him exactly why! He may be oblivious.

I took a job once even though every voice in my head was screaming don't take the job!!! But l needed to get out of where l was. Regretted it every single day.

I got in touch with a company that wasn't advertising jobs, but gave them my CV and said I'd be interested in working for them. They phoned and invited me to come in - and proceeded to talk at me for an hour. Ended by saying give us a ring when you get back from holiday to tell us what you think. So I agreed, but didn't know whether I'd got the job or not! A week after getting home from holiday I phoned to be told to turn up on Monday morning and was there for 13 mostly happy years. They just weren't very good at interviewing!