Too late because I’ve done it. You’ll all tell me I’m a terrible mum! Bridgerton.

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Anyone else let their young teens watch Bridgerton with them?

Mine is 13, I’d be kidding myself to pretend she doesn’t know about sex.

She begged me to let her watch the new series as she saw the trailer and it looked so Cinderella-like and she adores history and the costumes. I originally said no as it’s too sexual.

However she works so hard, and we found out this week that she’d won an amazing award through school, and I just thought she’s old enough to work as hard as she does (highly pressured academic school in which she’s thriving - as well as highly achieving in her sport at a national level), more mature than many adults I know, so surely watching it with me there to ensure she knows what’s normal life and what isn’t. How is it any worse than her watching Stranger Things. After all it’s very likely one day she’ll fall in love and have sex - and yet I worry more about her seeing that than seeing violence.

So we’ve both been totally entranced together watching the new episodes. I laugh when she cringes and covers her face during the steamy parts or when I say “he’s got a nice bum”. To have had a couple of hours together last night smiling and keeping everything crossed for a happy ending. It’s been lovely. (Not watched all 4 yet so no spoilers)

I’m awaiting a ton of “you’re a terrible mum” replies. But hoping to be surprised by a couple of people who are in agreement.

Why are you interested in other peoples opinions when you’ve already decided you’re in the right? I feel as though you’re questioning your decision though as you have tried hard to justify it.
I would not let my 13 year old watch it.

I’m right for my child. Yes.

Is there anything 15 rated that you have let your 13 year old know watch? If so, what please?

Strange post half humblebrag half I DARE you to give me a kicking. You make your own decisions regarding your child. 🤷‍♀️

I watched worse when younger! It was the 80s and 90s, we had one telly and four channels - we watched what our parents watched. I remember watching Pretty Woman when I must have been about eight, and asking what the colourful condoms were when she gives Richard Gere the options. I was told something like "never mind, you're too young", and that was that.

Can't see any issue on whether she watches it or not

You seem to have made this a bigger deal than it needs to be. You're enjoying watching television with your child. That's great. No need to be so antagonistic.

Do you not already openly discuss sex with her?

I haven't seen the latest Bridgerton so I can't say if I believe it appropriate or not. I'd definitely be pointing out if their are sex scenes as I assume there will be. That's not how real life sex is at all.

It’s your family.
DD doesn’t like sex scenes. She would feel ill if I made comments on a sexy cute bottom.
I probably wouldn’t like DS watching at 13.

@MightyGoldBear why is that not how real life sex is? I don't find it particularly unrealistic.

Bridgerton is pretty tame, it's all "nice" sex. Nothing violent or disturbing. Of course it's fine. I let my young teen watch Game of Thrones though, so I am probably a terrible mother.

Meh, obviously it’s rude in parts but it’s not massively graphic, is it? Obviously you know your own daughter and how mature she is, but I think if you’re watching it together and you’re open to discussing anything that it brings up (not watched the new series yet but I remember in the first series there was some stuff about consent and trust in relationships etc) that’s fine. She’s probably exposed to much worse at school.

Congratulations to your daughter on her amazing achievement at school 🎊👏🏾.

I would cringed inside out watching that with my mother at 13.

Mine would ring social services if I 'forced' them to watch it being honest.

I think female pleasure being centred and sex needing practice, even when you love each other, is probably quite a radical and refreshing alternative narrative to Only Fans or porn based sex education.

I accidentally took my 11 year old to Marty Supreme last week. I usually check but assumed table tennis plus Timothy Chalamet would be 12. Oh how wrong I was. When we got in the cinema, the 15 certificate came up, then the opening sex scene, then the bath incident and the honey incident...and the dog....

Anyway, he doesn't seem any the worse for the experience and I'm sure he's watched 15s at home.

Would she not be allowed to watch the historical sex if she was a bit dim and not sporty?

@Elderlycatparent002 this! DD14 hasn't expressed interest in watching it tbf but if she did I'd far rather she watched this than the scenes in something like game of thrones.

I've always brought her up with the knowledge that sex should be enjoyable and that BOTH partners pleasure is equally important

YABU to use the term “thriving” about her school performance.

What are the age ratings? I don’t let my 13 year old watch stranger things or Bridgerton and she also gets academic awards and works hard. I just go by the age ratings, keeps the arguments to a minimum. If she likes costumes watch any other costume drama together eg Emma, pride and prejudice, musicals etc.
i don’t think it’s appropriate, sorry.

I wouldn’t let a 13 year old watch it.

So if my son gets 4 A*s should I get him a subscription to PornHub?

Of course you're not a terrible mum! There is nothing wrong with this at all. She's 13 of course none of this is news to her.. you can only imagine what she hears in school 😬

It's a lovely bonding experience. Enjoy!

It’s only ok as she’s achieving so well academically and in sport. Definitely not ok if she were in bottom sets.

I don’t really see the big deal. This isn’t what I would call “terrible mum” behaviour . I would have died of embarrassment watching that with my mum though