Too late because I’ve done it. You’ll all tell me I’m a terrible mum! Bridgerton.

[BridgertonBadMum]

Anyone else let their young teens watch Bridgerton with them?

Mine is 13, I’d be kidding myself to pretend she doesn’t know about sex.

She begged me to let her watch the new series as she saw the trailer and it looked so Cinderella-like and she adores history and the costumes. I originally said no as it’s too sexual.

However she works so hard, and we found out this week that she’d won an amazing award through school, and I just thought she’s old enough to work as hard as she does (highly pressured academic school in which she’s thriving - as well as highly achieving in her sport at a national level), more mature than many adults I know, so surely watching it with me there to ensure she knows what’s normal life and what isn’t. How is it any worse than her watching Stranger Things. After all it’s very likely one day she’ll fall in love and have sex - and yet I worry more about her seeing that than seeing violence.

So we’ve both been totally entranced together watching the new episodes. I laugh when she cringes and covers her face during the steamy parts or when I say “he’s got a nice bum”. To have had a couple of hours together last night smiling and keeping everything crossed for a happy ending. It’s been lovely. (Not watched all 4 yet so no spoilers)

I’m awaiting a ton of “you’re a terrible mum” replies. But hoping to be surprised by a couple of people who are in agreement.

I feel a bit sorry for tweens these days. They want romance and fairytales, but "spice" has taken over everything and is getting harder and harder to avoid. Kids try hard to seem cool with sexual content at that age, but it's often a front. I can't imagine how uncomfortable they really are with some of it.

Sometimes I see younger people worrying about being "asexual" or "a prude" because they want a love story without explicit sex scenes, and I feel sad for them. It's like they don't know that used to be perfectly normal. Not everything needs fanfiction levels of smut in it! Sometimes less is more.

I'm not anti sex scene, but fatigue is definitely setting in. We need to bring back the good old fade to black. Some romances where gymnastic sex is not the literal climax of the plot? Maybe? Just mix it up a little! I wouldn't feel comfortable watching Bridgerton with my mum or a thirteen year old.

the guy was fingering the maid in the last episode. Why would you let your daughter watch that

totally agree. the stuff I watched with my mum

I think season one was dodgier in the sex department. Episode 4 has a sex scene that might make you cringe though Op. Look out for that.

Apparently that’s very vanilla and boring and completely fine for a 13 year old. Beginning to wonder if this tread is weird or whether my DD is the odd one because she’s never shown any interest in things like this and I’m very glad.

You do you! 🤦‍♀️

YANBU. I was allowed to watch anything I wanted from the age of about 12 or so. We treat children like babies in this country, it is absurd.

It’s Bridgerton, not Two Girls One Cup. It’s fine FFS.

People on this thread are talking about a teenager as if she’s 5. “She won’t understand it’s not real”??? Of course she will, because she’s 13 and aware of the concept of fiction. Jeez.

Quite agree. It’s so inappropriate from a parent who is always in a position of power. You are not equals.

I was just going to say the same, brigerton is incredibly tame and if people think their kids haven't heard much worse in school, they are deluding themselves.

My parents were quite strict about this stuff and had a whole list of things I couldn't watch, I definitely managed to watch them all anyway. So no, I see nothing wrong with letting your kids watch game of thrones, if they want to watch it they will anyway.

Sorry OP, you commenting on his bum would be my red line too. My DD would be running for the hills if I commented like that 😂😂 In fairness my DM sometimes makes comments to me about attractive men and it still makes me want to die from the inside out 😂😂

I do get the need to break up the awkwardness with your DD though. When there have been awkward scenes in anything we’ve been watching we’d make comments like “oh god they’re at it again!” Anything to make it a bit daft and non-sexual really.

My DC are both a bit older - they’re 16 - but they’re both autistic with pretty high care needs. So they’re quite young for their age. They both refuse categorically to watch anything with the slightest sexual content. Nudity is fine - they’re not really bothered by naked bodies - but for some reason they are REALLY bothered by seeing anything vaguely sexual.

DD will hide her face in a pillow or groan - I’m not talking sex scenes either, just a bit of kissing.

DS approaches it differently - he shouts “KISSY-KISSY!!” at the TV screen 😂😂

I think it’s fine to sometimes disregard the age ratings. You know your child. You know what’s right for them.

Two Girls One Cup! What a blast from the past! 😂

A friends mum took her and her twin to see Rent when they were 8 so I reckon you're not so bad 😬

I don't see anything awful about Bridgerton.

Do you find that you often make social faux pas @BridgertonBadMum ?

I haven't RTFT because I can see people have been arguing about fuck all, but I don't think you're a bad mum. We judge our own kids and asses what is appropriate and what they can handle. At my daughter's age I couldn't handle Jaws, whereas she found it very easy to take and quite cartoonish and didn't end up with the same lifelong jumpiness about sharks despite living in the middle of a city as I did 😅

She's 10 and I've just allowed her to watch Stranger Things on the proviso that I will stop it is I think it's too much. I have found some of it OTT and I am sick of some of the human on human violence as I usually am, but she's doing a good job of intercepting a lot of those scenes herself and looking away. Much of it she finds more cartoonish like Jaws thanks to the 80s vibe which is good. She pretends not to look at the smoochy scenes but I don't make too big a deal of it as I know these are some of the interactions she's interested in at her age. I wouldn't let her watch full on sex scenes. I know other parents wouldn't let their child watch it at all and that's just life. We don't make the same decisions for different children.