To have a secret snack drawer

[Dolly34]

There’s a drawer in our kitchen that I know my husband never looks in. I bought some chocolate to bake with the other day and hid it in this draw so he wouldn’t find it and eat it before I baked. Since then, I’ve bought a big dairy milk caramel bar and left it in there for when I want to pick at it.
It’s been in there over a week, and I know if it was anywhere else, my DH would have inhaled it.

Today, I bought a pack of chocolate hobnobs and put them in the draw - again so I can pick at at my leisure when working from
home.

AIBU by hiding food from my husband to keep for myself?

(some extra context that I’ve been going through IVF this month and just want a stash for when I need it, rather than going to get something and it’s disappeared!)

• [Note from MNHQ: We've edited the typo in the title and the opening post, just so the thread doesn't (continue!) to get derailed by people pointing it out... Give the OP a break!]

It's a slightly longer vowel isn't it? Even if you don't do the rhotic thing.

To be fair, lots of words are spelt differently to how they are pronounced.

I think it's pretty normal to have a secret stash of chocolate and sweets, mine's beside my bed in my knicker drawer, hidden 😂. I hide the wrappers in their too, until I can safely bin them. I think part of the appeal is that it's secret! I love going to bed early with a coffee, my tablet, and my goodies drawer 🤣. Good luck with the IVF, the choccies will help you relax, and you deserve a little bit of what you fancy 😉💐

It's draw with a very quick schwa on the end.
Draw-(uh).

It’s not rhotic, though is it? Just an -er at the end and is pronounced draw-er and mispronounced (and misspelled) draw.

I pronounce it DRAW-uhs (the uhs is very short). Maybe I am the only one?

YANBU about the secret snacks though.

Draw and drawer sound the same to me. And I presume for the majority. It must be hard for such a lighthearted post to be so misunderstood.

OP you are DNBU - I can't even hide it from myself

Good luck with ivf. I did 5 rounds to get mini blondes

and yes needs must to have a snack drawer that is yours and yours alone

I love the idea that secretly you draw a winner for a snack every day.

I've got lots of secret places for chocolate and snacks, sometimes so secret I have much joy coming across them months later. My partner is diabetic with a sweet tooth so I hide and eat on the sly so I don't have to give him any. He does perfectly well buying his is own forbidden foods.

I have also had to hide things like tinned rice pudding because the very time I fancy something you can guarantee the selfish, greedy so and so has got there first.

X-posted. I’d never heard of a schwa, thanks for sharing that.

I still can't get my head around the spelling of character.

There are few things worse than wanting a treat to find it has been snaffled. Definitely the right thing to do. The worse thing is my DH does not have a sweet tooth but will occasionally eat my favourites. Worse is when he says he does not like something but eats it anyway. My treats are hidden in plain sight in a biscuit tin in the pantry.

I have to regularly move my secret stash as they find it! I always have a secret stash

Totally normal for me. Otherwise it’d be gone before I knew it.

Ooooh good idea! I’m going to start a secret stash drawer tomorrow!

Yep. A secret snack draw would be a raffle or some such held in private.

i don’t have a secret drawer but I should, because when I’m out ocassionally he can eat an entire chocolate or pack of biscuits (a large Tomblerone once). It upsets me, I would never eat something without sharing with him, especially not something he bought for himself. Men!!!

Yup. It seems to be those who spell it incorrectly also pronounce it incorrectly.

Nobody completely misses the er sound at the end if they know it's there, regardless of dialect.

I spell it drawer but pronounce it draw - but paw pour and pore all sound the same here too.

Anyway, nothing wrong with having your own snack drawer, but it's really sad (no sarcasm) that you actually gave this thought even a moment's space in your mind.

You are allowed to have snacks that last more than an hour, a day, a week whatever you like. Even if he was not being greedy and thoughtless (and he is) it's fine to have a few things that are just yours.

I can 100 guarantee (and would bet good money on it) that your greedy, thoughtless dh would not think twice about grabbing, hiding or guzzling anything of yours or ever question whether he was allowed his own small stash of biscuits.

Hobknobs are awful though, just sayin' (and thus began the great biscuit wars of 2026).

No, don't, it's misleading. I thought this thread was about a draw (as in a raffle) for a secret snack, which would be a very good idea.

Ok, so you're just deliberately pronouncing it in the way you prefer.

You don't say blow when you mean blower, and you know drawer sounds different to draw, and you can hear the difference, but are choosing to say draw instead of drawer.

Which is fine, we can speak any way we want to, provided we can communicate with one another.

Maybe eventually the word will permutate to drawer, but for now it's drawer, and I will keep saying drawer as the difference is noticeable in all dialects.

And you can choose deliberately to say draw when you mean drawer. No big deal.

Beat me to it

I admit it bugs me as, honestly, it looks like they're a bit thick. As we know, draw is a completely different word from drawer. It's not like a spelling or grammar error, it's just incorrect. But oh well, maybe the word will, over time, become draw instead of drawer.