To ask if you’ve lived alone did you struggle

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Or not

I live alone. I have a DP, but I would be worse off if he lived with me as I am on UC, and that is how the system works. Before anyone jumps on me, we don't want to live together anyway.
But I manage. I have the whole T-shirt regarding living with a man. Never again.

This post made me laugh with recognition! 😂

I don’t know if you’re on Instagram or YouTube but there’s a content creator called “Lana’s solo life” who posts these lovely short videos about being “a single childfree young woman with no friends living alone”. She gets so many people of all ages commenting how they wish for or miss that life. Not so much the no friends part, but more the living alone element .

Divorced 2 years ago and yes definitely struggling. I haven't got anywhere permanent to live yet though and I wonder if that's got a lot to do with it. Adult DD lives me but does her own thing a lot, so I do feel quite "alone". Just not sure why though? Obviously other stuff messing with my head. Really brings it home to me reading how many people here (presuming all women) are saying they are fine with living alone, so surely I should be too?

Are you going to give us your take on it OP?

I love it and would struggle to live with someone else full-time but it can be difficult when something goes wrong and I'm the only one here to try and fix it.

Or when there's a spider. I'm bloody terrified of them and they never crop up when my friend who doesn't mind spiders is here, they only come out when I'm alone 😂

Financially it's also okay. The good definitely outweighs the bad and I love having my own space!!

Not to be pedantic but if you live with your child you don’t live alone.

Being lonely or “feeling alone” isn’t quite the same as living alone - when you don't actually live alone.

I’ve not lived alone at any time. Just me and DH now retired. Most of my life 5 or 6 in the house. I’ve always thought living alone would be good.

Yes. The spiders aaargh! I’m strategically very friendly with my neighbour and her husband. lol

Seriously though I am not friendly with them for that reason, but it’s at the back of my mind that I could maybe call on them to defeat an 8 legged enemy, since I do have the woman round for tea occasionally.

I live alone. The best bits of my life are spent alone. Other people, while lovely at times, are stressful.

When you say “struggle”, do you mean financially or in terms of solitude? I loved living alone - but it is more costly.

I have lived alone for the majority of my adult life.
I never thought of it as a struggle. There are things I might have done differently, though.
How old are you?

I lived on my own for about 10 years, mid 20s to mid 30s and bloody loved it

I broke a toe after 8 months of living in my current home. It wasn’t even done moving furniture as i got a handyman in for all that. So i guess for me it could have happened anywhere living alone or not - I was just walking past a stool in my bedroom 😣 worst pain ever!!

I've lived alone for most of my life and wouldn't be able to bear someone else sharing my house, for anything more than brief visits.

I manage well enough with the help of tradesmen, gardener etc. Can't say I'm terribly happy these days, but I'd be even less so if I had to cope with someone else all the time.

In my 20s I mostly lived alone due to relocating a couple of times with work. There was a spell when I found weekends quite long and I had to work hard to build a social life.
I’ve been married a long time and love him to bits, but would survive my myself if anything happened to him.

Financially, being single and living alone is very expensive, but I don't miss living with a person.

I loved it, had a new build one bed flat just me and my cat, everything exactly where I left it, no one else to think about. I was pretty suicidal so not lacking in company or things to do, but cherished some time purely to myself too.

No

No. I’ve lived alone at various ages and for varied amounts of time, and I’ve always loved it.

I have a thingy to open jars. It was the first thing I bought after my divorce.

Do you mean social? 😲🤣

😂 yes I meant social!!!!

I hated the lack of privacy of living with my parents and sister in a tiny 2 up 2 down. Apart from a very short period when I was married I have lived alone. I was not made to live comunally and would never wish to live with another person again. I dont even like staying with people or having them stay. I regard this as a strength rather than a weakness, I am not part of a pair. I am complete within myself. I also have a much lower carbon footprint. Single person households are 29.5% of all households. However we get a pretty shitty deal on council tax because we are subsidising families.

I did not struggle emotionally one bit. Loved it. Financially harder though.

I hate it. I struggle financially despite being on a decent salary, and I am deeply lonely.

I am envious of everyone who loves living alone - I really wish that’s how I felt. I like having the bed to myself, but that’s about it.