To ask would you assume if someone didn’t have a child at 30

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They were unlikely to be a mum

No, I think that's still pretty young.
There is some statistic that's been quoted recently and widely that if a woman doesn't have a child by around 30 it's 50/50 whether she will have children at all. I've heard that and don't know if it's accurate. Even if it was, it may not be accurate now or in the future. Is it that you are referring to OP?
I also remember reading that in the years before the NHS was founded, one in five first-time mums were 35+.
Maybe I'm a bit unusual because despite the fact me and DH got together in our early/mid twenties, we only decided to start trying when I was 34 and he was 33.
I've got to be honest and say that I really never had anyone saying, 'Are you going to have kids?' So never felt judged. Perhaps most people thought I was younger than my age as I did look very youthful in my early 30s. Maybe not so much post kids 😂

everyone in my social Circle STARTED having kids in their 30s.

I would think it’s none of my business

No? I’d probably think that they’re a responsible adult who is waiting until the right time in their life/career/finances/relationship before having a child. These days I’d consider anything under 25 very young to have a child and under 30 is still quite unusual. I myself was a first time mum at 35. DD (21) is determined that she doesn’t want kids until she hits 30. Wants to focus on her career & travelling first - I think she’s totally right!

More of my peers had dc in their 40s than 20s

No.

I would think that anyone saying that was seriously uninformed because in the uk about half of first time mothers are over 30so it is really common.

No. Of course not.

Don’t be ridiculous, OP.

I really think I looked my most haggard 4-6 months after DS was born…

I’m 30 and no one in my social circle is even married yet. It would have been heavily side-eyed to be married before 30 and looked down upon/a minor scandal to have children before then. It’s just not done. Education and career first, then marriage and children. My parents were the same (had me in their 40s) and my grandparents as well (37 when my mum was born, 42 when my dad was born).

Well by definition if they don’t have a child they’re not a mum, no unlikely about it!

…however, if you’re suggesting they’re unlikely to ever become one, I’d question whether you’ve recently gone outside. Very few people I know have become parents pre-30.

Probably best not to if they're asking this question...

Absolutely not.
40 possibly but lots of people still fall pregnant in their 40s its just a bit less likely.
But 30 is ridiculous. Most people I know with kids only started having them in their 30s

DS and DIL became parents at 30. However, they'd been together fourteen years, married two. They have no outstanding student loans because he went the apprenticeship route and she jouned her very successful family business after completing The International Baccalaureate. They bought their first home aged 23.
I still think it's young. They're very much the outliers in theirs friend groups but planned everything meticulously.

No I don’t think it’s too late at all. I think you can find pros and cons to having children in your 20/30/40s, it’s an individual thing.

I do remember a couple of friends freaking out a bit about turning 30 and being single, not married, no kids because it felt like a milestone and didn’t fit with the timeline they’d imagined. But in reality (and with hindsight) it all turned out fine.

Are you concerned about this yourself or is it solely family pressure?

I am :38 and pregnant for first time
fell pregnant first time i had unprotected sex
currently 31 weeks

Given the average age for women to start a family is higher than that in the UK, I'd have to be pretty dumb to think this.

I had my daughter at 37.

All of my close friends bar 1 were over 30 when they had their first child.

I'm in my sixties and I still don't look "haggard".

There's something to look forward to!

No.

Erm.

No, I wouldn’t think this.

hth

In my experience most people don’t have kids until they are in their thirties.

Definitely not. I met my husband as a teen and we always intended on having a child but we weren't ready to try until I was 30. I got pregnant straight away at 30 and gave birth at 31. These days it's a very average age to have your first child!