Dads using female communal changing room

[Strawberrryfields]

Not sure how I feel about this so looking for opinions and whether I should do anything.

A couple of times recently I’ve been changing my child after swimming and a dad has come in to change his child in the communal female changing room. It’s after lessons so only children changing. There are communal female, communal male and a number of individual cubicles. It gets very busy at peak times so at times you may need to wait for an individual cubicle.

It feels weird to me a grown man being in there and my instinct is that he should use the private cubicles, though he is clearly there with his child helping them get ready. I also understand him not wanting to take his child into the men’s communal changing rooms with random men in there but to me, he is a random man.

Should I say something? Would you? Chances are it’s just a normal dad changing his kid but I don’t feel entirely comfortable with it but not sure if IABU?

You know. I asked someone not to tag me. And said I’d no interest in interacting with them.

and they still couldn’t keep my name out their mouth. With their “your friend”.

Let me be clear @Alex122022 keep my name out your mouth. Don’t tag me. Don’t refer to me.

I don’t want to interact with you or have you mention me any more.

the word is no Alex.

Respect it.

Astounded that I had to type this.

Oooh love a good bit of DARVO. So reminds me of the last person who tried to convince me men belonged in female spaces. At least you can’t physically assault me so there’s that. I’ll just accept you can’t name any third sex and reiterate no males belong in female spaces, however many young girls or babies they are accompanied by.

He won't because he knows it annoys you to tag you. So he'll deliberately persist. He's actively targeting you.

(And I'm happy to be proved wrong on this one because it means he's no longer doing it after you have asked twice. If I'm right he shows himself as actively harassing you).

Let’s see.

I have my suspicions but I’d be more than happy to be proven wrong.

Oh FFS you lot give over. It takes more than one to properly derail a thread. It’s now turned into ‘will a certain poster mention another certain poster’. Take it somewhere else.

I did not tag you and deliberately did not name you - but it is impossible not to refer to someone who said something if this is a topic of discussion.

You participate voluntarily in a public forum - so you need to accept that people read you and refer to you.

I did not tag anyone - just stop lying. Accusing me of targeting anyone deliberately is rather slanderous.

Well that will tell everyone all they need to know.

shame. But there we are.

You did tag me. That’s what quoting does.

And it’s definitely not slanderous. And it would be libel anyway. If it was. Which it’s not.

It’s like watching kids squabbling in a playground isn’t it 😂

There is a very easy way not to be "tagged": don't tag me.

I have not even mentioned you - just referred to you. You have decided to take offence and tag me - and then complain that I reply? I'm sorry - this is too complicated for me.

But perhaps let me explain: if you ask someone a direct question, most people assume you expect a reply. And if you post in a public form, you have - unfortunately - deal with the fact that someone might respond to you.

You tagged me by quoting me. That is how quoting someone works.

please don’t do so again.
Please don’t refer to me. You referred to me as a “friend” - I know no one here.

keep my name out of your mouth. Don’t refer to me.

the word is no.

the fact you cannot respect it is telling.

once again, I am asking you not to tag me, not to quote me and not to refer to me.

thank you.

Will you do the same?

I already said I would and if you hadn’t made a point of referring to me, I wouldn’t have come back.

when I did, I didn’t tag or quote you.

you do realise that people get an email when they are tagged or quoted don’t you?

I only quoted you (latterly) when you quoted me. Why did you do that when I’d already asked you not to?

when I did, I didn’t tag or quote you.

Why do you lie?

A screenshot ...

Where did I tag you? After I’d had to ask you for the SECOND time to keep my name out your mouth where did I tag you?

ive added a screenshot which might take time to be approved.

That was me asking you a second time.

I’ve screenshot and added it to my post above.

You tagged me 15:35 - your screenshot is from 15:56.

Yes. I tagged you in a post asking you for the second time to keep my name out your mouth after you didn’t respect my no the first time.

the fact that you struggle so much with a woman telling you no is concerning.

We're getting a few reports about this thread and can see it's in danger of being derailed. Can we stick to the topic please and get it back on track.

Yet another man who can’t stop himself when a woman says no 🤷🏻‍♀️

I responded to the post where you tagged me - nothing else.

You asked me not to tag you - I didn't.

Indeed, I have deliberately avoided referring to you by name - but the context of the post did require to refer to someone who made a statement. Do you imply that you even wish that I do not refer to any statements or accusations you made?

The man actually stopped - until he was told off for stopping ...

And then tries DARVO and tantrumming when he’s told no. The thing that annoys me about men bringing their young daughters into debate changing rooms is they don’t want their daughter to change around men, but seem to not realise them being in the changing room means other people’s daughters have to change around men. It’s like they can’t connect the dots.