To ask if you grew up in a clean and tidy home?

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Apparently your more likely to be clean and tidy if you were.

Yes and it drove me insane, not allowed to lie in because we’d make a mess if we made our own breakfast (despite the fact I was actually working from aged 13 in a pub restaurant!).
I still can’t lie in to this day!
Our house is messy and cluttered and we just about keep a decent level of cleanliness but it’s often wanting.
The clutter is unreal but I now know I have ADHD so find this really tough to tackle and have been the same all my life. I wish I wasn’t like this. Have tried everything.

I’d say my house was mediocre growing up. It certainly wasn’t hazardous but it was sometimes cluttered and messy and sometimes a bit grubby. Then it would get a blitz to sort it out. We had a cleaner on and off over the years.

Single parent teacher, so worked evening and weekends sometimes marking and planning. It was a struggle to keep on top of it all the time I think. It was better when we were a bit older and could do more to help.

i’m similar in that I’ll let it go due to business and it gets a bit messy etc. then will blitz and stay on it for a while then it slips etc.

DH grew up in a very tidy home and he likes to keep a very tidy home too. He is far more proactive about keeping on top of cleaning and tidying - he notices it sooner and it bothers him more.

Of course it isn't.

Mine too.

Our house was spotless. I'm clean and tidy, but not to the same level that my mother is!

Routine of doing things, yes- clean and tidy; no. House suffered with damp, drafts, disrepair, inadequate for the family.
By comparison I live in paradise and we are clean but not always tidy.

Yes! And mine is a shit tip. Huh!

Tidy enough
And tidy enough
I would love to be super organised and have an immaculate home
Never gunna happen tho
Maybe when the kids grow up

Yes, both my parent were equally manic about cleaning and organisation. It’s hard with a toddler but I try really hard to keep things clean and organised, which essentially means I just clean and tidy constantly! It’s a huge effort to keep it this way but it makes me feel calmer.

Yes and mine is also clean and tidy. That said it only gets dusted weekly unlike my mums which was daily!

growing up my mum was obsessively clean and tidy and still is. I prefer a much more relaxed and welcoming environment and less uptight. Im not squidgeeing my shower to remove all water like i was taught. Its a shower its meant to get wet!!

I grew up in a messy home bordering on hoarding.
My house is always clean and tidy - I don't want to live like that.
My daughter, however, takes after my parents!

My mother's house was spotless when I was growing up. My house was very tidy pre-kids. It's now generally clean and tidy but nothing like my mother's and I always put time with the kids first.

My memories of my mother are of her always being busy. Go for a quick hug. "I'm busy." "I'm in the middle of something."

The housework always came first. I'll play a game after I've done the housework. I'll come with you and the kids to the park after I've done the housework.

The big clean was on Saturday morning. She didn't go out to work. Why choose Saturday morning when you could choose Friday and focus on time with the kids in the weekend?

I decided I wasn't going to be like that. My kids need a hug, they get it.

I didn't and now I am a minimalist, and cannot have much in my house as it causes anxiety.

Mum and dad always have books letters newspaper general crap everywhere. Seeing the mess in the kitchen just from making a simple lunch gives me the heebie jeebies . My house is better than the one i grew up in but i dont understand how anyone keeps their house spotless unless the entire family are on board. Tidying everyone’s clutter , cleaning and dusting every day is beyond boring but i do aspire to do better !

I did, but it was obsessive and I rarely saw my mum and she was never in the same room as us, we were sent off to play outside or upstairs. So in my home I do little bits of tidying through the day, we are messy but it’s clean.

Yup same here!

No, I grew up in an absolute shit hole, three bedroom house, two adults, five kids and three border collies, no central heating, house was always cold, damp and grotty, washing was dried on a pulley maiden thing off the living room ceiling. I absolutely hated it, never had friends round as I was embarrassed. When I moved into my first house I developed OCD postnatally, my house was immaculate but it was ridiculous. Now my house is clean and tidy because if it isn't it reminds me of the hole I grew up in and I hate it and would hate for my children to have to grow up in an environment like that.

I did not. It wasn’t dirty, just a bit messy.
My home now isn’t great, but it is probably a bit tidier. I would love it it be properly tidy, but I never have time to clean or organise anything 😫

Grew up in a very clean and tidy house. I'm actually worse than my mother. I can't sit down for longer than 2 minutes before I start cleaning or doing something. I've definitely got an issue. I have a cleaner although I do not need one. It takes the stress off me. I used to do a deep clean of the entire house every Thursday after work. Took me 5 hours, even though the house was already clean, anyone walking in would ask why I'm cleaning an already clean house. My friend know I'm an utter clean freak. I've even got a dog and the minute she gets more than one toy out I put one toy back in. God knows what I'll be like when I have a child!

Grew up in a very clean and tidy house. I'm actually worse than my mother. I can't sit down for longer than 2 minutes before I start cleaning or doing something. I've definitely got an issue. I have a cleaner although I do not need one. It takes the stress off me. I used to do a deep clean of the entire house every Thursday after work. Took me 5 hours, even though the house was already clean, anyone walking in would ask why I'm cleaning an already clean house. My friend know I'm an utter clean freak. I've even got a dog and the minute she gets more than one toy out I put one toy back in. God knows what I'll be like when I have a child!

tidy home growing up but always with a room of horrors where piles of bags and boxes kept that needs sorting and I’m similar now - lots of mess and clean laundry in one room only

And to add - my brother is the bipolar opposite to both myself and our mother. Messy and dirty. I visited him a few months ago and I was disgusted empty toilet rolls all over the bathroom floor, milk that was 3 months old left in the fridge... you get the jist. I mean his car floor was piled high with McDonald's and you couldn't see it. Not sure why he's like that

Not particularly messy but unclean, both parents were chain smokers so cigarette bitts everywhere, ashtrays overflowing, lots of pet hair, general grime, people walked on carpets with shoes. I remember my DF painting over the dark yellow stained walls with white paint. I thought everyone’s walls were like that. We weren’t allowed the heating on so it smelled damp, white furry mould on my bedroom walls we’d pick off, wallpaper peeling off, mould would get on your clothes in the wardrobe too. Oh and we used to write on the condensation on the windows that would freeze in the winter.

I have pets but I mop my floors almost daily, I hate smoking and wearing shoes inside.

I did not, and I couldn't bear the mess and clutter. My house is clean and tidy