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Sorry long post alert - misled by landlord..

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SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

OP posts:
Zillyzillyzillymouse · 20/01/2026 10:26

I’m so sorry to read this and yes it’s deeply unfair. However, legally, your landlord can evict you, in terms of your actual contract.

Many landlords are selling up and moving on from the rental market, due to major changes in the law. The law is changing in favour of tenants, which may help you in the future.

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:29

To add
some of the work that needed to be carried out since we moved in included:

  • We were without a working boiler for five days due to a broken seal. During this time there was back-and-forth between the landlord and the engineer about responsibility, which delayed the repair.
  • Within days of moving in, we noticed watermarks on the ceiling, which turned out to require a full roof replacement.
  • This meant scaffolding erected at the back of the house, so the children couldn’t use the garden.
  • The work took around a week, during which my bedroom (directly beneath a flat roof) was extremely noisy all day, making it very difficult to rest, especially given my health conditions.
OP posts:
shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:33

Unfortunately you don’t have a leg to stand on. Legally can evict you they’ve been very clever putting that in the tenancy and then misleading you verbally.

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:34

I would explain to the LL that you have no funds to move inwhich case they would need to go through court & send baliffs which can take over a year and be very costly at the expense of the LL. They may offer to give you some money to get you out quicker, some LLs do this.

Jellybunny56 · 20/01/2026 10:36

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:34

I would explain to the LL that you have no funds to move inwhich case they would need to go through court & send baliffs which can take over a year and be very costly at the expense of the LL. They may offer to give you some money to get you out quicker, some LLs do this.

If OP wants to be unable to ever secure a tenancy again with that kind of stain on her record then yeah sure, otherwise this is bad advice.

It’s unfair OP but it’s absolutely legal and so you have no come back here. All you can do is plan to move.

Muddywelliescleansocks · 20/01/2026 10:40

It’s unfortunate, but people’s circumstances change. That’s the risk you take when you rent. The flip side is when anything goes wrong with the property the landlord has to find money to repair it no matter their finances at the time. It’s clearly irritating and stressful but it’s part of being an adult with a family and needing to provide a roof over the head of your family.

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 10:41

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.
This constant chasing is very likely the real reason. Landlords don’t really like being bugged constantly about issues. You have to pick your battles.

Zillyzillyzillymouse · 20/01/2026 10:41

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:34

I would explain to the LL that you have no funds to move inwhich case they would need to go through court & send baliffs which can take over a year and be very costly at the expense of the LL. They may offer to give you some money to get you out quicker, some LLs do this.

This is terrible advice. @SeenItAllMostly does not want this on her tenancy record.

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 10:44

Bloody hell you made them pay for a new roof then complained about noise and that the kids couldn’t use the garden for a week?!?! That’s record time for a roof replacement! I’m sorry you need to find a new place but you sound like a nightmare.

TikTokker · 20/01/2026 10:44

You don’t have any options regard to the tenancy. It’s fucking shit. I’m so sorry.

BadgernTheGarden · 20/01/2026 10:47

Your contract says you have to move out and the contract you signed is the only thing that matters in law, who said what to whom, is irrelevant if it didn't get into the contract. ( Been caught like that for work, the contract says this or that but don't worry we will work around it, trust me, and 5 minutes later you have to stick to every detail in the contract. Never again!)

Whether you can claim compensation for other problems with the property is a totally different thing.

Focussingonme · 20/01/2026 10:47

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:34

I would explain to the LL that you have no funds to move inwhich case they would need to go through court & send baliffs which can take over a year and be very costly at the expense of the LL. They may offer to give you some money to get you out quicker, some LLs do this.

And this is exactly why landlords are selling up. Everything is becoming impossible to manage and terrible advice like this doesn't help. All you will do is forfeit your reference and then not be able to get another rental if you do this.

I am a landlord, a good one, but the changes to the tax system make it so difficult to navigate and as a result we will very likely be selling in the summer. Our tenants moved in last August and have no idea. It is what it is, that's the risk you take when you rent.

It is awful, but they are running a business not a charity and so you have to leave as per the contract.

So many tenants say all the right things to secure the rental "I want to stay here 5 years" means nothing from either party. Really you should have challenged when they asked for the 4 month break clause as like you said it's unusual and would have set off alarm bells.

You don't have any recourse, it is what it is unfortunately.

If you are paying £3k a month in rent, can you really mto afford to buy though? Perhaps some financial advice from a mortgage advisor would be helpful to try and avoid this happening again and give you the stability you need?

Namechangetheyarewatching · 20/01/2026 10:49

I would go to the council and sit tight until they evict you.

Wapentake · 20/01/2026 10:49

Muddywelliescleansocks · 20/01/2026 10:40

It’s unfortunate, but people’s circumstances change. That’s the risk you take when you rent. The flip side is when anything goes wrong with the property the landlord has to find money to repair it no matter their finances at the time. It’s clearly irritating and stressful but it’s part of being an adult with a family and needing to provide a roof over the head of your family.

Exactly. When we rented, we always made it clear we wanted a long term situation, but it literally never happened in five different instances of renting. In one case, changed circumstances meant our landlord needed to move back home from abroad, in another, the owners put the house up for sale. In another, Covid meant their job elsewhere no longer existed, so they needed their house back.

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:50

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 10:44

Bloody hell you made them pay for a new roof then complained about noise and that the kids couldn’t use the garden for a week?!?! That’s record time for a roof replacement! I’m sorry you need to find a new place but you sound like a nightmare.

No I didn’t complain about the noise or the garden to the landlords obviously I’m just putting this out there on my post. The house is lovely and was newly painted white so the brown ceiling marks were very concerning appearing few days after moving in. So knew it needed work. We couldn’t have left this and potentially damaged the property for not having remedial work done

OP posts:
Morepositivemum · 20/01/2026 10:51

Horribly unfair and I’m so so sorry because 4 months is terrible but to be fair his daughter will have to live somewhere, there’s nobody in the world that wouldn’t give their property for their child in the face of divorce. Leave on your terms though, find the right place first

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:53

Focussingonme · 20/01/2026 10:47

And this is exactly why landlords are selling up. Everything is becoming impossible to manage and terrible advice like this doesn't help. All you will do is forfeit your reference and then not be able to get another rental if you do this.

I am a landlord, a good one, but the changes to the tax system make it so difficult to navigate and as a result we will very likely be selling in the summer. Our tenants moved in last August and have no idea. It is what it is, that's the risk you take when you rent.

It is awful, but they are running a business not a charity and so you have to leave as per the contract.

So many tenants say all the right things to secure the rental "I want to stay here 5 years" means nothing from either party. Really you should have challenged when they asked for the 4 month break clause as like you said it's unusual and would have set off alarm bells.

You don't have any recourse, it is what it is unfortunately.

If you are paying £3k a month in rent, can you really mto afford to buy though? Perhaps some financial advice from a mortgage advisor would be helpful to try and avoid this happening again and give you the stability you need?

Would have really benefited from talking. To a mortgage advisor before we invested all our money back into a project. Lesson learned I think we need to rent again and then when we manage to get some money back from work then can try for a mortgage then. Just all fallen at the wrong time unfortunately for us.

OP posts:
Passaggressfedup · 20/01/2026 10:57

These are really bad circumstances. I get it from both sides. It's normal they would want to help their daughter before anything else, but it's horrible for you and your family to go through this. I'm really sorry.

Chiseltip · 20/01/2026 10:59

This what the new Renters Rights Bill has done to tenants like you OP. The LL simply can't rely on STC or verbal agreements anymore. The government banned them, tying the LL's hands and giving him no option but to evict you as legally he can't offer any other rental terms.

You'll just have to find another place to live. Technically, you could just refuse to move out, he would then have to take you to court. This would give you a few months extra, if you don't need a reference from your current LL it's an option I guess.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 10:59

I am a LL. We have served notice on all of our properties with tenants (one has already been emptied). It may be a long process, but has to be started before it’s not possible to ask someone to leave at all.

This is the consequences of the Renter’s Bill.

I’m sorry for the situation you are in.

TallulahBetty · 20/01/2026 11:00

I'm sorry. Why did you sign knowing that there was a 4-month break clause? Your gut was telling you it was strange.

At 3k per month for rent, are you in a position to buy? I am assuming you have a good income - any savings for a deposit?

Shedmistress · 20/01/2026 11:02

So you moved in 6 weeks ago? And have had a new roof already?

That is amazing.

Devuelta81 · 20/01/2026 11:02

I am really sorry for your situation, unfortunately however I don't think you have any recourse, as others have said circumstances change. I've been on the other side of it and promised I would be a long term tenant and then my partner and I split a few months later and needed to move out. This is the risk of renting and with that expenditure per month I would really be trying to buy as that should be affordable.

In terms of the issues, these things happen whether you own or rent and those don't seem like long turnaround times for the repairs.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 11:05

Shedmistress · 20/01/2026 11:02

So you moved in 6 weeks ago? And have had a new roof already?

That is amazing.

Yeah this is…very prompt

Octavia64 · 20/01/2026 11:07

I’m sorry.

verbal agreements count for nothing.
what matters is what is written down - and the contract has a four month break clause.

sorry