Ok, I have béen a note passer. Booked a seat on the quiet train carriage, notices everywhere about it being the quiet carriage, please no phone calls. Bloke launches into phone call. After a bit of this, I hand him a note , ‘hello. Hope your day is going Ok . This is one of the quiet carriages and you can opt in or out of a quiet versus ‘busy’ carriage when booking. Would you mind taking your calls in a different carriage, or in the buffet car? Thanks, and apologies for the interruption. ‘ I didn’t want to interrupt him by breaking into his conversation, nor did I want to wait until after he had finished the call, because he would then no longer be doing the thing that breached the rules, and I would look even pettier! But I was looking forward to a quiet journey, and didn’t want to put up with loud and lengthy one- sided conversations, which are harder to screen out.
Anyway, he was obviously offenses because he marched back down the carriage a bit later, asked if II had given him a note and handed me one! I just said, ‘oh that’s fine, no need to seize the last word, we’ve no more to say to each other’ and flickr it on the floor.
Was I an arse? Maybe. But why do some people think the rules don’t apply to them ? Just take your call elsewhere!
I wouldn’t pass a note in the circumstances described here though - I don’t think you can really tell people to be quiet in a space designer for socialising.