Where do you hide your running away fund

[Somuchsugarinoneday]

If you have one?

I’m soon going to be working more hours and earning almost double what Dp does. I’m not planning to run away, but I do want to save that money and Dp is hopeless with money and it all gets frittered away somehow.
I want/need to save the money for an important reason-medical tests and help for my ill Dd and then possibly a trip to Disneyland in a year or so. I plan to work very hard for as long as this opportunity presents itself and to save as much as possible.
I’m thinking cash in a larger envelope, but where? My thoughts are in a high up picture frame in Dd’s bedroom, but i’m not sure 🤔

Where do you hide yours, if you even do?

Starling bank don't send any letters other than your bank card, and you can get it posted to a different address. Can then pay cash into post office with the bank card

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Win a prize most months. certainly ten out of twelve months each year.

Ha! I remember that too. But I went to work for Barclays when I was just 18 (and single, obviously) and they gave me a bank account AND a Barclaycard as a cheque guarantee card. Going into overdraft was a sackable offence, though. I haven't banked with them since I left the job in - er - 1970, but still have the Barclaycard, which now has an insanely high credit limit.

Premium bonds are far better than cash. If you get any wins you can auto invest. Make a note of your account details somewhere safe.

I set up a secret bank account in 1975 on the advice of my mum who said all women need a running away fund. It paid for the deposit on our next house, but I had to add husband on to the account - they squeezed his name above mine, where there was no line. It annoyed the hell out of me! I then set up another secret bank account. We're still together after more than 50 years, but I'd still tell every woman to do the same.

I had two seperate accounts. One was a savings plan with Plum and the other a 95 day and investment account with Moneybox.

I don’t have a running away fund. The house is in my sole name. He hasn’t paid a penny towards the mortgage in the 20 years we’ve been together. And we’re not married.
i think it’s safe to say I’ve got plenty in my “kicking out” fund!

Just open another savings account and set it up to be transferred into there.
Don't leave it in the house.

I agree with having some in cash. If for some reason you split you may have to declare all your accounts. He could get a forensic accountant involved. I've had various small safes in my houses. Someone mentioned a locked drawer at work which could be an option. All the best!

If you’re squirrelling away cash to “run away”, can I politely suggest your relationship is dead and you might want to end it?

If you don’t, why not save the money in a bank account that’s solely in your name? Nearly everything is / can be done electronically.

Pay it into a savings account. You can find quite good interest rates on some Internet savings with instant access and no penalty.

What sort of prize?

You're not married? Then open a savings account somewhere and deposit the money regularly.

Yes it's a bit piss take considering that he earned a lot more than you for a number of years and now since you earn more you want to secret it away.

A fairer way would be to put more in the joint pot and save some in your name.

But she wants to save money for something of her choosing, he'll just spend it on himself.

Bank accounts in the UK are protected-your country may be the same. A cash envelope is easily stolen.

Open an online only savings account and you won't get any physical letters but yes I would tell him you are saving for DD tests but be vague if you must about the amount in it. You can also get some that give you more interest if you don't withdraw anything in a set period.

Well maybe he did too when he was the higher earner but instead he shared his money with her. She wants to spend the money partly on going to Disneyland, it says so in the OP. Perhaps what she considers him wasting money on is not what he considers a waste of money and vise versa.

a secret bank account!

You can opt for paperless online statements and any communication can go to your email, so there won’t be any post through the door

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Mines invested in a risky S&S ISA to make more money. Not planning on running anywhere but I like to have savings in my name.

That's correct. Everything is sent by email.

An online account. Always assuming he can’t access your computer.

Does your company have a dedicated payroll saving scheme? If yes, you can request that they deduct X amount every month from your salary and deposot in the saving scheme. Only you can access these savings and DH will be none the wiser.

I always keep mattress money 🤷🏼‍♀️ I just do. Not huge amounts - a few thousand - but cash is still King. I keep it under the bottom drawer of my beside cabinet … I don’t have a husband to run away from anymore 😂 but if the Russians arrive I want to know I have some insurance.