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My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...

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doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 10:59

When was the last time you had a home visit? Is this a way of managing the " problem" by them taking clinics there? Is it a way of hiding this issue? I understood they did not have access to the NHS yet I see massive bags of medicine labelled for this hotel too at the dispensary. We wait about 6-7 weeks for a routine appointment.

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
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MaturingCheeseball · 17/01/2026 15:04

Womaninhouse17 · 17/01/2026 14:48

You don't feel safe among those 'groups of men' because you are a racist. They probably wouldn't choose to be near you either.

You are completely and utterly deluded. Groups of men with no womenfolk have always been a problem throughout history, no matter where they come from. Men who have little respect for “immodest” women are a threat, like it or not.

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 15:05

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:00

This specific shelter accommodates women and children.

But you are happy to deny people basic human requirements.

You have repeated yourself. You're a Liberal, I am not. I believe in being cautious when providing aid.

AdarajamesAgain · 17/01/2026 15:07

caringcarer · 17/01/2026 14:41

This happens more than people realise. I think AS are often houses in large groups in hotels and GP's go to them because they can't use NHS. It's wrong they are prioritised as not paid into NHS system but once an AS is accepted they have to be housed, given medical attention etc somewhere.

You've obviously ignored half of the posts in here to still be spouting the rubbish that AS can't use the NHS 🙄 Anyone can access basic healthcare be they citizens, AS or tourists at time of need. Bills can be issued afterwards if they aren't entitled to free care, but without an income AS obviously cannot be billed.

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:08

Kingscallops · 17/01/2026 15:05

You have repeated yourself. You're a Liberal, I am not. I believe in being cautious when providing aid.

Correct, I am a liberal, not a racist.

I wouldn't deny anyone aid.

silverwrath · 17/01/2026 15:08

The UK infrastructure is crumbling. That's the fault of successive Governments. Not asylum seekers.

Lack of affordable housing, pressures on the NHS, Education, a disastrous immigration system. People waiting years to be processed and not being allowed to work. And an influx of even more people when we can't support the one's already here.

Recession. Cameron/Osborne's disastrous (we're all in this together) austerity measures. Brexit. Covid. Trump.

All these issues stem from utterly ineffectual politicians, corrupt financial institutions and the power of mega corporations.

We're pretty much fucked. And scapegoating a particular group of people is par for the course in times like these. If it's not the poor, it's the disabled. In Thatcher's '80's it was single parent mothers. I remember it well.

Right wing politicians have a penchant for the old scapegoating. It's their bread and butter. It never fails to astonish me how successful it is. You'd think we'd learn from history that we're being blatantly manipulated. But. Apparently not.

So today it's migrants. Tomorrow it'll be the elderly. Or the obese.

But never the fault of the powers that be. sighs

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tuvamoodyson · 17/01/2026 15:10
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LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 15:11

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 17/01/2026 12:46

So what would be your alternative then? Let them suffer/die?

i have no issues with the NHS treating the migrant families the women and children but we need to send the young male illegals back to whence they came from..they bring nothing to this country... just take...My hubby pays £79 a week in national insurance contributions, and our child has to go private to see a fecking dentist and they get it free...i grudge this immensly

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:11

Womaninhouse17 · 17/01/2026 14:48

You don't feel safe among those 'groups of men' because you are a racist. They probably wouldn't choose to be near you either.

Is it racism, or being wary of particular religions or cultures that still hold strongly to deeply misogynistic views, regardless of skin colour/ethnicity?

Is it acceptable to be wary of men from cultures that treat women as lesser, and dislike those that still hold those views? Or is it only okay to dislike misogyny if the men practising it are white British?

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:13

LittleMi55Nobody · 17/01/2026 15:11

i have no issues with the NHS treating the migrant families the women and children but we need to send the young male illegals back to whence they came from..they bring nothing to this country... just take...My hubby pays £79 a week in national insurance contributions, and our child has to go private to see a fecking dentist and they get it free...i grudge this immensly

The crisis in dentistry has nothing to do with asylum seekers

Would you send male refugees back to Iran?

weetumshie · 17/01/2026 15:14

I often wonder if people like the op would prefer asylum seekers with serious illnesses, sometimes contagious diseases or who are just unwell should be left to either die or roam around the streets infecting people. The racists don’t want them in hotels, don’t want them in army camps so wandering around with untreated illness is the logical outcome if you don’t want them treated or securely housed. As for no access to NHS-given the madness of the antivaxxers would you prefer measles, TB, flu etc outbreaks left untreated and left to spread? I know these racist idiots exist, but I just can’t understand why they’ve never availed themselves of the education offered to them since childhood so that they can at least TRY to use even a modicum of logic in their thinking.

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:16

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:11

Is it racism, or being wary of particular religions or cultures that still hold strongly to deeply misogynistic views, regardless of skin colour/ethnicity?

Is it acceptable to be wary of men from cultures that treat women as lesser, and dislike those that still hold those views? Or is it only okay to dislike misogyny if the men practising it are white British?

Would you deny them access to a GP on that basis?

Couldyounot · 17/01/2026 15:22

doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 11:29

You can all come on with your personal attacks and insinuating you are a bigger person but there needs to be a longer term plan than this. What would you all suggest happens to these men in the long term ?

Deal with their asylum claims quickly and efficiently, instead of dumping them in down-at-heel hotels for months or years on end, might be a good place to start. Unfortunately this would require little short of regime change at the Home Office, so I'll not hold my breath

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:23

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:16

Would you deny them access to a GP on that basis?

It's rather rude to respond to a question with a question, while answering none of mine.

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 15:23

People keep referring to them as asylum seekers which is what they're classed as while being processed.

But where ARE the women and children? It's historically been a case of in war times men ran towards the war and women and children away from it.
Yet here we have thousands of men running away supposedly from war and yet have left the women and children behind?

Or do they get processed and settled here and THEN send for their wives and children? Is that what these new housing estates the government are insisting are being build everywhere are for? These AS and their families?

Before anyone jumps in this is a genuine question, not for goadiness, I'm trying to understand why the AS are only men.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 17/01/2026 15:27

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 15:23

People keep referring to them as asylum seekers which is what they're classed as while being processed.

But where ARE the women and children? It's historically been a case of in war times men ran towards the war and women and children away from it.
Yet here we have thousands of men running away supposedly from war and yet have left the women and children behind?

Or do they get processed and settled here and THEN send for their wives and children? Is that what these new housing estates the government are insisting are being build everywhere are for? These AS and their families?

Before anyone jumps in this is a genuine question, not for goadiness, I'm trying to understand why the AS are only men.

Would you want your husband to take you and your children to an unknown place, where you don’t know how it’s going to be? Or to go ahead gets established and send for you and the children?

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:27

PatchouliPrincess · 17/01/2026 15:23

People keep referring to them as asylum seekers which is what they're classed as while being processed.

But where ARE the women and children? It's historically been a case of in war times men ran towards the war and women and children away from it.
Yet here we have thousands of men running away supposedly from war and yet have left the women and children behind?

Or do they get processed and settled here and THEN send for their wives and children? Is that what these new housing estates the government are insisting are being build everywhere are for? These AS and their families?

Before anyone jumps in this is a genuine question, not for goadiness, I'm trying to understand why the AS are only men.

From what I know (and I may be wrong), it's because it's far easier for (young) men to make the arduous journey alive, or even just leave the country in some nations. The women and children tend to be left behind because of that. I'm not sure whether the men then send for them, send money to them somehow, or just abandon them to a war torn nation.
But either way I find myself wary of an influx of young men who are escaping war...and leaving their mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters behind to face the brunt of it. On the surface at least, the optics are not favourable.

Ginmonkeyagain · 17/01/2026 15:28

@LittleMi55Nobody well give you "hubby" a medal. I pay more NI than that and I am happy for it to fund healthcare, including for peole who don't pay NI - the elderly, those on a low income, the vulnerable, you apparently.

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:29

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:23

It's rather rude to respond to a question with a question, while answering none of mine.

Wariness doesn't always mean racism, no. But I would hope it is done with an open mind. People fleeing those countries because they don't agree with the regime and are in danger of it.

However the reply was to a poster who said they would deny male refugees from such countries basic human rights. That looks like racism to me.

Would you like to answer my questions?

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:30

BlanketyBlankBlank · 17/01/2026 15:27

Would you want your husband to take you and your children to an unknown place, where you don’t know how it’s going to be? Or to go ahead gets established and send for you and the children?

Yes. I would, 100%. In the case of asylum seekers at least, an unknown Britain would be massively preferable to whatever we're fleeing from. And then to be left in that situation without the protection or financial support of my husband...not great, I'd imagine.

Gloriia · 17/01/2026 15:30

Lots of confusion on this thread.

No one disputes 'asylum seekers' are allowed healthcare. Thr point is the Dr providing it had nhs patients waiting so he needs to organise himself more effectively. Folk should not be sat waiting because he's raking it in providing extras.

Femalemachinest · 17/01/2026 15:32

My dad had a home visit when he had the flu. If necessary you can get home visits.

I dont understand any of your points. If someone needs medical attention then they need medical attention. What do you expect to happen? Just let them die?

Yes, we get illegal immigration, we have done so for many many years. Its just something for people to focus on instead of looking inwards. We also have a high number of legal immigrants that have put a lot of pressure on the country. We have a lot of young, healthy unemployed people that put pressure on the country. Illegal immigration is only 1 issue, removing it isnt going to solve all Britain's problems

OtterlyAstounding · 17/01/2026 15:37

DuncinToffee · 17/01/2026 15:29

Wariness doesn't always mean racism, no. But I would hope it is done with an open mind. People fleeing those countries because they don't agree with the regime and are in danger of it.

However the reply was to a poster who said they would deny male refugees from such countries basic human rights. That looks like racism to me.

Would you like to answer my questions?

People may not agree with the regime, but that doesn't mean they're not misogynistic, with far more conservative views about women's role and place in society than Britain. Being raised steeped in such misogyny, it would be astonishing if they weren't more misogynistic than the average British male (who is already misogynistic enough, on a population level).

It's not racism, it's xenophobia, as I'm fairly certain that person would want to deny white asylum seekers from Eastern Europe (for example) too, although I may be wrong.

And yes, I think everyone should have access to a GP and basic healthcare. Although I do sympathise with the feelings of those who have to suffer with longer wait times than ever, while seeing asylum seekers get appointments - it must be frustrating. But still, everyone deserves healthcare.

WirelessInternet · 17/01/2026 15:39

doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 11:23

The question is why is an NHS doctor out doing home visits at this place when NHS funds are not supposed to be used?

How do you know he wasn’t there protesting or painting roundabouts?

Although I suppose if he was you’d know about it as you’d have seen him when you were out doing the same thing.