To think we should get the best room in a villa?

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We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

Absolutely 😂

And please don't assume the single person should get the worst room.

No, you wouldn't. You'd all chip in to pay equal shares if you're family.

Ha! Totally missed that in the title as only went back and re-read the posts .

One change every few days. I'd personally do it happily to share a room in a villa that was head and shoulders better than anyone else's.

I would usually say the organiser gets first pick as they are the one that put the work in . I book our holidays and then when we arrive I have a walk round and see which room suits me best. It may be a totally different room from the one I originally thought I wanted from the photos but am such an awful sleeper that if there is a rubbish blind, traffic or construction noise then I won’t sleep. If that means I have the smallest room then so be it.
Last year my adult son and his girlfriend got the “best” room with the en-suite and projector screen with surround sound as the the toilet cistern was constantly dripping and I would have lost the plot! And on a recent girls weekend I chose the sofa rather than be close to a snorer
If anything the solo son should be paying LESS not an equal share as he doesn’t have anyone to share costs with and you do- maybe he gets the “best” room instead

Weird.

Exactly - the younger son is getting a raw deal here. Unless there are non-couples sharing a room it's not a perk to get your own room when you're single! Especially as it's a 5-bed villa - they can all have their own rooms if they want

The youngest son who is single and has to be on a vacation with two couples should get the best room.

I wouldn’t. I’m on holiday so I want to relax, not be making beds or washing sheets and moving clothes, toiletries, jewellery etc around.

Whenever I’ve been away i with a group it works as :

cost is split by person not rooms, if there’s small children then that has to be worked out

organsiser gets best room unless it’s an occasion like a hen party then bride gets best room

If my parents were still alive, and I organised a trip for them, myself and other siblings/assorted partners, I'd offer them the most comfortable room. That's all there is to it. I don't consider it strange.

I'm not sure the organiser should get the best room. It creates a moral hazard where they just need to find somewhere with one great room and stuff everybody else.

They should probably pick last to ensure they book a place good enough for everybody.

Choosing the organiser should be done randomly or rotated between family units.

Organiser usually gets dibs however feel very sorry for the youngest son who has to pay the same as couples and gets the shittest room. Quite frankly he should get the best room (or maybe second best) since hes paying the most per person! I would have definitely let him pay a bit less even if it was just 2/3rd the couple cost.

For me, if I was organsing for a family group like this, I would offer it to the parents as a thoughtful gesture - it doesn't need to be everyone out for the best for themselves at all times.

Organiser gets it. I don’t get why the parents are not subsidising it a bit more in which case of course they should get the fancy room.

But also it's not fair on the younger son, agree with that.

No, you said it was because ‘without whom none of them would be there’. Prizes for shagging and reproducing. Thats weird.

But it’s also the single son who’s getting shitty rooms 30th birthday?

I mean I kind of get the logic re the younger son. Say it’s £2500, and they each pay £500. So the 2 couples are paying £500 each for half a room and the single person is paying £500 for a room to themselves. Seems fair to give the bigger rooms to the people sharing and who are paying £1k between them for that room.

If I was OP and really wanted to be “top dog” with the best room (not sure why she feels so entitled to it but…) I would have offered to put more money in.

If this happened in my family, the 30-year-olds would offer the best room to the 60-year-olds, and the 60-year-olds would refuse.

Nope the 28 year old is the single one

Just enjoy the time with your family! A holiday like this at the ages you all are is precious time. Who cares what bed you sleep in. Enjoy the company and the time together.

This!! Except that in my family the older ones would refuse and in my in laws they would def accept 🤣

Well, you know, bringing them up, and all the rest of it 😀