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Wedding with best men/groomsmen but no bridesmaids?

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Upthejunction45 · 13/01/2026 14:17

I have started wedding planning which is very exciting, this is just something I'm thinking about and wondering if anyone else has had the same?

My fiancé has a close male friend he'd have as a best man and some he'd have as groomsmen.
Without sounding like a sob story, I don't have female friends I'm close enough to. I've been a bridesmaid twice, once in 2015 and once in 2019. However rarely see or speak to the women I was a bridesmaid for now, not through my lack of trying but they just showed disinterest once they were in different life stages to me.
I do have female friends but nobody who I would say I'm incredibly close to and have that 'ride or die' thing with. Just people I'd meet occasionally for a coffee and speak to here and there.

Would the wedding be strange if I didn't have bridesmaids? Not only that, but I don't have an interest in doing the whole hen/bridal party etc. And I don't think I'd have the budget to pay for a whole team of dresses, make up for them all etc.

Aware this makes me sound miserable but it's just who I am! I don't want to let my fiancé down at all, I just don't seem to have this girly group and almost feel embarrassed. Any advice?

OP posts:
Farmwifefarmlife · 15/01/2026 15:36

My DH had a best man & I had no bridesmaids , it was for ease / less hassle reasons, but I was super happy with my decision! I don’t think people even notice to be honest. I still had pictures with my besties and things like that.

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