Dd wants to call me mum

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And not mummy anymore 😔
Didn’t think it would happen this young (7)
Want to be mummy a bit longer!

What age was your child when you started being called mum and how did it happen?

My eldest was about 8 and it was because slightly older girls in her class had heard her and ridiculed her.

My twin and I call ours “ Mummikins”…… I’ve never thought before how tragic that must sound if overheard in TK Maxx…..🤔🙄🙀…..

Noooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I used to volunteer with kids clubs, mainly 7-10 but also often 5-7 and I honestly can't remember anyone calling their parents mummy or daddy. Certainly not in earshot of the helpers or other kids. I wonder if it is more regional or class based rather than age. My own daughter never really called me mummy from about 2 or 3. So probably she was in pre-school.

I was the youngest of five.

I never, ever said 'Mummy' and didn't have a clue what a woman was going on about when she asked if I was going to give a present to my mummy for Christmas. I had big brothers, a mummy was a monster wrapped in bandages.

DD2 called me Mama. No idea why, it was just how her first word (smart child, keep your primary parent onside) came out from the buggy and I obviously responded to it - it certainly wasn't fashionable at the time. By 14, it was;

Wanting something: Mumma?
Being a bit cheeky with friends around and happy: Mumsy
Dealing with the senile old bat: Moth-urrrrrr!

You'll probably find that Mummy makes a comeback when they're knowingly trying it on.

You sound like the character played by Toni Colette in About a Boy who humiliates her son by shouting I love you at him as he goes into school.

Yes of course it is absolutely wrong to try to infantilise your growing daughter for your own wants. She is growing up. She wants to do what her friends are doing and is hitting a normal developmental stage.

Do not be that mother. You have only a few years where you can get away with it and then she will leave home asap and you will be wailing but whyyyyyy....

My 5 year old GD calls everyone by their Christian name, she has done for a couple of years

My DDs are 15 & 17. I’m still Mummy. I can’t imagine them ever calling me anything else 🤷🏼‍♀️

My boys started with mum instead of mummy at around 10, my eldest dd (adult) still calls me mummy when at home and it’s just family but around others I’m mother and my 11 year old dd still calls me mummy or momma .

That might make her feel like ‘wants’ can be over-ruled by adults and would question her autonomy, when it’s actually quite age appropriate. I think within age appropriate boundaries we need to allow our children to grow up and respect their decisions and wishes. A child’s life has so little autonomy in many aspects adults need to respect the areas children can control to help them develop key skills, respect choices and promote independence.

My nearly 13 year old calls me "Mother!!!" these days, but with an ironic edge, she's teasing. Sigh.

But yes, I remember going from Mummy to Mum, and it was around 7 IIRC.

I think you need to just go with the flow tbh, she's not a little baby anymore and part of our role as mothers is to support our DC in growing up, even when it all feels like it's happening too fast!

My eldest stopped calling me Mummy at age 6, my youngest was a few years younger. I now have two pre-teens who call be bruh 🙄

I’m Marge too. Was mama goose for a while.

i am 45 and I call my mother mummy because that is her name.
i am mummmmmmimmmm to my 14 month old

I got called bruh for a bit

I called her bruh back.
Didn't last long.

Mine are much older and they call me mami. They have also been known to call me other names that I won’t mention🫣🤔

I've tried calling them bruh back and it just encourages them. I think I will just give in and buy that t-shirt!

My own children, now 38 and 40, have never called me a ything els than "mama" and their father "papa". My son's friends - who tended to hang out at ours on a daily base - all called me "mom". To us it was clear, but I do understand that for outsiders it was confusing 😅

DS would have been six or seven when he asked very politely as we walked to school if it would be all right with me if he called me Mum from now on. Of course I said yes, he was so cute and polite! He was the same at four when he informed us he had decided he was going to sleep in his own bed from now on (he was in the habit of coming into ours until then). He was as good as his word too.

My autistic 16 year old - who is doing A levels as has no learning disability - still calls me mummy. My 13 year old however has called me ‘mother’ for quite a few years now. Oh and I get alot of ‘bruh’ as well.

Honestly my ex (39 when we split) still called his Mummy and had her saved as that in his phone. Man was a 6’3 rugby player who ran building sites so it was a massive ick! But it would be weird if they did it for too long right? Sorry OP, I know it must sting but better in the long run 🙈

Love this, it made me laugh.

I’m 57 and still call my mother mummy. But I’m from Northern Ireland and it’s quite normal here

One of mine calls me mother to annoy me too. I call him Norman Bates. He doesn't get the reference.

Aside from that I'm called everything from mum, mummy, fam and most other things I've seen here. I keep asking them to call me Mrs Surname or Captain but they're not obliging 🤣

My DDs 37,43, and 52 still call me mummy but we live in mainland Europe