What time do you go to bed and get up (excluding caring responsibilities)?

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Obviously if you've got caring responsibilites etc that involve getting up at night this isnt a reasonable question to ask!

What time do you go to bed and get up and how much sleep do you need?

To feel properly refreshed I need 10+ hours. This would involve going to bed before 8 which just isnt practical. It's ridiculous.

If I have 2 nights in a row with less than 6hrs each, I cant function on the third day.

I'm trying to get into a better routine of going to bed at the same time every night and getting up at the same time every morning. Hopefully this will help. So 10pm - 6am.

My husband thinks he's a night owl (he isnt which is why he is knackered all the time but that's another discussion) so basically, I'm not going to see him much without the children.

At the moment I seem constantly pissed off with him so that may be a good or bad thing!

I go to bed about 10pm, but sometimes don’t fall asleep before 11pm. My alarm is set for 7am, though maybe about half the time I wake up between 6-7am.

That’s plenty of sleep for me. If I was regularly getting only 6 hours, I would struggle, but my watch says I get about 8 hours nearly every night.

I have 2 dc, but they don’t usually wake in the night anymore. Dh and I definitely prioritise sleep over spending time together. I love him, but I’d rather be well rested and almost never miss out on sleep to spend time with him. 😂

Go to bed at 10ish, read til 11, alarm is at 7am. I wake up quite a few times through the night.

11 (asleep by 11.30)-7 and I need more. I should go at least an hour earlier. My ideal is 9hrs but I have many children who like mornings and a job which is a shame 🤣

Up 6.30
Bed 9.30 in the week.

I usually go to bed around midnight give or take a bit depending on if I feel tired and wake up naturally between 6:00-7:30.

Is the problem that him sleeping later in the morning means you shoulder all morning childcare / school run chaos? That’s not acceptable, if there are morning duties then whatever time he chooses to go to bed he needs to set an alarm to wake up to then; but you’ve said excluding caring responsibilities so that doesn’t appear to be the main issue. Outside of that I don’t think it’s reasonable to dictate another adult’s sleeping and waking times as a matter of course because you think they should be the same as your own. If I went to bed at 10pm I’d just lie there fidgeting about or reading and probably get up a couple of times for a wander or a cup of tea, which would be tedious for both me and DH.

I sleep from 11pm- 5 or 6am. I do best on around 7 hours but often only get 6. I feel worse if I have over 8 which is rare.

I'm in bed by 2100 (sometimes 2000) and get up at 0600. I read for half an hour or so then fall asleep to an audiobook/podcast. I do a lot of exercise and wouldn't recover properly on less sleep and rest. I try to get up early ish at weekends too and have some sort of activity planned for us all otherwise I feel like we've wasted most of the day.

On weekdays I try to go to bed by 23:00 but don’t sleep till around midnight .
alarm set for 06:30 - gym before work!

thh im always knackered and could do with more sleep 😴

weekends I get up a bit later but about 08:00 as I have a dog who needs letting out

Usually go to bed at 10/10.30 and up about 6.30/7

His sleep is his business. I'm not dictating anything to him.

But yes, anything before 10am in the week and whatever time on the weekend is my responsibility. It sucks and is unfair on me and the children (and I'm resentful and it's one of the primary reason I get pissed off at him) but it's not going to change and isn't worth my breath anymore. Yesterday we had a huge row because our eldest was being "difficult" before school. He came down in a foul mood and had the audacity to start getting involved and criticising me when he didnt have a clue what was going on.

But that isnt the point of this thread.

Re caring responsibilities, I just meant if the kids get you up at 5 or if you have a newborn etc. becsuse that messes up sleep patterns completely.

Then the problem is really that he’s being a crap dad and partner by kipping out of his responsibilities. He can choose to stay up until the small hours if he wants, but he also has to understand that there’s going to be an alarm going off at whatever time the household needs to get up at and if that doesn’t wake him you’re going to be sending the DC in to get him up to feed / dress / play with them.

If you’ve already tried that and nothing has changed, you need to rethink the relationship. How many hours anyone else needs to sleep to feel refreshed and the hours they do it between is their circus, we’re all different, you have a lazy and disrespectful husband problem.

Bed: 9pm - 10pm
Up: 6am - 7am

I love bed... I love sleep. I also love the quiet half an hour in the morning to myself.

The latest that I am in bed is ten and then I’m usually up between five and six.
I am a light sleeper and struggle to get back off if woken so don’t feel that I get quality sleep.

That isnt the issue in this post. If I wanted to ask about that, I would do but I havent so...

if you only feel OK after 10 hours sleep, i'd suggest you aren't getting very good quality sleep. Are you moving enough, cutting caffeine after lunch, no screens before bed? We are usually asleep by 10pm, but have a toddler who still wakes in the night, and is up for the day anytime between 5.30am and 7am. pre baby I'd probably do 10.30-6.30/7.

I go to bed between 1 and 2 am. 10pm would be an early night for me. I get up at 7.15am. DH tends to do the majority of getting dcs ready in the morning, while I get myself ready, and because I'm with the dcs on my own in the afternoons.

1130-630 7 hours or generally 6.5 hrs according to my Apple Watch

Bed 9pm, generally asleep for 10pm, up at 5.30.

The reason you probably need 10+ hours is because you're not sleeping at consistent times and amounts. To have 10 hours followed by two nights of 5 hours, messes with the circadian rhythm and you're not getting consistent rest. I'm exactly the same.

I've found being in bed by 10, falling asleep naturally, then having to get up at 6-6.30 is much easier and I feel fine. More often than not, I go between 11 and 12 to try to get time to myself. Then fall asleep after 12, and struggle getting up. I can cope with 6 hours as long as it starts by 10.30/11.

Adult sleep cycles are 90 minutes, so I also work with that to make sure I'm not waking up partway through one, which makes you feel groggy.

I go to bed at about 11, wake up at about 9 on a weekday or about 11 on a weekend. I love to sleep!

I go to bed between 10pm and 11pm - sometimes later - and get up between 5.45 and 6.45, occasionally later if I’m away from home. I do need more sleep than I get, and try to have a couple of very early nights per week (bed at 9) but couldn’t do that every day or I would have no life or hobbies.

10 hours per night is wild and I couldn’t fit that into my life. 7 is ideal for me.

ETA I get up that early because of my 5yo. Left to my own devices and without having to do the school run or packed lunches, I would probably wake between 7 and 8 depending on when I was starting work.

Go to sleep at 11:30/midnight get up at 6am, I don’t need very much sleep and struggle to sleep past 7 on a weekend. Occasionally get up in the night if a child starts to cry but that’s quite rare unless they’re poorly. I don’t often feel tired

I need 10+ hours too, I know I sleep badly some nights, getting less than 4 hours sleep but there’s no obvious reason. I have a good mattress, do all the recommended things to aid sleep but I can’t remember the last time I woke up feeling refreshed. I’m not sure I ever have!
I’m 72 and retired, I walk for 2-3 hours every day, regardless of the weather, eat healthily, don’t watch screens much etc

In bed at 10pm, read until 10.30pm, asleep by 11pm. Wake up at 7am some days, 8am other days. I love my sleep.

I genuinely cannot remember the last time I slept more than 4 hours without waking up and then tossing and turning for at least an hour before going back to sleep!
I go to bed about 10ish but am awake until about midnight.
I am usually awake between 4-5 am and then sleep from 7am to 9 am .
Weirdly when I was in Australia recently I slept so much better!!