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What time do you go to bed and get up (excluding caring responsibilities)?

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TheRealLillyAllenVerifiedAccount · 13/01/2026 10:32

Obviously if you've got caring responsibilites etc that involve getting up at night this isnt a reasonable question to ask!

What time do you go to bed and get up and how much sleep do you need?

To feel properly refreshed I need 10+ hours. This would involve going to bed before 8 which just isnt practical. It's ridiculous.

If I have 2 nights in a row with less than 6hrs each, I cant function on the third day.

I'm trying to get into a better routine of going to bed at the same time every night and getting up at the same time every morning. Hopefully this will help. So 10pm - 6am.

My husband thinks he's a night owl (he isnt which is why he is knackered all the time but that's another discussion) so basically, I'm not going to see him much without the children.

At the moment I seem constantly pissed off with him so that may be a good or bad thing!

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muddyford · 13/01/2026 15:55

Bed at 9.00, read till 9.45. Up at 6.00 (and 4.30 for loo...).
Though I'm a carer for DH he rarely needs me overnight.

Sunloungerhogger · 13/01/2026 15:55

I go to bed between 10:00 - 10:30, and usually lights out by/just before 11:00. I only set my alarm on days I’m going into the office, for 07:00. The irony being on every other day, work and weekend, I usually wake up around 7 anyway or just before, and then on alarm days for some reason I’m fast asleep when it goes off. I used to think I ideally need 9 hrs sleep to feel at my best, as that was as when I would wake up if left naturally with no other factors (alarm/any other noise waking me) but these days I seem to be pretty consistently waking naturally after about 8hrs (maybe it’s because my sleeping and waking times are much more consistent overall than when I was younger - eg fewer late nights and then later wake ups at the weekend). I definitely feel a bit rubbish if I get 7 or less, will function fine on 7 but can feel it, and less than 7 and I’m a bit unhappy.

boogietrapps · 13/01/2026 15:57

I go to bed at 9:30, asleep by 10 and then up at 6:30.

Sunloungerhogger · 13/01/2026 16:01

Actually, I’m going to add something quite significant to the above. My DH and I are currently sleeping in separate rooms. My DH is a terrible sleeper, he takes ages to get to sleep, he too thinks he’s a night owl. Compounded by the fact I snore - I can’t help it, I wish I could. Which causes stress for both of us as if I’m sleeping well, I’m probably disturbing him, and if not, I’m lying there unable to fall asleep as I’m paranoid about snoring and waking. Compounded by the fact he had a serious accident which he’s still recovering from. It’s affected his sleep (he’s always been quite obsessive about his sleep, prob because it’s always been an issue for him, now very much more so), and it’s also had a big impact on me, so rest is pretty Important to both of us really. We love each other deeply, our marriage is strong. We’re just both prioritising getting a good night sleep. And my gosh, I sleep a million times better when it’s just me by myself (and he sleeps better too without me snoring, and if by chance he does have a bad night’s sleep, at least it’s not my fault!).

AgnesMcDoo · 13/01/2026 16:03

I generally go to bed about 11pm and get up at 8am.

DH goes about midnight to 1am and gets up about the same time as me.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 13/01/2026 16:05

6.30 am to 22.30.
Some nights I stay up late for some peace and quiet.

PizzaPowder · 13/01/2026 16:06

Lights out at 10 and get up at half past 7/8 o'clock depending on the day.

I need a lot of sleep or i am a grumpy old git.

user1497787065 · 13/01/2026 16:08

In bed by 10 and awake at about 5-5.30

BlackCat14 · 13/01/2026 16:28

I feel like I’m someone who needs a good amount of sleep to function properly. My boyfriend has about six hours a night and I don’t know how he gets though the day.
Im currently on mat leave so it’s not my usual routine, but at the moment I go to bed about 10.30/10.45 and my baby wakes like clockwork at 8am. So just over 9 hours a night. Before my baby, when I was at work I’d sleep 10.30-7.15ish.

butterdish93 · 13/01/2026 16:51

Go to bed at 9:30, wake at 7. Still tired.

would naturally sleep in till 8:30 ish if no alarm and would probably prefer to go to bed at ten but I like to go to bed at the same time as husband.

SnowyVillage · 13/01/2026 17:15

I go to bed between 9 and 10. DD usually wakes me up between 6 and 7. You'd think that would be enough sleep but medical issues mean I'm up every hour or two for the loo. I also sleep very lightly so the dog or DD often wake me up in the night too.

Very jealous of DH who comes to bed between 10 and midnight, doesn't get up till 8:30 (later on the weekend) and actually sleeps solidly all night.

Emmz1510 · 13/01/2026 18:06

I also seem to need to a lot of sleep. I go to bed between 10 and 11. I’m a hybrid worker who is sometimes in the office sometimes wfh. If I’m in the office I’m up between 6:15 and 7 depending when my first appointment is and if I’m wfh I’m up at 7:45 to wake dd for school (when I’m in office she goes to breakfast club and gets up earlier too). Obviously it’s different at weekends. Despite that seeming to be enough sleep, I find often I could easily do another two hours! I’m not a morning person but it’s easier in spring and summer.

Itiswhysofew · 13/01/2026 18:13

Go bed 11.30 pm'ish. I dont like going to sleep, so I put it off until 1.30am.

Up at 8.00am.

6 hours is fine for me.

EarringsandLipstick · 13/01/2026 18:20

My sleep is terrible 😔

I used to be a night owl. Once I hit 40 / peri, my body clock shifted to wanting to be in bed by 9, up by 5… sleep was dreadful for a few years but HRT was a lifesaver.

I get up before 5 every day as I exercise intensively each morning, back before teens need to be up.

Unfortunately, they all do a lot of sports at different times / locations, so my evenings are spent racing between work, activity & home & so I can’t go to bed when I want to.

I’m often so shattered I fall asleep in my clothes, lying on the bed or without being properly ready for bed. I still get up very early but am rarely rested, it’s a mess.

I don’t associate bedtime with anything but stress.

My teen sons are a nightmare - they have to be supervised right the way into bed, no chance for me to just go to bed early myself & leave them to it.

I am desperately trying to sort it out, aware it’s not good for me. At all.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 13/01/2026 18:40

I sleep 7 hours a night. But I always wake up at about 5 am, whatever time I go to bed, so then I don't get enough sleep if I've gone to bed after 10 pm.

Normally, it's lights out at 9.30 pm.

I just can't sleep longer than seven hours!

hellokellie · 13/01/2026 22:43

I work 7.30-6 Monday to Friday (but have 2 days where I come home between 9am-3pm so only 37.5 hours overall). But because of the early start, I don't feel like I have much evening at all once I've cooked and eaten my dinner etc.

Which results in me going to bed far too late 4 out of 5 nights during the week and regretting it every day! Then one night a week I usually crash and have a good 8+ hours.

I usually go up by 11 and asleep by maybe 11.30/45. Then my first alarm goes off at 06.20am.

I have my phone set to DND from 10pm because I always tell myself I'll go up to bed at this time and be asleep by 22:20 so I can get a full 8 hours but even I know that's a lie at this point haha

WanderlustMom · 13/01/2026 22:48

Honestly I don’t tend to go back downstairs after my son is asleep and I’ve had a shower etc so I’m always in bed watching TV from around 8pm onwards. But I never seem to go to sleep before 11pm/12am. I’m up around 7:30am, could definitely sleep in later but that’s what time we get up since my son is in primary school

brunettemic · 13/01/2026 22:49

Very rarely asleep before 11:30, get up at 6:30 during the week. Usually wake up during the night a few times too.

AutumnAllTheWay · 13/01/2026 22:51

Sleep about 1am, awake at half 9

TiggersTheOnlyOne · 14/01/2026 08:00

I work shifts so I have no real pattern because my shifts vary day to day. Rule of thumb is I get up 1 hour before my shift starts (lucky I work 5 minutes from home) so that could be anytime from 3am onwards and I go to bed a minimum of 7 hours before get up time. I need more sleep but I don’t have enough time for more

EveryDayisFriday · 14/01/2026 08:11

I go to bed 9-11pm
I fall asleep 10.30-12.30pm
I wake up 5am-8am

Best case, I get a good 10hrs.
Worst case (like last night), I got 5hrs.

Declutteringhopeful · 14/01/2026 08:14

Normally bed at 10 pm and up at 6.30 or 6 am.
Recovering from a broken hip I’m in bed by pm and sleep until 10-11 am although everyone wakes me up when they go to school etc

selfcentred · 14/01/2026 08:19

I get into bed at about 9:30pm
Read stuff on my phone for a big turn switch to reading my book.
Lights out 11:00pm - fall asleep whilst saying my prayers in my head
Alarm 7:15am

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 14/01/2026 08:21

Bed at 10-11. I wake up at 9am usually. I have always needed a lot of sleep. I'm self employed so I can do what I like now!

Offstroll · 14/01/2026 08:23

9.30 lights off
5.30/6am wake up naturally
sleep well
wake up feeling refreshed
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