I want half in the divorce. Am I likely to get it.

[Divorcein40swoman]

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Just looking for some legal advice.
Married 6 years . Together 15
I left him... moved out the house when he was away .. tod him afterwards
No children
He put down £200k for the house which came from the sale of a flat he owned I his name before we married.
Joint mortgage each paying half.
I continued to pay after I left which was last year
I want the divorce
I have no savings ... he has savings in an account in his name around 30k
He has an isa opened in his name after we married
We each have a pension. He can take his pension 10 years earlier than me as he's older
I earn slightly more than him and will be at work longer than him due to our ages

I want 50/50 of everything. The savings. The ISA and especially the house.
He's upset as he's not going to get a decent mortgage at his age . He also wants the £200k he put it to be given back. Us clear the mortgage and come away with about 50k each. I want half !!
What's likely to happen

And you are why people ask for a pre nup. Your entitlement is breathtaking.

I am hoping he doesn't try and hang this out and make it difficult

It sounds like you're the one 'hanging this out' and making it difficult.

I suspect you will make a couple of solicitors very rich and still end up with the amount of money you brought to the marriage (which sounds like nothing).

Poor chap.

You'll have to fork out for proper legal advice op if you want an objective view of what your chances are for coming out of this as the winner
People on here aren't particularly distinguishing between what's morally right and what is legally right.

So he was sensible and saved some of his money; you chose to spend all/most of yours....and now you want to take 50% of his savings? You sound pretty despicable, I have to say.

This is correct.
They will take into account a long period of cohabitation even if the marriage itself is short so it becomes a longer ‘marriage.
Short marriages and having no children doesn’t matter in terms of equality in asset sharing , this is usually in assets accrued during the marriage however a period of 9 years cohabitation prior to marriage most likely will be taken into account, also if she paid towards the mortgage etc of the flat the deposit money may become a marital asset. Maybe not all of it but a proportion.
Proper legal advice should be sought.

That’s why I phrased the sentence, if you paid the mortgage

I am gobsmacked at your entitlement. This is not what Divorce is for. Half of everything he has ever owned or amassed? For a six year marriage and no dependents? Behave.

You sound delightful lol

Gosh it sounds like you got married purely to get a financial benefit. Romantic!

I bet he's regretting it 😮

You'll get what's legally yours.

Taking half the man's savings though - yikes!

I want 50/50 of everything. The savings. The ISA and especially the house.
He's upset as he's not going to get a decent mortgage at his age . He also wants the £200k he put it to be given back. Us clear the mortgage and come away with about 50k each. I want half !!

YABVVVVVU

Selfish grabbing besom.

And I normally support women in this sort of situation. But not you. No wonder men are wary of marriage when there are gold-diggers like you around.

Does anyone else think this is a reverse?

It does feel rather like it!

But why do you think that's his problem (you not being able to buy anywhere), after a short marriage and no children?

If you want to live off a man, you do need to put up with living with him.

Money that he had previously will be ring fenced, in exceptional circumstances it can be taken into the pot for instance if you need to provide for children etc. In this case that does not apply. Since you earn more he might be entitled to your pension. I hope you decide to be fair instead of being so grabby! Or karma will get you!

I'm still on very good terms with my ex- from about 1990, who quite reasonably looked elsewhere when I showed no interest in marrying him <on edit ... or anyone for that matter>. By chance, he emailed me today saying he'd been looking through old photos and remembering holidays and could I think of any other places. He also mentioned that divorce from wife #2 had finally come through - it's taken years! I could remember quite a lot, so sent a chatty reply about places he'd forgotten and added a PS: "Congrats on the divorce. Maybe we should celebrate by getting married? I'm sure it would be great, as long as we didn't live together!"

He replied: "Much as I appreciate your suggestion, I don’t think I want to get married again. As Rod Stewart said, “If you want to get married, just buy a house for the girlfriend and don’t bother.” I'm now tempted to send him a link to something outrageous on Rightmove.

You need to give him 200k out of house sale and split equity and 30k savings.

Anything else your a grabby nowt

No they're not.

50/50 is just a starting point.

As there are no kids and he put in the £200k for the deposit then it's unlikely you are entitled to 50%

He should/will get the £200k then half each of any further equity and savings and pensions.

If you can't afford to buy then you'll have to rent.

I thought it is 15 years in total, but only 6 married.

@whattheysay @Elektra1 No cohabitation is not the same as marriage. It’s why there are threads that say ‘I was with exDP for 20 years with 2 kids and they have now fucked off with new person and left me financially up the swanny. What do I do?’ Personally I think it’s right. Either commit and have the protection or don’t and I am glad that (hopefully) only a 6 year short marriage counts in this situation.

As it goes, I had property and finance before I married DH. We have a pre-nup protecting that. We have made money together but I will still protect the money that was pre him and given to me from my family. Not that I think I need tho (tho hopefully I will never find out annd his family is a whole other ball game with their levels of entitled twattery if you allowed a foot in the door).

And he just doesn’t interfere with how I work out the money that is now being passed to me because of Rachel Reeves. He knows I am fair (I do all the investments for all the family and he doesn’t come up short) and that I am always ‘team us’ based but my decision on this is final. And I would have the same view if roles were reversed. One thing I am is consistent.

OP - You, however, are the worst type of person. Grabby and entitled and I hope you get your arse handed to you.

That’s right just cohabiting without being married gives no legal rights to assets. However a long cohabitation followed by a short marriage will lengthen the time of the marriage. Op lived with him for 9 years followed by a shorter 6 year marriage but that 9 years will be ‘added on’ as such and the marriage will be viewed as longer than 6 years.

If he put his £200k into the house purchase then he shouldn't get his £200k back, he should get whatever percentage of the house's value it represented, ie if it was 30% of the house price then he should get 30% of the house's current value. It's not up to him to continue to prop you up because you haven't bothered to save anything.

@whattheysay urgh. Any grist to her mill is sickening.

I figured she would have made it clear. But in any case it's not looking like she's coming back to clear that up.
I guess the answers did not go as she wanted