Told to cover up

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I was in a cafe earlier breastfeeding my 4 month old. A lady sat down next to me and struck up conversation, she then proceeded to state that I could ‘buy a cover up for breastfeeding’, that she could ‘see my nipple’ and that I had ‘everything on show’.

This was not the case. I was very discreet, wearing a vest under my jumper and a jumper on top covering my breast. She couldn’t see my nipple unless she put her head right next to my breast…
I couldn’t believe that she effectively went out of her way to say this to me and be rather nasty.

It’s the first time someone has said this to me. I told her that I’m not interested in what she has to say, but I was actually upset. I know I shouldn’t care, but breastfeeding is hard work and I’m proud of it, and now I feel embarrassed and paranoid.

Why are people like this?

Dunno, some people just are.

Best not to pay them any mind otherwise none of us would ever do anything.

Weirdo. Best to avoid them.

I breastfeed in public and I would have very calmly told her to stop looking and mind her own business! You can’t control idiots, you can only control how you engage with them.

Tell her to mind her own business and do what you need to do. She’s the weirdo, ignore her.

Buy a cover, and then if anyone asks in future, stick it over their head.

If I was so offended by the sight of breastfeeding I would simply look away, or move table, or go somewhere else, I definitely wouldn't get closer and strike up a conversation with someone who was offending me so much.

Some people are just aresholes, don't feel embarrassed or paranoid, 99% of people probably wouldn't even notice, let alone be upset.

She is the first, but she certainly won't be the last. She is a a busybody bellend.
There will be more out there.
Tell them to get a life.
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I'd have told her to bugger off to another table then so she won't have to Stare at your nipped!

Weirs cow.

I would have told her loudly to stop being a pervert.

I’d have given her a beaming smile and told to her stop looking if it bothered her.

Why on earth do 17% of posters think you are being unreasonable for feeding your baby?
What does it say about them?

Surely, when a baby is feeding there is nothing "offensive" to see anyway?

If I had been sat near you I would have told her to mind her own business.

I think her reaction is pretty uncommon OP, don't let it throw you off. I breastfed everywhere and only ever encountered friendly smiles.

You’re doing amazing and she was completely out of order. If I’d have overheard I’d of told her to piss off and leave you alone! Keep feeding your beautiful baby whenever you need to, it’s incredible. I never had a negative comment and breastfed two babies so there’s every chance it was a shit one off. I hope you don’t have to deal with anything like that again.

Both of mine wouldn't latch on so I exclusively pumped with both of them. Was fortunate enough to have a good supply so it didn't take long.
Anyway, I once pumped (as discreetly as I could) underneath the wing of a Spitfire plane at IWM Duxford 😅
I got some very strange looks, I can tell you 😅

Got nob all to do with anyone else; you carry on feeding your baby how and where they need you to. If anyone has a problem with it, they can piss off. ❤️👌

Please don’t let this discourage you! You’re doing an amazing thing and shouldn’t be made to feel embarrassed. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I was once bf’ing my little one in a cafe sat with a group of mum friends. He must have been a similar age at the time. The owner (middle aged male) came out to take our order and said oh wow, this one has her tits out! I was absolutely mortified. I was wrapped up as it was also winter .. so I have no idea what he was on-about but it made me feel so uncomfortable and embarrassed. There are some arseholes out there but please don’t let them get to you!

We are still going strong 18m down the line and I wouldn’t have it any other way ❤️ Keep doing you

Ah some people are just twats. Don't let it get to you. Next time someone says something, squirt them in the eye.

(Shouldn't really have to clarify that's a joke but this is the Internet so 🤷‍♀️)

She’s a fucking idiot OP. You are amazing and giving your baby the very best start in the world.

Amazing! 🤣

Yes, OP don’t let her get to you. She’s a weirdo! I find everyone in public either very friendly about breastfeeding or they keep their distance.

She's the weird one and can fuck right off!

Try not to give her the power to mess with your head (I know it can be hard)

How can you know that? I bf for about 5 years in total and received no negative comments

Yea I’m glad to say I only had positive comments when breastfeeding in public. I think most people wouldn’t even notice I was doing it if they weren’t sitting very close by. The best comment was an older gent who came up and said how delighted he was that I was breastfeeding in public, that his wife never could.
It is even more disappointing that a woman said this to you.

I think I would go straight to telling her to F* off. Absolutely bizarre that she expects you to feel shame over feeding your baby.

I had the best one. Sat next to a teenage girl on a school trip on a flight. BFing DD. Her mates come up and say “yuk” quietly to her. Proper Saaf Laandon sister says, “SHE’S FEEDING HER BABY!” And gives them the biggest eye roll I’ve ever seen.

She’s probably 30 day and maybe with babies of her own. If she’s on here, I salute you lovely!

Bizarrely, the only time I ever had an issue was on a children’s ward when my baby (aged about 4 weeks) was in for monitoring. I’d not even thought about it, but of all people a nurse informed me that I was offending the dad opposite. I laughed and continued!

Unfortunately there are plenty of bullies around looking for victims. Anything unusual they will pounce on. I used to get it a lot as a teenager, just for being - well, young and perhaps looked a bit naive and vulnerable.

You have nothing to feel paranoid or embarrassed about.

Breastfeeding your baby is one of the most natural
things in the world. The reason we women have breasts is so we can feed our babies.

I hate how breasts are so sexualised in society. I think that’s the reason why some people are uncomfortable by seeing women breastfeed. They’ve been conditioned to think that breasts are for sexual purposes and therefor should be “covered up”.