Told to cover up

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I was in a cafe earlier breastfeeding my 4 month old. A lady sat down next to me and struck up conversation, she then proceeded to state that I could ‘buy a cover up for breastfeeding’, that she could ‘see my nipple’ and that I had ‘everything on show’.

This was not the case. I was very discreet, wearing a vest under my jumper and a jumper on top covering my breast. She couldn’t see my nipple unless she put her head right next to my breast…
I couldn’t believe that she effectively went out of her way to say this to me and be rather nasty.

It’s the first time someone has said this to me. I told her that I’m not interested in what she has to say, but I was actually upset. I know I shouldn’t care, but breastfeeding is hard work and I’m proud of it, and now I feel embarrassed and paranoid.

Why are people like this?

Some stupid bitch came into our cafe kitchen from another department at Sainsbury's cafe and started slagging off a woman breastfeeding (saying "that's nice innit?having your tit out!?")
I was in early pregnancy with my daughter so I said "when this baby is born i intend to breastfeed wherever I want!"
She was all like "ooh really?" A bit surprised. I just got back to my salad prep with a pissed off face

Why would the OP want to throw in some pointless racism, when there are plenty of other good comebacks she could have used, as suggested by many on here?

Is it?
I'm 67 and breastfed DD.

The woman told her you can get nursing covers and pointed out her nipple was on show.

It would be covered by the baby feeding. When I fed DD there was nothing to be seen.

Anyone with an issue is a pathetic prude.

I’d probably have said, ‘I don’t want or need your opinion, thanks.’

The only thing people should be saying to a breastfeeding mum in a cafe is "Can I get you another drink?" It will often be empty or cold after they've fed and dropped off to sleep, and you have no way of ordering another.

Don’t feel upset, feel righteous! Hopefully there won’t be a next time for this sort of encounter, but plan what you’ll say if it happens again so you can be ready.

I didn’t vote as I didn’t easily understand which one to choose

OP is not BU for feeding in public
woman sitting next to OP is 100% BU

What a vicious thing to do. I can understand why you’re upset, it’s even worse that she started up a conversation with you to pretend to be friendly so that she had an in to be hurtful.

Some people just have no joy and want to take it away from others.

I would tell her to cover her eyes if she didn’t like it.

Stupid woman. I’d have told her directly her views were old-fashioned & offensive, undermining (other women), could get her into legal trouble if she works anywhere, and most importantly were not asked for or wanted. Sometimes you need to use very clear, direct language with people.

People are odd when it comes to feeding your DCs. Comments about using a bottle and you should be bf’ing. Comments about showing everything and do it behind closed doors. So Mums are always on a loser with someone.

But hopefully you also get some good comments. I was feeding DD in a pub (discretely I thought) as I had come to meet DH for lunch during his workday, and an old codger looked over after a bit and said it was great to see a mum doing what was best for baby and to keep it up. That one comment helped me get through many nasty ones. And often I would see people looking with a little smile but saying nothing - it’s the people with nasty comments who tend to actually say something while those who think you are doing it right stay quiet.