Would you inform the school?

[Winterstorms2]

My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

Grey areas:
Teacher spat on the floor not in the friend's face
Friend threw a glass of water/wine/whatever in teacher's face and she was actually spitting out the water that hit her
Teacher didn't even spit, it's exaggerated by someone with a vendetta against her
Friend had been saying the vilest and cruelest things to Teacher and, whilst disgusting, she resorted to the one thing she hoped would make the Friend stop (think how technically shoving someone who is getting closer to you and won't leave you alone is assault but everyone would understand your reasoning)

Well I’m Team OP!

She spat at the friend on the school grounds?

I think it is up to the person who was spat at to decide if they want to report to the employer or to the police, assuming no children witnessed the incident. If children did witness it, then I think you should report it to the school.

If no children were present, then you could make the person who was spat at aware that you feel such behaviour is totally unacceptable and remind her that it is assault and she could inform the police and/or the school. But maybe not take direct action yourself?

Nothing to do with you or the school

What does this have to do with you. Do you go running off everytime u see someone do something wrong and grass them up to their bosses?? Defo Karen behaviour!

Not your business at all. If the friend what’s to raise it with school that’s up to her.

If you weren't there and saw it actually happen I wouldn't do anything .
Imagine if she lost her job and she was say a single parent / widow and had just had an awful day , as most days as a teacher can be if you are struggling .
I don't think it's right , it should not have happened , but that is up to your friend to decide.

Report her. Teacher's behaviour outside of school are also meant to represent good principles. Imagine how she treats children if they misbehave! I wouldn't like her around any child! Not reporting her is just complicit!

Some people are really clutching at straws now to excuse spitting at someone. Mind boggling.

Well, it's assault. If your friend reported it to the police, they might inform the school. Better coming from police than a parent. She sounds gross. What's she like normally??

Of course it is 🙄

Shes an unpleasant person generally who actively uses her position as a teacher to get away with things. “They wont do anything with me” “they need me there” “no one will get rid of me” etc.

Well thank you for that entirely incorrect conclusion of events. Fascinating, truly. I will be sure to update this thread when all appropriate action has been taken. You sound like the sort of person who would tell a woman who was raped “well you had a short skirt on you were probably asking for it” “be careful your not lying about it now, you do know police will investigate you as well” “are you sure you didn’t provoke the bloke first?” Disgusting. Take a look at yourself and the kind of people and behaviours you are actively advocating.

People are capable of handling issues with adults and issues with children differently

You have a lot of main character energy OP (as it must be said does the teacher which makes sense as to why you don’t like her)

You don’t know exactly what happened you were not there your role was to support your friend deciding what she wanted to do. That is it - not to report (not your place)

Someone asked where grey areas could be
I was positing some possible reasons where the grey area might be

But of course bring rape into this and make unfounded accusations

It's absolutely not the same

And if you can't take questions being raised over changing stories etc then you won't handle the police and court anyway, because that's what will happen

Shes an unpleasant person generally

Why is your friend, friends with her?

Like I said, I’ll keep you updated. You do not know any facts or grey areas, so its best to say nothing then isn’t it. Believe me this will be handled correctly and factually.

Astounded by the many people excusing the absolutely vile assault from a person who is responsible for potentially some of your children. If this was your child’s teacher would you think it was ok?

Just tell your friend how you feel and leave it there. If she wants to take it further, thats up to her.

Either way, an extremely, extremely, poor way to handle an adult situation, “do as I say not as I do” is it? an extremely poor example in general.

@Winterstorms2Goodness OP!! The amount of people on here who think it’s ok to spit on people aggressively (aka assault and a crime) because “we need teachers” 😂

of course it’s not OK. Definitely go to the police. Teacher may lose job due to this abhorrent behaviour.

I think pennylane is potentially the spitter due to the amount of crazy posts questioning you!

disgusting behaviour and should not be in charge of kids

It’s part of teacher training to maintain a certain level of decorum outside of work.

she’s not upholding the values of the school and can be disciplined.

Use of that name in that way is offensive