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The final straw…

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inthecornersofmymind · 07/01/2026 18:16

My husband and I have not been getting on as well as we should be, although we don’t argue or bicker.

This relationship is taking a toll on me, and I just can't handle it anymore.

This morning, our 10-year-old eldest son felt very excited about returning to school.

I had a phone call late morning, where they asked me to pick him up as he was not feeling well. As soon as we got into the car, he mentioned he wasn't feeling unwell. He apologised and explained that he lied because he knew I was upset, and he just wanted to return home to be with me.

I am good at masking my emotions around the children, but they claim that children can sense things.

At just 10 years old, he shouldn't have to think about me while at school; in fact, he should be free of any worries.

When we got back home, I phoned my husband, only for him to claim that this issue is something I've caused myself and that he is 'not trying to hear it.'

He displayed no concern whatsoever for our son being upset at school.

I am struggling to cope with this.

Recently, I have encouraged us to go to therapy because I am convinced it will help us work through our difficulties. He lacks any interest but tells me I should have it for my benefit.

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Pumpkinlit · 23/01/2026 07:04

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Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 07:47

inthecornersofmymind · 22/01/2026 19:51

I had my first therapy session today, and I came away feeling good and hopeful.

Just before heading out, I told my husband he didn’t need to accompany me into the session since I'd feel more comfortable going in alone.

He claimed that every time he attempts to support me, I push him away, and that I am on my own from this point forward. During the drive there, he ignored me, failed to pick me up after my session, and chose not to respond to my calls.

He has been totally distant with me tonight, and I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong.

Do you drive? Is it that he is annoyed at having to give you a lift and for you to turn around and say he doesn't need to come in with you, making it seem like you have used him as a taxi service?

inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 09:53

Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 07:47

Do you drive? Is it that he is annoyed at having to give you a lift and for you to turn around and say he doesn't need to come in with you, making it seem like you have used him as a taxi service?

We each have our own cars; he said that he would drive.

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inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 10:00

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I thought he would be okay; I didn't realise he was actually looking forward to it.

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Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 17:14

inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 09:53

We each have our own cars; he said that he would drive.

So I am guessing he offered to drive as he was under the impression you wanted him to go. I don't understand why you didn't say to him earlier in the day you have your therapy session booked, you will be leaving at X time and back around Y time (and therefore drove yourself).

inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 17:53

Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 17:14

So I am guessing he offered to drive as he was under the impression you wanted him to go. I don't understand why you didn't say to him earlier in the day you have your therapy session booked, you will be leaving at X time and back around Y time (and therefore drove yourself).

I doubted that he genuinely wanted to take me there, so I assumed he would be okay with me saying that he didn’t need to enter the room with me.

I feel sad because he was putting in the effort, bless him. He is still unhappy with me; last night, he slept with his back turned to me and hasn't really spoken since.

The moment I collect our 4-year-old from nursery, he has chosen to act like a little devil. I'm trying my hardest to avoid getting stressed out.

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Thattimenow · 15/02/2026 07:35

Just seen your last thread about hitting your husband.

you need to tell your therapist @inthecornersofmymind

Avslighthead · 17/04/2026 18:54

I wonder how this family is going?

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