WIBU to tell MIL she was speaking nonsense?

[InkyBlueStar]

We hosted MIL, and BIL and SIL for Christmas this year and when it came to opening presents she made several comments along the lines of ‘look at you opening another present’. It was really annoying me because I was actually the one under the tree, handing out presents, helping my grumpy teething baby to open their presents, and all with a broken finger. By the third time she piped up ‘not another present for you Inky’ it was actually the first present I’d opened but when I said that it was ignored. I ended up leaving my presents from DH, and my family and friends and opened them in peace alone later because I couldn’t be arsed with more comments. I was already thin on patience with non sleeping, teething baby and didn’t want to snap.

I thought all was forgotten until we were out for Sunday lunch with MIL, and DH’s aunt and uncle and chatting about Christmas and MIL said how she couldn’t believe that I was sitting under the tree opening present after present. This time I said ‘well that’s clearly nonsense MIL, I only opened the presents from you and BIL/SIL on Christmas morning’. She went quiet and after bit of awkwardness it was brushed over, but since then she’s definitely been off with me. Was I being unreasonable to be so blunt? I’m a real people pleaser and part of me is wanting to apologise and the other part is thinking that she deserved to be told but maybe not so bluntly. FWIW because I know it will come up from other MIL threads, I find her very hard work and don’t particularly like her. I am generally the peacekeeper because DH has very limited patience for her and he definitely thinks I shouldn’t apologise but I think he can be too blunt.

She sounds rather nasty.

Definitely NBU. Don't worry about the MIL bashing, I love my MIL but this is the kind of stunt my DM would pull on me.

Well done on calling her out. I am going to use the 'nonsense' line with DM from now on. 😀

YANBU, leave it, she's the one that kept going on and on, she absolutely deserved to be shut down.

Why would you not stick up for yourself?
She sounds awful.
Maybe she is envious she is aware you are a nicer person than her...

I would've just said at the time this is the first present I've opened I've just been handing out to others and helping baby. I wouldn't have not opened the rest of my presents!

She sounds awful. Yanbu, don’t you dare apologise.

I wouldn’t invite her again

Nah, fuck her! Maybe she’ll think before she speaks next time.

Don’t apologise. Hopefully, she’ll think twice about pointed comments like that.
I learnt far too late in life to not allow disrespect.
well done for sticking up for yourself.

And the others should have laughed at her and told her to behave at the time it was happening.

Yep sounds like a MIL. Don't invite her over til after the presents are opened next year. I had years of mine inserting herself in to my sons Christmas mornings and wish I'd put a stop to it when he was a baby.

Could she have meant that you were opening DCs presents with him but she thinks you should've given your DH and ILs the opportunity to open a present with DC?

She’s happy to belittle you publicly so good for you for putting her right. I’d limit contact.

No, she sounds like a dick and people like that are best being put in their place as often as possible so they know you won’t tolerate it.

If you don’t like her in general I’d say it’s a win win if she’s fell out with you!

Sounds like mine. ‘Are you stuffing your face again’ when I was drinking some water.
Like that all the time, just nasty little digs. I assume to make her feel better but it just made me not want to be around her.

YADNBU. I had a similar MIL, I used to let some things pass, but wasn't afraid to speak out.

YANBU and neither is your DH.

Always correct her.

Maybe she was, but she could have said it in a much nicer way. Like “Op, do you want us to hold the baby while you open your presents?”

Mil suffered a classic case of fuck around and find out. She was rude and passive aggressive and had it firmly pointed out to her. Hopefully she learns her lesson.

Maybe she's a bit awkward and thought she was being amusing instead of obviously being crass.

Just take a big step back from her. She sounds batshit.

What else are you supposed to do with presents given to you? What was her point? I would have just said something like 'I know, I am very lucky and grateful' with the most serene smile on my face. Just because some people want to play stupid games doesn't mean you have to play along. Ignore subtle digs like this, she was baiting you. When you don't let yourself be hooked by such people they usually lose interest. Some people just have a meanness to them and need to subtly stir the pot.

Do not apologise, you did nothing wrong. If you apologise she'll just bask in the drama she created. Ignore and move on. Life is too short to engage with nonsense like this.

She was happy to make snarky comments about you, all you did was correct her. Feel no guilt

My response would’ve been “are you being rude again”?

I honestly would not give a shit about upsetting nasty cu next Tuesdays like this. When you (unfortunately) have people like this in your life it’s imperative to have a load of pithy retorts in your arsenal! It takes gumption at first but then you’ll start to enjoy it 😂

I might have been on the fence about this to start with, but the fact that she harped back on about it AGAIN well after Christmas was over was completely wrong of her. Don't apologise. Just don't mention it again unless she tries the same thing again, in which case shut it down, fast.

People who talk rot shouldn’t get uppity about being corrected on their nonsense. YANBU!