Am I the only woman in my mid thirties who has 2 dc and doesn’t have that nagging feeling for another?

[muted9]

I’m 35. Mine are just turned 6 and 2.5, so possibly I’m still in the thick of it all with 2 of them being young, but I know already when they’re a bit older I’m still not going to long for a 3rd. I swear everyone I know says they wish they could have another as it’s their last chance type thing, nope not me! Anyone else?

I had mine at 33 and 36. They are both well into primary school now and there hasn't been a single day when I've wanted a third (though DH did for a while).

I was sterilised a few days before my 32nd birthday, when mine were 9 and 7. Almost everyone I know has one or two children.

I think a lot of the time it’s not exactly a real longing, but as the door closes on the baby and toddler stage that’s it, it’s the end to a chapter in your life. No more maternity leave or toddler groups or cots or potties. Even if you hated it, it can be hard letting go.

I don’t want a third. My youngest turns two and a half this month, but it did surprise me when I realised I only have one more Christmas with her at nursery. The nursery has been in my life since 2021; six years is a long time and it will be strange when I’m no longer going to it two / three times a week.

DH got a vascetomy when DC2 was 1.5. I'm now 38 and very happy with 2!

Occasionally I hold a newborn and think, oh this would be lovely to do again. But I'm not sure I could do the sleep deprivation!

I had 3 and am totally done. I can imagine someone else getting to the same point with 2. Most families we know have two.

I'm about to be 35 and absolutely don't want to have another one 😂

I was totally done with two up until recently… mine are 8 and 5 and I know I’d be mad to go back to starting over but it’s that nagging feeling you describe… but it’s not as strong as the absolute pining I had for my first baby…

I was you. When my DC were a little older than yours are now I went to university and developed a new career. I loved my DC and still do, but having little ones is a phase and there is more to life. Don’t feel guilty. Make your own life.

Nope. Wanted two, had two. They are now 6 & 8, im 40. Not once have I had pangs for a third.

No I know loads of women/families with two kids or even one.

It is permissible to ignore clear idiots. Most of my friends, relatives, colleagues etc have 2 kids. Some have 3, some more, some 1, some zero. Not had any experience of people saying everyone wants 3 kids.

I’m 35 with two. DD is nearly 9 & DS nearly 7 and I would rather eat rusty nails than do it all again.

We had a stillborn daughter inbetween two sons. If that hadn’t happened we would have been content with two, but very grateful for our third (a little girl) 5 years later

Er, no. Most of my friends have zero kids, others 1 or 2. I have 3 but are massively in the minority.

Have never had any desire to have a third - even the thought of it fills me with dread - I love my children to bits and have no regrets having them but two is plenty for me and I’d have stopped at one if it wasn’t for having a second marriage.

I've got three and would love another. My body would not appreciate it though 🤣
She says as she's clearing out baby stuff 😭

Nope. 34 with a 12 and 6 year old. Had my 2yr old nephew sleep over a few times, im definitely done, as much as I like the idea, it would not be a good reality!

You've totally just described me. I'm 39, my kids are 7 and 3 and I want another one. My DH isn't for turning though, he's a few years older and feels like he's too old to have another which is fair enough.

I'm in the minority though, most of my friends have 2 kids and look at you like you've grown a second head if you mention intentionally having a third. All the third kids I know have been surprises. 😂

Hell no I have 2 under 10 and in my late ,30s no way do I want another