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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?

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veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

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FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 07/01/2026 16:00

When I was a very naive 17 yo and first year University student, I met a 19 yo in a band who told me he was a recovered heroin addict and anorexic. He told me a shocking story about going on tour with the band at 15 and how his manager had threatened to stop the tour as he had eaten nothing and spent the last 4 days doing heroin. He invited me on a date which I agreed to, then cancelled on me with a few hours notice saying that he was in trouble with a protection racket associated with his band and didn't want to be seen with me in case I was targeted by them.

By this point I was starting to feel a bit suspicious. However, it was when I met the other bandmates that his cover was fully blown. When I told them what he'd told me they howled with laughter. The band started when he was 18, they'd never been on tour and he had arrived at University as a coddled home counties boy with no experience of drugs or any other criminality.

He became quite notorious amongst our year group, and then the one below, for his wild stories to get girls into bed and then excuse his poor behaviour afterwards. He told one girl he'd been abducted by the mafia. She poured a drink over him and slapped him and he spent the rest of the evening whining and saying that he now had a cut in his mouth and this could damage his singing voice which was his livelihood.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 07/01/2026 16:48

MyPetLampshade · 07/01/2026 12:47

In the theme of folk who make things up, I had a few dates with a woman who had been in the military. She stayed an extra night at mine so she could watch the memorial service. I had to stay up all night with her rubbing her back and comforting her on bonfire night as the fireworks triggered her from being in Afghanistan. She had photos of herself in army uniform and talked about her times there.

She even went so far as to invite me to be her plus one to a related event where she'd apparently be receiving some award or other. Quite lavish I was told so duly donned a ballgown and heels.
Got there, and it was in a sort of hut. I was freezing! And quite bewildered/bemused. There were some awards given out, my date did not get one! Then it was a 3 hour drive home back to her house-the 'do' was closer to mine but she had insisted I stay over at hers the night before as it would be easier.

I 100% knew it was a load of twaddle. She was very overweight (not in itself a problem for me but does not work well for military activity) and had a childhood injury to her foot which meant walking was painful and she'd had multiple operations, she was not fit for the army!

Unfortunately for me, she was phenomenal in bed. So I put up with this tripe for a fair while.

I need a 😂 for your comment (sorry)

333FionaG · 07/01/2026 17:50

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 07/01/2026 16:00

When I was a very naive 17 yo and first year University student, I met a 19 yo in a band who told me he was a recovered heroin addict and anorexic. He told me a shocking story about going on tour with the band at 15 and how his manager had threatened to stop the tour as he had eaten nothing and spent the last 4 days doing heroin. He invited me on a date which I agreed to, then cancelled on me with a few hours notice saying that he was in trouble with a protection racket associated with his band and didn't want to be seen with me in case I was targeted by them.

By this point I was starting to feel a bit suspicious. However, it was when I met the other bandmates that his cover was fully blown. When I told them what he'd told me they howled with laughter. The band started when he was 18, they'd never been on tour and he had arrived at University as a coddled home counties boy with no experience of drugs or any other criminality.

He became quite notorious amongst our year group, and then the one below, for his wild stories to get girls into bed and then excuse his poor behaviour afterwards. He told one girl he'd been abducted by the mafia. She poured a drink over him and slapped him and he spent the rest of the evening whining and saying that he now had a cut in his mouth and this could damage his singing voice which was his livelihood.

Oh bless him. I knew someone similar, a privately educated young man who pretended to have been homeless and in recovery from addiction, when he had never actually left home, and his drug taking was a couple of paracetamol on occasion. These silly boys think it makes them sound glamorous. There is nothing glamorous about addiction or homelessness.

MyPetLampshade · 07/01/2026 18:11

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 07/01/2026 16:48

I need a 😂 for your comment (sorry)

😆 just being truthful!

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 07/01/2026 20:57

MyPetLampshade · 07/01/2026 18:11

😆 just being truthful!

Love it 😁

OVienna · 07/01/2026 21:05

BinseyPoplars · 05/01/2026 17:28

The advert for The Salt Path in the middle of a thread about made-up rubbish is making me laugh!

Excellent. But yes. And the fact it is not at all clear the publishers care.

Umy15r03lcha1 · 07/01/2026 21:53

ElephantGrey101 · 05/01/2026 17:35

I think this is not a new thing we are just more aware of it due to the internet. I read a good book by Zadie Smith ( the Fraud) which was based on a true story about this guy who pretended to be a dead Lord to inherit his estate in Victorian times there was a big legal case about it.

People also claimed to be the princes in the tower and Princess Anastasia. We know that girl wasn’t Madeline MacCan because she had a DNA test. In the past people wouldn’t have had a DNA test.

As to why people do it. I have no idea. The psychology behind it is fascinating.

Episode 400 on The Rest Is History

ClemenceD · 10/01/2026 18:38

While it was dumb to say Brigitte Macron is a man, it is even more bonkers to me that it was prosecuted as a crime. If it met the legal definition of libel, she should have been entitled to sue for damages, but that is in civil court, not criminal.

Tadpolesinponds · 10/01/2026 18:47

8 men and 2 women were prosecuted for cyberbullying. One woman had published a 4 hour video on Youtube. The allegations against Madame Macron included allegations of paedophilia.

Catdaddy1978 · 10/01/2026 20:33

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

Yes that did make me wonder, where do the potatoes go!

NotDarkGothicMama · 11/01/2026 11:46

Tadpolesinponds · 10/01/2026 18:47

8 men and 2 women were prosecuted for cyberbullying. One woman had published a 4 hour video on Youtube. The allegations against Madame Macron included allegations of paedophilia.

That's not entirely untrue though, is it? She was 39 when she met 15 year-old Macron. He was in the same class as her daughter and Brigitte was a teacher, in a position of responsibility and authority. I know what I'd be saying if it was a 39 year-old male teacher dating one of his 15 year-old students.

Blueskiesnotgrey · 11/01/2026 13:33

Yes, she may not be a man/lizard/whatever but she is a safeguarding nightmare and terrible human being.

Shantayyoustaysashayaway · 11/01/2026 22:38

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 17:06

Not wanting to derail my own thread but I did know someone who put boiled eggs through her macaroni and cheese. Apparently it makes it delicious

My dm used to put halved boiled eggs around the side of the dish of cooked cauliflower then put cheese sauce over both 🤷🏻

GarlicSound · 11/01/2026 23:06

ByWarmShark · 05/01/2026 23:01

He is attractive! I'm a little sad I'm not his type (only possible reason we're not an item). His podcasts are excellent and the brain one in particular really does explain a lot which is confusing about humans. (I'm not being paid by Derren Brown or Audible...)

He just makes you both believe he's attractive ....

GarlicSound · 11/01/2026 23:25

ByWarmShark · 06/01/2026 17:43

Sorry for the chatGPT bumpf but this is how cognitive dissonance works - it's why when you argue with someone and have clear evidence they're wrong, they find a way to make your argument consistent with their existing beliefs, and end up just getting more extreme (and more bonkers!) With so many people arguing on the Internet this encourages a lot of extreme viewpoints:

In Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me), the authors focus less on why someone says “I did it” and more on how an innocent person can come to genuinely believe they are guilty.
How cognitive dissonance works in their explanation:
The person starts out believing “I’m innocent.”
Authorities insist there is strong evidence and treat guilt as certain.
This creates dissonance: “I believe I’m innocent, but everyone with power says I’m guilty and they say they have proof I did it"
To reduce that discomfort, the mind may change the belief:
“If they’re so sure, maybe I did do it.”
Once that belief shifts, a confession feels logical and consistent. It's easier to resolve the dissonance in this way than to maintain an innocence claim. To fully resolve the dissonance the person must come to completely believe in their own guilt.
Key point from the book:
The most dangerous false confessions are internalized ones — where people don’t just comply, but rewrite their own memory and self-story to resolve dissonance.

I was looking at 17th century English witch trials the other day. It was striking that many of them confessed, despite never having claimed any special powers before then and being horrified when arrested. These women and girls weren't facing torture as far as I can tell, it seems to have been the trial itself that led to their confessions. Your explanation makes the most sense.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 11/01/2026 23:28

Bigearringsbigsmile · 05/01/2026 17:05

Cheese in the bechemal for lasagne is pretty standard And maybe potatoes for a gluten free lasagne?

I think the Internet has allowed all the bonkers people to find each other easily making them more visible and vocal.

Flour in the Béchamel and the pasta means it's still not suitable.

And everybody knows that potatoes with a lasagne should be chips.

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