Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

No you pay for yourself at what ever cost

Nope I am pt and would never expect a friend to subsidise me! I also wouldn't like feeling indebted to the paying friend or that they felt they had more right to say what activities we did, places we eat, drink etc. You are setting the expectation of paying every time don't do it

If someone can't afford something, they do without it. It's not on their friends to subsidise their lives. If you pay for this holiday, the chances are sooner or later, this gesture could sour your friendship. Don't do it.

No, that's a bizarre suggestion. An arrangement like that would only be sensible if it was with someone with whom you had joint finances, i.e. spouse or long-term partner.

No. Should be 50:50.

Also pt person can afford it. They just need to use some of their savings towards the holiday (it’s irrelevant if it’s earmarked for something else) and/or work more hours.

Alternatively, go on a cheaper holiday.

Oh come on OP who are you in this situation?

I am going on holiday with a friend who is a millionaire and was able to retire in her fifties after being a Director of a household name company.

I earn £53k and live in a tiny cottage alone. It absolutely wouldn’t occur to me to expect her to pay more than half.

She has offered to pay for room upgrade in hotel because she needs a balcony so she can vape! Nothing to do with her superior financial situation though, and in any case I offered to still pay half because I will enjoy having the balcony.

No, absolutely not.

This cannot be real!!

No

No. I work part time and if I was going away with a friend would expect to pay halves regardless of what I am saving for. If I couldn't afford the holiday I simply wouldn't go. It isn't mandatory to go on holiday nor is it for a friend who works or earns more to pick up more of the tab. The friend in this scenario is a cf.

One of the maddest things I’ve read on here, and competition is stiff.

No, of course not. Why should the person who earns more subsidise the other person?

No, you pay halves and the price of the holiday should be affordable for both people

No

Of course not, it should be split 50-50.

Not unless the wealthier one is insisting on a pricey holiday.

To be fair I’ve heard of people offering to take a friend on a cruise because of the single supplement making it cheaper to take a second person- but it was a one person pays for the cruise but second person pays their half of the food/drink package/travel/day trips etc

So I suppose person 1 could say “I’m going anyway and it’s £ cost for me but only £ amount to add a second so you just pay the extra and we’ll evenly split everything else”

But they shouldn’t feel obliged to do that just because their friend works part time

No

50.50

This !

Why can't the part timer work full time?

NO. You pay what you owe.

The usual way to handle this is:

1. Formal cost split is 50:50, so no one feels taken advantage of or patronised.
2. The richer friend finds ways to fund more, so there’s no awkwardness about not being able to do stuff because the less-well-off party can’t afford it.

Eg everyone splits dinner, but the person who suggested the restaurant orders a few bottle of wine. We’ve rented a boat for Little Jimmy as he so wants to lean to sail, he’d love if it Bob could come along too if he’s free. Etc.

One practical reason is that otherwise you can only do things the poorest party can comfortably afford and that can itself become awkward.

erm no!! 50/50 or they do not go!

No, 50/50