How do I tell my husband to wax his back?

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This is my first post on here so can someone help me tell
my husband to wax his back. My daughter always says on holiday he is like a tree and it’s very embarrassing.
Should I be concerned how much hair is on his back.
HELP ME!!!

People talking about being “repulsed” or “gagging” at the idea of a hairy back might want to keep in mind that some ethnicities tend to grow more body hair than others. If you don’t find it attractive, fine, but as the wife of a man with Lebanese ancestry, I find it really distasteful for people to act like a characteristic that’s normal and common in my husband’s ethnic background is disgusting.

You can ask, OP. You can’t “tell”, as in your OP. You aren’t his boss.

I would work on your dd’s rudeness, body shaming and perception of what is an absolutely normal body first.

What age is she to be making such hurtful comments about someone else’s body? If very young she needs guidance now. If secondary school age she needs a very firm word. If she is being rude about your dh’s body it can easily be her friends imperfections she picks on next. You should not be encouraging her by thinking about manipulating your dh to wax.

I hear you OP. My oh has (a lot)of back hair. I tried to persuade him in the past to have it removed but he won't have it.
It's part of him he says. Looks very unsightly , and as the years go by , you see less heary backs about. Just like hairy armpits in women. People stare and I think he feels a bit self conscious, so unfortunately we won't have much time doing activities that involve showing his back.
Maybe he could agree to wear a swimming shirt while at the beach so "he doesn't get burnt".

I'm sure there are other women out there who will find him attractive as he is if you don't.

My husband has a hairy back, I shave it for him maybe once every 4 months 😆 it gets a shave for holidays ! That’s about it. It keeps him warm in the winter 🤣

You'd love it if your husband started a comment about your appearance with "ew" would you?

Was it like this when you married him? If you were ok with it then, why is it an issue now?

I'm pretty slack about my legs & armpits (hello.... The french often don't shave theirs!) And I'd be fuming if DH tried to tell me what to shave. I would not dream of telling him to.

Oooo no. Love a hairy man 😃

Send him my way. 😍

I love a hairy man. But if I didn't, I wouldn't have married one. And having married one, I love everything about him.

When your dh starts to go bald, as most men eventually do, will you suggest he goes to get a hair transplant? You are shallow, op.

Ask him what words he would use to make the same request of you and your daughter. Poor DH, sharing a holiday with such a shallow pair.

I asked mine to have his shoulders waxed about 20 years ago. He was happy to have it done and it’s never grown back.

So you're just going to engage with the comments you agree with? None of the others?

Do you really think that this is a good example for your daughter? To pressure someone into doing something they don't want.

You would be better off explaining to her that some people are hairy and to accept it.

If you didn't want a man with a hairy back you shouldn't have married one.

Your poor DH.

The comments here are disgusting. If the sexes were reversed for a similar issue we'd be up in arms.

Grow up and educate your DD that bodies are different. That there will be people who don't like aspects of her physical appearance but that doesn't mean she has to change.

Unless he’s been asked nobody knows whether he’d be amenable to it or not. There’s no harm in asking.

Does he want to wax his back? Surely it's up to him. I love hairy en ( except beards lol)

I find it appalling and shallow that people encourage each other to spend enormous amounts on superficial, pointless stuff like hair removal.

Whereas I like hairy men and it would feel strange going for a guy who is as smooth as a baby

It’s hardly an enormous amount. It costs me £8 to have my chin and upper lip waxed.

Right, and given it’s your face I understand why- I shave mine 😬

But to wax a back regularly must add up to a considerable amount over time! Body builders and models, fine. Ordinary blokes? Why bother?

It’s everyone’s choice of course, but I don’t think there should be social pressure of the type OP and her daughter are buying into!

I once went to bed with a man who had removed all his body hair including his pubes. He looked like a baby. I laughed that much I had to leave.

Unless he insists that you have to remove your body hair in a certain way, leave him alone. DD will just have to get over herself.

My husband is hairy (back, chest, legs) and shaves his head (he suits his short beard as well). It’s the way he is and I like that. It’s masculine and I love him. He has sensitive skin so shaving/waxing would probably cause him a lot of issue.
Yes I shave my legs and armpits more for me (and keep myself tidy for the swimming pool) but I would hate if he told me what to do.
YABU

Surely you tell your DD to not be so disrespectful? How would you feel if your DH came to you and told you to wear your hair a certain way or loose a few pounds? I know I’d be hurt if someone told me to change something about myself that I weren’t bothered about.

I agree. I love a hairy back on someone I already fancy.