All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

Lots of people really, really loved judging overweight people. They are now upset that their moral high ground has vanished and they can no longer hate on the poor old fatties, who are now much thinner and can maintain a healthy weight with minimal effort.

True, although if someone had quit smoking I would probably ask ‘did you use nicotine patches etc?’ and the two (WLIs and nicotine patches) have been compared as like for like on here, so maybe some people see it in the same way and don’t think they are being rude?

Just to add personally I wouldn’t/haven’t asked anyone myself.

There are ways around this. I’ve been supplying photos for years when buying, they introduced dated ones I think last year. I remember once I just guessed my weight when completing my form but then they came back asking for an updated photo, when I weight myself I wasn’t as heavy as I thought. My full length photo I am quite clearly overweight but the scales were 1.5kgs less than I’d said so I put a bunch of heavy towels around my neck to bump up the scales photo.

People are still getting them even if they aren’t overweight. My friend asked me to get her some using my photos, I said no but she found someone else to do it for her. Then there are the dodgy ones available.

My DHs workmate said she was taking her DHs that he was getting prescribed, apparently he didn’t like taking the full dose so he’d take some and she’d take some. This is what I’m talking about when I say people ruin it for others, the woman was at most a size 10 but now looks like one of those emancipated people taking it.

I’m sure everyone (or many) assume this about me. In fact I did the NHS Diabetes Pathway to Remission program which is 12 weeks meal replacement followed by 9 months follow up,

I tried Mounjaro but could t get on with it.. my SIL though is doing great on MJ.

Sigh. Because again, my medical information is literally none of anyone else’s business. You don’t have any right to ask me what medication I’m on. I don’t owe you anything.

Why are you deliberately lying when it’s so obvious that you’ve lost a huge amount of weight?

Are you wanting to give the impression that you managed to lose all this weight with willpower alone?

Why mislead your friends by lying to them?

I’ve got no view on how people lose weight, but my son (living in America for a lot of years) says that, over there, the weight piles on back again, once the jabs have to stop, which they do.

Permanent weight loss needs a complete change of lifestyle.

I’m disabled. Mostly in a wheelchair because of mobility problems. My weight was exacerbating my condition but I didn’t qualify for weight loss drugs and couldn’t afford to pay for them myself. I went on a strict calorie controlled diet and lost 8 stone over about 15 months. The assumption is that I’ve been on Mounjaro when in fact it’s just willpower and the desire to improve my mobility. Infuriating.

It’s great, obesity affects all of society.

It probably is WLIs but people are under no obligation to share health information, and why would you when so many people are weird and judgmental about them!

I think it's amazing that so many people are having this life saving treatment, it's an incredibly revolution.

I lost 4 stone since April 24. At first I said it was high protein/low carb but then I realized my friends who struggled with their weight, felt guilty as they couldn't maintain the weight loss...so I have come clean and if anyone asks I admit to WLI ... everyone is very supportive and no judgement. I absolutely love my injections, not just for the weight loss but all the other benefits...my allergies have gone, I'm more mobile and I do think my moods have improved. I have more head space as I'm not totally transfixed with being over weight 😁😁😁

@Yuja

suppressing hunger is a side effect of the medication. There are numerous other primary physiological elements that it contributed to make an obese body operate much more efficiently.

i guess many people (myself included) will be taking it long term. I am now in maintenance, which means I take a lower dose every 10 days rather than a higher one every 7.

Gosh, your son knows everyone using WLI in the States? He knows a hell of a lot of people…

And no, you don’t have to come off them. Why do people state things with such conviction when they know so little about it?

I’d like to try it but I’m scared of the side effects and long term effects.

Good for those who are brave enough though and I can’t see the point of not being upfront about it. As a pp said, it’ll be assumed you are lying about it anyway.

This. My partner has type two diabetes because of impaired mobility. He had gained a lot of weight which exacerbated his condition. Since being prescribed Mounjaro he’s lost weight and reversed his diabetes. The drug has also improved his heart condition and overall health. So much judgement and I suspect the root of it is with those who would have to pay for it themselves/. Mounjaro was developed for type two diabetes and has been hijacked by those using it to lose weight. This has impacted the ability for those using it for its original intention to obtain it.

The long term effects of obesity are pretty bad too…

Why are you framing it as though someone is being betrayed by by not being told medical information of someone else? Do you feel betrayed by a diabetic not discussing their ways to manage their condition? Do they need to tell you whether they lower their blood sugar by diet or have started medication?

Why do you insist so much? In my opinion you must have a psychological issue.

This is the issue. I am on injections after a lifetime of obesity. I feel utterly embarrassed that it’s the only thing that seems to have worked. I hate the nod and the wink I am getting from various friends and acquaintances who all seem to want me to be embarrassed. Only people who have congratulated me are those who haven’t pointedly asked about it. Obesity is such a complex thing and adding embarrassment to those of us able to make this work is really unfair. I’m working so hard at it. Much harder than ever before because I have to justify the cost to myself. Feel so sad some days when I should be over the moon,

It's no-one else's business how anyone loses weight.

But I think some people expect those who used to go on about Slimming World, keto, fasting, Weight Watchers etc to be just as open about the jabs.

And not everyone is, and that's their choice.

Because “none of your business” doesn't stop people I assume.

We had years and years of infertility problems. “none of your business” never ever shut down someone who was prying about why we hadn’t produced children yet.

Polite demurrals didn’t work.
Less polite deflection didn’t work.
Saying “none of your business” absolutely didn’t work.

I used to lie and say I was focusing on my career because otherwise I’d spend every social occasion crying in a corner.

Society is designed to make people embarrassed and ashamed about their weight. Good manners dictate that you compliment someone who looks nice and then shut the hell up.

”Just my thoughts” but if you ask a very rude question you are absolutely not entitled to a truthful response.

Will you take that forever?
im just interested because to be honest, I am thin because I ignore hunger a lot of the time. I let my stomach hurt and just have a coffee or water and wait it out. Over the years I have learnt to always say no to cakes, biscuits, treats even if I would really really like it. It’s not very pleasant sometimes but it’s what I do because I like being thin and I always have. Sometimes I’m thinking about food all the time. Other people I know who are thin also deny themselves. On WLI you don’t have to do this right, because the medication essentially does it for you? So this is why they need to be taken at a maintenance dose forever?

In the UK you are monitored whether you pay for the jabs or not. Once you have reached your goal weight access is limited. The drug was developed for diabetes. Those using it for weight loss are affecting the availability of it for those who actually need it.

What is the unreasonableness? Yes they probably have GLP prescriptions. They are widely available becuse obesity is deadly and costs the public purse billions and most people can’t reverse it without help. These drugs are a massive benefit to society. But we haven’t caught up with how to think and talk about obesity yet. We’ll have to drop this moral judgement around weight and weightloss - which will be beneficial to everyone too

I wouldn’t like to be lied to by a good friend, that’s all.