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Clareypoos · 29/12/2025 18:03

It was nice of him to cook for you all. So what if he fell asleep, it’s no big deal. He deserves a bit of down time, a few drinks and a nap after cooking for you all. It’s not nice for you mum to not thank him. Why is it embarrassing?

Trallers · 29/12/2025 18:05

I think it sounds funny and your mum is being excessively disapproving. Draw a mustache on him and ignore the snoring is surely the correct response?! Different if he'd been sloshed and unpleasant and then passed out, but he cooked 2 meals for you all, wasn't that drunk, and then had a sleep. His only crime was that it was on the sofa rather than the bed.

Zerosleep · 29/12/2025 18:06

Your mum is rude and judgmental, your husband was tired and relaxing over the Christmas holidays, I think you are both being really uptight, why does it matter

Carly990 · 29/12/2025 18:08

What has he done wrong? I am confused? Was it not his Christmas as well? Is he not allowed to enjoy himself while COOKING for you all? Your Mom sounds like an awful guest tbh!

Carly990 · 29/12/2025 18:09

My Cousins boyfriend fell asleep at our house one Christmas so we balanced things on him like buckaroo, until he woke up. 😂😂😂

DeedsNotDiddums · 29/12/2025 18:12

Omg your mother is being very strange. It's a sign of how comfortable he is with her. Also, if he cooked, and was tired as a result, he deserves a little grace.

LargeJugs · 29/12/2025 18:12

Eh, the snoring - gross.

Falling asleep after a busy morning cooking and alcohol … yeah I’ve done that too, especially when I went out drinking Xmas Eve. I slept on the floor between alarms to do things 🤣

shhblackbag · 29/12/2025 18:14

You could have woken him up and suggested he went upstairs to bed.

JaneM23 · 29/12/2025 18:16

First you should have kindly wake up your husband and help him go to bed and not leave him on the sofa.after all he spent all day cooking. Your mum needs to be more understanding, isn’t the end of the world. Unless if she wants to spend Christmas alone next year

Mum23plusC · 29/12/2025 18:16

Your Mum needs to chill out. He made the meal, its Christmas, give him a break! Next year keep the old wrapping paper from the gifts, screw them into balls and when he does it again make him target practice for the next game :-)

ForCandidDuck · 29/12/2025 18:16

Isn't that standard for christmas/boxing day?? 😂 and he cooked... give him a break

AgnesX · 29/12/2025 18:19

If you were that embarrassed you should have woken him up. You and your mother need to get over yourselves.

thepragmatic · 29/12/2025 18:20

Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 18:59

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

You sound like a lousy wife, sorry to say. A spouse's job is to protect their person from harm/shame. You should have woken him up ASAP and helped him get to bed. Imagine if the roles were reversed and you fell asleep on couch with ur knickers showing in front of FIL, and your husband did nothing to protect you! As for your pompous mum, she can keep her opinions to herself if she can't be grateful to your husband for hosting. Yikes!

Dontfencemein · 29/12/2025 18:20

On the scale of unacceptable things that people can do after having a few drinks at Christmas time, this is very, very low, perhaps not even on the scale. I would be politely but firmly telling your mother that far worse things happen at sea and it’s really not worth her getting worked up over.

Chinsupmeloves · 29/12/2025 18:21

When these things happen we just find it funny and leave them be.

Jinglejells · 29/12/2025 18:21

IkeaJesusChrist · 28/12/2025 19:05

Your mum needs to chill the fuck out.

Exactly. It’s HIS home. He can fall off to sleep on his own couch if he wants! He even cooked the entire day. What did your mother even do to help??

OneFunBrickNewt · 29/12/2025 18:21

I think you posted your AIBU too early and missed out the part with the problem in it.

Jinglejells · 29/12/2025 18:22

ForCandidDuck · 29/12/2025 18:16

Isn't that standard for christmas/boxing day?? 😂 and he cooked... give him a break

Exactly while the two lazies are moaning and complaining about him!

SereneCoralExpert · 29/12/2025 18:23

thepragmatic · 29/12/2025 18:20

You sound like a lousy wife, sorry to say. A spouse's job is to protect their person from harm/shame. You should have woken him up ASAP and helped him get to bed. Imagine if the roles were reversed and you fell asleep on couch with ur knickers showing in front of FIL, and your husband did nothing to protect you! As for your pompous mum, she can keep her opinions to herself if she can't be grateful to your husband for hosting. Yikes!

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BooBooDoodle · 29/12/2025 18:23

If it was my mum I wouldn’t be inviting her again next year. The cheek of it. DH cooked a meal and had a drink, it’s bloody Christmas. Is your mum always an attention seeking pain in the arse?

Kellph83 · 29/12/2025 18:23

Your mum is being rude imo! Your husband cooked a big meal , had a drink and fell asleep! Hardly the crime of the century is it.
if you were embarrassed you should have woken him up and sent him to bed. That’s what I would have done. I’d also be telling my mother she’s ungrateful and don’t bother coming next year

BambinaCucina · 29/12/2025 18:24

We'd have had a giggle at the snoring, probably tickled his feet (or his nose with my hair because I'm annoying like that), then given him a gentle shake and told him to go to bed, so he was more comfortable.

Your mum is incredibly rude not to thank him for the meal he cooked.

I assume it's not a pattern.

MadamDicey · 29/12/2025 18:28

I don't understand why someone falling asleep and snoring is embarrassing.

thepragmatic · 29/12/2025 18:28

You sound like a lousy wife, sorry to say. A spouse's job is to protect their person from harm/shame. You should have woken him up ASAP and helped him get to bed. Imagine if the roles were reversed and you fell asleep on couch with ur knickers showing in front of FIL, and your husband did nothing to protect you! As for your pompous mum, she can keep her opinions to herself if she can't be grateful to your husband for hosting. Yikes!

Mapletree1985 · 29/12/2025 18:29

Angelcake1991 · 28/12/2025 18:59

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

Poor man, let him sleep. So many people have so many rules and "oughts" over Christmas, when really it should be a time when rules are relaxed, and everyone chills, take its easy, and does what they want (within reason).