Mum annoyed that my husband fell asleep at 8:30pm on boxing day after over-indulging

[Angelcake1991]

Hi,

Just wanted to get people's thoughts on this please.

My mum came over on Boxing day and stayed the night. My husband spent most of the afternoon preparing a meal for us all and drank a little too much whilst doing so.
This meant he missed out on the games we played with the children and he was fast asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm snoring extremelty loudly. I was a little embarrased as was sitting there with my mum listening to him snoring.

When i spoke to mum the following day after she had gone home she said she felt very embarrased and uncomfortable about the situation. She was the guest and he shouldnt have drunk so much that he fell asleep in that state. She said she will not be texting my husband to thank him for the meal he cooked.

What are peoples thoughts?

Your mum is BU and overly uptight. What's Christmas for if not eating/drinking a bit too much and napping on the couch? At least he cooked you all dinner, I might have understood if you or your mum had cooked dinner but he was the one doing all the work so that's probably why he was tired.
Plus 8:30 pm isn't even that late once you get to your forties. I've been out like a light by that time on more occasions than I care to count.

Is your mum Joanna Lumley in the Amandaland series?!

My DH fell asleep on the sofa in a food induced coma after dinner on Christmas Day and my DD went to bed for two hours in the afternoon. I entertained my parents. To be fair, I could have napped too! We are a family of big nappers here. My parents didn't raise an eyebrow.

Man falls asleep in his own house after preparing his family (not a ‘guest’) a nice meal. What an arse.

She's not a guest, she's family. It's Christmas and he's had a few drinks and is tired. Poor guy. Boxing day is the ultimate do as you please day.

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A bit embarrassing and it’s a shame he missed the chance to play some games with the family but it’s hardly the crime of the century, and I daresay he was knackered after cooking for everyone. I think my Mum would have laughed if my OH had done that, and I can imagine my MIL laughing if I were the one who’d over-indulged and fallen asleep. OH and I don’t drink much so it’s unlikely to happen to either of us but we would be amused if a friend or family member did this (unless we had reason to suspect they were unwell or had a serious alcohol problem. As a one-off, it’s not a big deal at all).

I think I’d have woken him and suggested he go up to bed as his snoring was disrupting the party.

I’m pretty sure that a variation of this happened in 80 per cent of houses up and down the country over Christmas surely? It’s no big deal at all.

Is he an alcoholic or something you’ve not mentioned? If not I really don’t see the problem. My mum and I would’ve just laughed and took the piss a bit 🤷‍♀️ a drink and a nap on Boxing Day isn’t anything to get worked up over

I would have drawn all over his face and feet with the dc. That would have been a real fun game.

People fall asleep at Christmas. It’s what happens. I couldn’t care less. What a thing to get offended or worked up about.

Everyone falls asleep on our sofa at Christmas. Why is it offensive? Cooks privilege. Even with a few drinks in him. Where’s the Christmas cheer in your house?

I suffer from insomnia. And fell asleep about 6pm Christmas night for an hour or so, after a few very full on days and a bad cold.

if someone woke me to say it was bad form
and they were embarrassed by my snoozing I may have had a few choice words for them.

and the op said it was 8.30 he was sleeping so not sure where you get 3pm from.

My husband cooked an absolutely 5* dinner for us all. I was more than happy for him to have a hour on the sofa early evening. We’d all drunk loads and probably eaten more than usual. No big deal.

I’d have packed him off to bed but it’s an acceptable time to be asleep on Boxing Day after too much food and a load of cooking imo 😅

I'd never be offended if my son in law had fell asleep , I think your mother is an ungrateful diva , I'm sure he didn't fall asleep on purpose just to ruin her Christmas

I mean the fact that he couldn't be woken after multiple attempts is a bit bizarre? I have 2 under 2 and barely sleep at the best of times, but I wouldn't be completely blackout and unable to be woken. Is he alright?!

Your mum needs to unclench, as do some of the PP on this thread. “Mortified“ my arse.

Why didn’t you insist he went to bed? How strange to just sit there all evening with a snoring husband!

Your mum sounds a pain in the arse. We'd just laugh at him in our house.

Thank god I come from a family who would find this funny. Jesus, how uptight are you!

Tell your mum to stop being an ungrateful cowbag

Seems very petty to not message someone thank you for a lovely meal they cooked because they fell asleep.

I also would have just woken him up and sent him to bed.

And this, folks, is why MN is littered with threads about what a miserable fucking Xmas people have had with their family. Everything has to be P-E-R-F-E-C-T, or it's the end of civilisation as we know it.

This would be such a non issue in our family, at least 4 adults fell asleep at some point during Christmas celebrations, it's a tiring time of year, plus he'd spent hours cooking! Your Mum is awful.

My god, I’m glad I don’t have the kind of family who get uptight about someone dozing off on the sofa at Christmas! My mum would have found this funny and probably taken a photo of my DP snoozing.

Surely someone dozing off in the afternoon after overindulging a bit is pretty normal at Christmas?! It’s not even a drunken thing most of the time, it’s just the heavy meals, the rushing around cooking and the getting up early with excited kids.

If that's the worst your mum has to worry about then lucky her.