If your partner has a football season ticket…

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Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day?
Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

My ex DH and DS are season ticket holders and I loved having Boxing Day to myself when their team was at home.
I was quite disappointed when Boxing Day was an away fixture

1. Wasn’t invited.
2. Absolutely hate football, no interest whatsoever.
3. No tickets available anyway, not that I’d have ever wanted to go,
4. Went to a match once and couldn't stand the Neanderthal style racist chanting monkey at one of the other teams players.

It has never been traditional in the family I grew up in.
I don’t get it at all.

My husband and kids have gone today, and have done every year their team have been at home on boxing day

Doesn't bother me, I'm enjoying the peace and quiet catching up on TV I haven't watched due to Christmas celebrations and eating lot of noce food

But if you didn't want time in alone, why didn't you go out, even just for a walk with a flask of a hot drink? Daft to sit in alone feeling resentful.

My DH is a season ticket holder but they dont play till tomorrow. He could go to a footie match every day of the week for all I care. I relish not having to look at his miserable mush 🤣🤣

Boxing day football is a big thing, i would be much more surprised if he didnt go! It sounds like the real issue is that you feel lonely and spend a lot of time by yourself.

Yes of course! I love a home match, a few hours on my own. DS goes too, has done since he was 7.
They will both disappear to watch the away match tonight and I'm going to get started on Emily in Paris

That’s on you OP. You sound needy. Get a job where you’re more spend time with people if it bothers you.

Why do your family traditions trump his?

YABU, OP.
Traditionally, Boxing Day is for a range of sporting activities, be it football, country sports, cycling etc. My husband was out from approx 8am to 3pm doing yet another sport - he had a good time, and I had a nice, quiet day reading and listening to the radio. After all, we're not joined at the hip!
Why should people have to stay in together - on a Bank Holiday, we should all just relax and do what we want.

Uh sure. I mean I’d be delighted he was off doing something he enjoyed, and I could have time to myself, or I’d take the kids to visit some relatives or something. My son is at the footie now, but it’s walking distance so he’s gone max three hours.

Neither of you are unreasonable either to want the football or a ‘family’ day, but you are incompatible here.
If it doesn’t bother you the rest of the year, let it go. If it does, just end the relationship if it doesn’t make you happy. No kids to think about.

Maybe it’s a social class thing, I grew up with christmas being about family. Not sport.

Your children are all adults. Why do you need him with you? Surely you can find something to do. The fact that you work from home isn't his problem.

So what was the plan if you had your way OP?

Well, if you don't get it, that's fine. But don't be stropping because your DP has gone to a match that he's already paid for and has been in the calendar for months.

Ds has a season ticket too now so I get Boxing Day (and every other Saturday when there's a home match on) to myself

But yes - before ds got his season ticket dh went on his own.

What are your family doing all day?

Boxing Day games are a big deal for football followers!

My DH and our sons are currently at the game together and I’m loving having some peace and quiet.

What about Afcon?

So going out for a football match means Christmas isn't about family?

I think you are being quite melodramatic about this.

Ooh. Shots fired. We too working-class for words, OP?

Two days of the year wanting to spend time together as a couple, makes me needy?

It's not either or.

Well you’ve had 6 years to realise he sees it very differently to you do whether you get it or not, you’ve known all this time it’s a thing for him so not sure why it’s an issue now.