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Skyflyinghigh · 25/12/2025 12:11

HazelMember · 25/12/2025 11:06

He told me it was a regift so intentional.

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Regift it back next year

Cherrysoup · 25/12/2025 12:28

Dried flowers from Poundland?! And she bigged it up? I’m a bit taken aback at that. I’d be disappointed too.

RawBloomers · 25/12/2025 12:34

WaitingfortheThingtoHappen · 25/12/2025 11:23

he is lazy and inconsiderate.

Nice. That's your grandfather you are talking about. You obviously don't like him very much, so you probably won't regret anything.

Perhaps he doesn't like you either and that's why he gives you shit presents.

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Being a grandfather doesn't magically make your actions thoughtful or industrious. To not be lazy and inconsiderate he would have actually had to consider what would have been a good gift for OP and do something about it. Not pick up some crap he doesn't want and bring it along.

Maybe he doesn't like her - he certainly hasn't shown that he does from his actions here. But OP is moaning on an anonymous forum, letting off a bit of steam, not showing him to his face that she doesn't give a damn about him.

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cotswoldsblue · 25/12/2025 12:36

HazelMember · 25/12/2025 11:46

He retired in his 50s from a very well paid career. His eyesight is fine.

She said the dried flowers gift was something luxurious that was hard to get hold of. She got it from Poundland.

I am happy to be called ungrateful. It is in the charity bag unless you want them?

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Clutching at straws here but dried flowers, or something luxurious like that within her budget might have been hard to get hold of? Like maybe there was only one Poundland within miles that had them. My friend wanted certain earrings for example I never could have afforded and they took months to land on Vinted at half price so I could get them.

I know it’s Poundland and a fiver were taking about though 😂

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 25/12/2025 12:36

DahlsChickenz · 25/12/2025 11:40

It's not like it's a random name though is it? It's his name - I get that it's slightly odd but he clearly thought it would be a kind of memento. Perhaps a little misguided but not thoughtless.

Some people love dried flowers, ok you don't but not all gifts are your perfect heart's desire. Sometimes people just get you something they think is nice and you just smile and appreciate the thought.

I assume you're quite young as your grandfather is still alive. One of mine is passed and the other has dementia and doesn't recognise me. They're both very beloved to me. I promise that one day that bookmark will be something you see and smile at in memory of a person you loved.

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Oh don't be so mawkish.

Itiswhysofew · 25/12/2025 12:39

I agree, they're actually pretty bad.

How long have you been friends for?

Randomchat · 25/12/2025 12:47

How was it sweet of him? He was given it as a retirement gift. His work colleagues had his name engraved on it for him. He told me this He is highly educated and qualified who retired in his 50s

That is shit then. Shit and thoughtless. He'd have been better off just not bothering

Salome61 · 25/12/2025 13:02

So sorry OP. I've known my friend for 50 years and she is the world's shittest gift giver. She is extremely wealthy but extremely mean, hence the wealth. She knows I've had a terrible year and she excelled herself this year with thoughtless crap. A bag - that I think she got for free on a cruise, a notebook I also think she got for free, a tea towel and a box you make to hold gifts? She'd sent this pitiful collection inside a box made by the same people who made the tea towel - I suspect it was all free stuff. Straight off to the charity shop when they are open. I wrote and thanked her for my parcel and said I think we should just do cards in the future :)

Disciplinedthinking · 25/12/2025 14:17

Salome61 · 25/12/2025 13:02

So sorry OP. I've known my friend for 50 years and she is the world's shittest gift giver. She is extremely wealthy but extremely mean, hence the wealth. She knows I've had a terrible year and she excelled herself this year with thoughtless crap. A bag - that I think she got for free on a cruise, a notebook I also think she got for free, a tea towel and a box you make to hold gifts? She'd sent this pitiful collection inside a box made by the same people who made the tea towel - I suspect it was all free stuff. Straight off to the charity shop when they are open. I wrote and thanked her for my parcel and said I think we should just do cards in the future :)

I think that's a good solution. Gift giving is so often unsatisfactory.

Farticus101 · 25/12/2025 14:46

WaitingfortheThingtoHappen · 25/12/2025 11:23

he is lazy and inconsiderate.

Nice. That's your grandfather you are talking about. You obviously don't like him very much, so you probably won't regret anything.

Perhaps he doesn't like you either and that's why he gives you shit presents.

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What? He's a person who has been inconsiderate. His age doesn't matter nor does his relationship to the OP. He is still inconsiderate and lazy as he couldn't be bothered to buy her a proper gift. Why should he be put on a pedestal because he is her grandfather?

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HazelMember · 25/12/2025 15:49

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 25/12/2025 11:53

My mum once gave me a pair of champagne flutes for Christmas. What she hadn't noticed was that they had been engraved 'to- the name of her husbands business-at Christmas' on the bottom! She said how excited she was to give them to me. Also once gave me a pair of knickers. She gave my brothers girlfriend a nightdress and dressing gown from the same range as my knickers.

She weaponised gifts but in her own head. Very strange and quite horrible.

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I don't get why they are so excited to give such awful gifts.

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HazelMember · 25/12/2025 15:54

DahlsChickenz · 25/12/2025 11:40

It's not like it's a random name though is it? It's his name - I get that it's slightly odd but he clearly thought it would be a kind of memento. Perhaps a little misguided but not thoughtless.

Some people love dried flowers, ok you don't but not all gifts are your perfect heart's desire. Sometimes people just get you something they think is nice and you just smile and appreciate the thought.

I assume you're quite young as your grandfather is still alive. One of mine is passed and the other has dementia and doesn't recognise me. They're both very beloved to me. I promise that one day that bookmark will be something you see and smile at in memory of a person you loved.

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Is a gift engraved with happy retirement with someone else's name a memento? He said it was a regift because he didn't want it. I wouldn't call that misguided. He wanted rid of it.

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TomatoSandwiches · 25/12/2025 15:55

You need to get your grandfather a similar book mark with your name on it op, either he will find it funny or be embarrassed about what he gave you for Christmas and do better next year.

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HazelMember · 25/12/2025 15:56

Wonderlandpeony · 25/12/2025 12:11

Did she know that you were giving her the scarf? If so then I think it makes her gift even worse, and I'd be tempted to tell her as well.

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Yes she knew because I didn't want her to buy it for herself.

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HazelMember · 25/12/2025 15:59

cotswoldsblue · 25/12/2025 12:36

Clutching at straws here but dried flowers, or something luxurious like that within her budget might have been hard to get hold of? Like maybe there was only one Poundland within miles that had them. My friend wanted certain earrings for example I never could have afforded and they took months to land on Vinted at half price so I could get them.

I know it’s Poundland and a fiver were taking about though 😂

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I think that is clutching at straws 😂

She buys a lot of designer accessories for herself. Budget is not an issue from the ways she talks and spends when I am with her.

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Rosealea · 25/12/2025 16:00

HazelMember · 25/12/2025 08:51

It is unreasonable to be disappointed with a gift with someone else's name on it?

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It's obviously an heirloom, a personal gift from him to you which means something to him and he wants you to have. If you really are this unsentimental and ungrateful then give it back to him and he can give it to someone who will appreciate the thought. 🙄

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HazelMember · 25/12/2025 16:06

Rosealea · 25/12/2025 16:00

It's obviously an heirloom, a personal gift from him to you which means something to him and he wants you to have. If you really are this unsentimental and ungrateful then give it back to him and he can give it to someone who will appreciate the thought. 🙄

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How is it an heirloom? It is a retirement gift he does not want. He told me I don't want this so you have it. It doesn't mean anything to him. That is why he gave it to me.

Yes he is welcome to have it back and give his retirement gift with his name on it to someone who will appreciate the thought 😂Start queuing up folks 😂

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DahlsChickenz · 25/12/2025 16:29

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 25/12/2025 12:36

Oh don't be so mawkish.

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A lot of you really don't like your relatives 😂

PeonyPatch · 25/12/2025 16:31

HazelMember · 25/12/2025 08:29

I am not talking about cost or expecting anything extravagant, more the thought behind them.

Mine: an engraved metal bookmark with someone else’s name on it plus a bunch of dried flowers complete with the Poundland label still attached.

Honesty I would rather receive nothing.

Eeeesh.

topsecretcyclist · 25/12/2025 17:13

I don't normally comment on gifts I receive, but a close friend has gone from well thought out gifts to buying shit from Temu or Shein that I have never expressed a wish for. I asked for a book ( told her which one from my list) instead got a collection of bits I have no need for, that will clutter up my already cluttered house. Even one of my kids commented on the quality of the gifts and they're usually pretty oblivious to that kind of thing.

LiftAndLetLift · 25/12/2025 17:21

Rosealea · 25/12/2025 16:00

It's obviously an heirloom, a personal gift from him to you which means something to him and he wants you to have. If you really are this unsentimental and ungrateful then give it back to him and he can give it to someone who will appreciate the thought. 🙄

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Oh give over.

SimplyBudgie · 25/12/2025 17:27

topsecretcyclist · 25/12/2025 17:13

I don't normally comment on gifts I receive, but a close friend has gone from well thought out gifts to buying shit from Temu or Shein that I have never expressed a wish for. I asked for a book ( told her which one from my list) instead got a collection of bits I have no need for, that will clutter up my already cluttered house. Even one of my kids commented on the quality of the gifts and they're usually pretty oblivious to that kind of thing.

My MIL has become obsessed with Temu this year. She's constantly showing me her new trainers/curtains/ornament/jeans/ whatever and exclaiming over how cheap it was. Tbf, from a distance many of these things look decent. But when you get up close you feel the thin scratchy fabric, the flimsy soles on shoes that will wear out after a couple of months, see how light and plastic ornaments are.

I'm really not a snob at ALL, I'm more than happy with standard high street/supermarket stuff. But Temu is just packed with spectacularly shit, poor quality tat.

Presents today...far more than usual from MIL. And all Temu stuff. Clothes, toys, plasticky ornaments. All stuff we'll end up binning within weeks. I absolutely hate the waste.

Whydontyoujustfuckoff · 25/12/2025 17:31

LunaTheCat · 25/12/2025 10:15

That’s shit.. I am sorry OP
i often think of the woman given a periscope for Christmas .. the thread is a couple years old and am waiting for an update… did the marriage survive ? Id]f a man bought a periscope one year do you get a submarine the next ?

I remember that one 🤣

Radiator981 · 25/12/2025 17:32

Is that all you got?