to be disappointed by some gifts?

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I am not talking about cost or expecting anything extravagant, more the thought behind them.

Mine: an engraved metal bookmark with someone else’s name on it plus a bunch of dried flowers complete with the Poundland label still attached.

Honesty I would rather receive nothing.

No it is not. He admitted it was given to him for retirement and he didn't want it.

I got her a scarf that she had told me she has been wanting.

Ask him when he's going to give you the tickets for the holiday you need the plant waterer for.....?

He told me the bookmark was a retirement gift to him so no confusion there.

Sorry you received such awful gifts too. They sound thoughtless.

That is lovely for you. My grandad is alive and he told me he didn't want the bookmark that was a retirement gift and was regifting it to me.

I will not cherish it forever. There was no thought in it whatsoever. I will most certainly do me.

Do you want the bookmark? Then you can cherish it forever.

He told me it was a regift so intentional.

This thread every year. Regifted shit. You know what to do next year. Regift it back.

There's always one!🙄

My lovely Nan used to get me odd things for Christmas, often 2nd hand random things, it became a family joke and we all looked forward to seeing what random things we would receive. This Christmas is the first one without her and we all miss getting her gifts.

I never have big expectations when it comes to gifts, I buy myself a couple nice things and wrap them up so I know I will get something I really want/need.

Oh there is always one. 🙄

The op is not you and is allowed to be disappointed.

HTH.

I can’t believe all the apologists for the grandfather. “Oh he’s just a sweet confused old man that wanted you to cherish this heirloom to remember him by”. It’s quite clearly a thoughtless regift of some absolute tat

Yes.

My grandfather has been dead for many years now, but if he had given me something with his name on it, I would cherish it.

I hope you didn't show him your disappointment. If you did you might regret it one day...

Two.

I usually get undrinkable wine from my aunt, she’s so kind but it makes me feel ill. This year I also got a lump of cheese. She didn’t mention it so it’s been under the tree since Tuesday. Sadly that has gone in the bin.

I didn't show him my disappointment but why would I regret it one day? I just thought he is lazy and inconsiderate.

Is it not acceptable not to cherish a gift with someone else's name and be told they didn't want their retirement gift so you can have it?

Usually I would say be grateful for what you receive. However, in this case that was just rubbish at least put a bit more thought into gifts even if they're not expensive

Usually I would say be grateful for what you receive. However, in this case that was just rubbish at least put a bit more thought into gifts even if they're not expensive

I feel like she had the cheese anyway and wanted to be rid of it otherwise why buy something that needs to be refrigerated and put it under the tree?

Sorry you got such an awful gift.

@TheIceBear I love commoner garden

YANBU if the gift really was thoughtless, but sometimes people spend hours and hours and are not sure what to get and get the same things that people think are "thoughtless" gifts. There's no way to tell unless you know the person and the intention behind it.

The only way to get what you want is either request it, or get them yourself.

he is lazy and inconsiderate.

Nice. That's your grandfather you are talking about. You obviously don't like him very much, so you probably won't regret anything.

Perhaps he doesn't like you either and that's why he gives you shit presents.

I think this is ungrateful

I don’t understand how they wouldn’t be embarrassed giving those gifts. Gift giving says a lot about the person who gives the gift. Why would you make yourself look cheap and your relative/friend feel shit by giving a demonstrably rubbish gift?

keep them and regift back to them next year lol

That's not very nice from you either.