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Dancingsquirrels · 25/12/2025 07:58

My father is dying. I'm not feeling too festive

NoisyViewer · 25/12/2025 08:00

We alternate Christmas with being away & at home. At home I always host & im dreading it this year. I know my day is going to be spent cooking, cleaning, sorting games etc. I’m beginning to just want to go away every year

arghno · 25/12/2025 08:03

I hope everyone manages to have a more peaceful day than anticipated 💐

Feeling a bit apprehensive. DH absolutely loves Christmas and is v. keen to recreate that for the DC. It's lovely but I am already knackered - we have a toddler and a small baby and I've been getting about two hours of sleep a night over the last few weeks. We've also all caught a chest infection from the toddler.

Bit I find particularly tricky is, no matter how "magical" you make the day, someone still needs to be on top of the usual prodding the toddler to go to the toilet, drink some water etc., their snacks and meals, how long it's been since baby last fed, etc. Still haven't prepped anything for lunch either yet.

Supergirl1958 · 25/12/2025 08:29

Marjie3 · 25/12/2025 02:52

First time in my 53 years that I’m not feeling it at all this year. Not looking forward to pretending I’m joyfull tomorrow at all and not sure why

I was tossing and turning all night. I’ve had an up and down year that is ending with my sibling in a mental health hospital because they have been sectioned. We weren’t on speaking terms before this happened either.

I should be enjoying Xmas this year as I also celebrated something quite significant in my relationship. But if I am honest, I’ve coasted through until now and I feel desensitised to the festivities!

PistachioTiramisu · 25/12/2025 08:37

MargaretThursday · 25/12/2025 05:51

I'm in same position.

I've been so looking forward to the break. Started feeling rough yesterday morning, but just a bit stuffed up. Got back in the evening and rapidly got worse.
I filled the stockings and left them on the sofa, telling the ( adult) DC to take them to their rooms if they want them there and retired to bed.
I've now woken absolutely freezing. I have 4 duvets and a blanket and still can't get warm.

I really wanted this to be a good one as I don't think we'll get another family type Christmas as next year hopefully dd2 Will be working, and dd1 probably will be with her partner.

Thankfully dh will step up, but I do feel ill. I have that feeling of desperately wanting to cough, but if I do I can't stop, it doesn't help and it hurts my head.

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Yes - me too - got a horrid cold. Started with sore throat on Tuesday, stuffy nose and sneezing yesterday. Feel bad today and have reached the stage where I can't taste anything so all the lovely food will be wasted on me! Every single Christmas I am ill in some way - I really hoped this year would be different.

I hope you all can find some joy in the day, and wishing us all a speedy recovery and 'back to normal'!

neverbeenskiing · 25/12/2025 08:43

I wish I'd found this thread last night.
DS (7) was ill in the night with D&V so that's all our christmas plans ruined. We all had gastroenteritis literally 2 weeks ago so can't believe he's ill again already! He slept all night once he'd been sick but Autistic DD (12) was up all night in a state of panic (she freaks out when anyone around her is sick, but also because she knew it meant all our plans would have to change which is very hard for her) so I've had an hours sleep.
We were supposed to be at PIL's today, so no Christmas dinner for us.
Trying to put a happy face on for the kids but feel exhausted and so gutted for the kids who were really looking forward to seeing all their cousins etc.

MrsTomHardy13 · 25/12/2025 08:44

Woke up feeling worse about today than I thought I would. Mum poorly in hospital, recently split from my partner. Just want today to be over. Tried to tell myself it’s just another day but it’s not. Feeling very alone right now.

FruitWordSalad · 25/12/2025 09:01

LadyPenelope68 · 25/12/2025 07:41

@Busyasabumblebee you described how I feel totally, everything that has happened recently has shattered my ability to be happy.

I’m currently 12 weeks on from a very serious fracture to my leg. I’m none weight bearing and can’t get out of the house because of difficult access (only time I’ve been out of the house in 12 weeks is for hospital appointments and then I’ve had to go on stretcher by ambulance). I cat get upstairs because of fracture/access issues so am having to sleep downstairs, only able to have cash as can’t get to shower and have to use a commode as toilet upstairs. I’ve st least another 8 weeks like this and then a very long slow recovery. need constant help so husband not able to work full time and for self employed, so not working means no money coming in and difficulties with bills.

Dh Is dreadful cook, so not doing proper Christmas dinner, barely any presents for my sons (teens) as can’t afford, I’ve no family, husband hasn’t even bought me a card (thinks they’re a waste of money), we can’t afford presents for each other and I’m just going to spend Christmas Day sat in a chair like every day has been for the past 12 weeks. I’ve not done anything Christmassy and don’t feel in the spirit and would rather not have woken up today 😕🎄

I'm sorry, another non-weightbearing fracturee (don't think that's a word!) here. It's very hard isn't it. Everything is a supreme effort.

My DH is shattered from all the caring and DC isn't really stepping up to help (here for the hols) so he's in a bad mood this morning, which to be fair isn't like him. It's going to be a long day

I wish you a smooth and straightforward recovery, albeit long, and sorry you find yourself in this situation

Sixtygoingonthirty · 25/12/2025 09:05

Pippa12 · 25/12/2025 04:02

Your kindness put a lump in my throat.

My DH is asleep albeit fitfully next to me looking dreadful so I’m full of angst about the situation we’ve found ourselves in. I’m in healthcare and deep down fairly sure we’ve got a serious situation to face.

My very special but challenging little boy will find tomorrow totally overwhelming and will take a lot of energy to stop him bouncing off the walls driving everybody else to distraction (not me- I have lots of patience and respect for how hard he tries!) It will be too much for my DH tomorrow.

14 people for breakfast at 9am today at our house but I’ve not cleaned the bathroom since Monday due to feeling so bad (on a 10 bloody day course of antibiotics!) followed by a full family dinner at my parents (17 of us!) who will not really appreciate the pressure we are under despite saying they do. We have been brought up to be a ‘the show must go on’ kind of family and early home times will not be looked upon kindly.

Sorry to moan, but I won’t be moaning to anybody else. Christmas dress and full face of slap will be on by 9am outwardly full of festive cheer, but I want to sit in the shed where it’s cool and I can breathe.

If my Dad chucks all his vouchers out in the rubbish for the 3rd year running that’s where they’ll bloody stay today!

edited as used tomorrow and could cry realising my alarm is set for in 2hrs and I’ve not slept!

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Oh gosh, my heart hurts for you reading this.
I hope you have a reasonable day. My family too are a ‘show must go on’ lot! My mum invited all and sundry for dinner then more for tea, games would go on til midnight. Everyone was expected to be there …. Most heartbreaking was my mum, struggling through chemo still insisting on doing it all…. Even though we did as much as we possibly could she’d batt us away and tell us we were doing it wrong! She wouldn’t even consider letting us do it at our homes. I hated it though people hearing about our day considered us so lucky. 🙃 . Things have changed since losing my mum a couple of years ago. Sending the biggest love to you and your husband ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Sonolanona · 25/12/2025 09:16

I've already snapped at my Mum for being rude about (adult) DD1 ..her defence is to say 'I was only joking' so I asked exactly why that was funny... that didn't go well. I should be better at ignoring it but we just irritate each other.
Then she will have a martyred look all day while the excited little grandkids are here. It's not her fault she can't cope with kids anymore but they are lovely and just being little ones.
I do not want to host Christmas ever ever again. I do it every year. My brother has buggered off abroad for Xmas and next year it's his turn to host and I'll just turn up for the day. I just want peace!!!!!

Eyeshadow · 25/12/2025 09:26

I love Christmas because I get to see my DC all excited opening their gifts and I get to spend the day not having to think about work, bills or anything else. I can eat too much, play with the toys, watch Xmas films, drink and stay in pjs with no guilt.

We are all physically healthy and although money is tight, we still have enough for some presents and food.
I couldn’t ask for much else.

I do not put the pressure on myself for the perfect Xmas because for us the perfect Xmas is more about just having fun and enjoying the day, rather than the amount of money spent.

(I went NC with my abusive parents and they don’t know where I live or have my number so there’s no more texts about pretending to be on deaths door, saying 1 of them has tried to kill the other, threatened suicide or calling the police for ‘a welfare check’ - now it’s pure peace).

I hope everyone has a lovely Xmas and my thoughts go out to those who have lost loved ones or have loved ones who are seriously poorly.

DBD1975 · 25/12/2025 09:26

belcarra · 25/12/2025 04:27

Feeling a bit low this xmas. DF died in April, and on Sunday DH and I sat with a dear friend and neighbour and his very ill DP. His DP died.
We will be spending xmas day with my DD and her family, my 2 DS and their DPs. My DH is never happy in the company of my family and will look for things to go wrong with the meal etc. So I will be walking on eggshells. This makes me sad because they are welcoming, happy and I love being with them.

You are a lovely person.
I have also been supporting friends who have suffered close losses, don't underestimate the emotional toll of doing so, it is draining but, having lost loved ones myself, I will always be there for others.
My partner is the same with my family as he just wants it to be us, it makes life difficult so I hear you 💜.
No advice just sending love and support.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 25/12/2025 09:38

Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/12/2025 04:57

How unsettling! I hope you and yours are okay? Any chance you managed a kick to the jewels before police arrived?

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I don't usually condone acts of violence but that genuinely made me laugh!

Hope that PP is ok and sending light and love to everyone struggling today.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/12/2025 17:00

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 25/12/2025 09:38

I don't usually condone acts of violence but that genuinely made me laugh!

Hope that PP is ok and sending light and love to everyone struggling today.

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Thanks for sharing that you laughed. Makes me happy to know that. ☺️

Nobbynobbsknob · 26/12/2025 09:12

Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/12/2025 04:57

How unsettling! I hope you and yours are okay? Any chance you managed a kick to the jewels before police arrived?

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No jewel kicking sadly but the forensics lady agreed to castrate him for me if caught.
And he dropped part of the switch controller in the garden which doesn't help us but makes his life more inconvenient. I'm hoping the very spike garland wrapped round the bannister got him.

TrixieMixie · 26/12/2025 18:17

A bit late to the thread but my DH has awful tissue damage to his mouth and eat due to post cancer complications. He’s in constant pain, has been for weeks and very unhappy, though trying his best. It’s so stressful as it’s been going on for 6 weeks now, he’s list massive amounts of weight, and despite meds doesn’t seem to be getting much better. Had a very difficult few years, just battling one blow after another. Not feeling at all festive.

Sometimessmiling · 26/12/2025 18:23

Busyasabumblebee · 25/12/2025 03:24

I dread every day these days tbh. I think all the bad things that happened to me recently have shattered my ability to be happy. Do you have a theory about what is behind your feeling of joylessness?

I am the same such a rollercoaster of a shitty year. I have no joy or how to find it.

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Marjie3 · 26/12/2025 21:37

TrixieMixie · 26/12/2025 18:17

A bit late to the thread but my DH has awful tissue damage to his mouth and eat due to post cancer complications. He’s in constant pain, has been for weeks and very unhappy, though trying his best. It’s so stressful as it’s been going on for 6 weeks now, he’s list massive amounts of weight, and despite meds doesn’t seem to be getting much better. Had a very difficult few years, just battling one blow after another. Not feeling at all festive.

Sounds like you’re having a really difficult time. I hope you’ve got a friend(s) you can talk to about this. And I hope he’s getting the care he needs. Wishing you all the best

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Pippa12 · 26/12/2025 22:08

Against all odds, we managed to have a lovely calm Christmas Day, I hope you all managed the same 💐

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 28/12/2025 10:14

TeaAndTattoos · 25/12/2025 03:42

I’m awake it’s not that I’m dreading tomorrow more I just want the whole thing over and done with I normally love Christmas but I lost my grandma a couple of weeks ago and I’m just not in the Christmas mood.

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So sorry for your loss xx

TeaAndTattoos · 28/12/2025 15:10

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 28/12/2025 10:14

So sorry for your loss xx

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Thank you her funeral is tomorrow we decided to do it on her birthday so we can all be with her. Xx

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 28/12/2025 15:15

TeaAndTattoos · 28/12/2025 15:10

Thank you her funeral is tomorrow we decided to do it on her birthday so we can all be with her. Xx

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I'll be thinking of you and your family x

TeaAndTattoos · 28/12/2025 19:22

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 28/12/2025 15:15

I'll be thinking of you and your family x

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Thank you I’m dreading it but I’ve got to do it for my grandma. Xx

Movingonup313 · 29/12/2025 22:10

HoorayHattie · 25/12/2025 06:20

I think you've posted this on the wrong thread . . . I remember reading the one about the staff who weren't allowed home early because a colleague spent the morning on her phone, so I suspect that was the thread you intended to post on?

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Thank you. No idea how that happened.