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InOverMyHead84 · 23/12/2025 23:15

Frankly; yes. But there's never enough, is there?

Ladamesansmerci · 23/12/2025 23:16

I'm happy with my life, but I'd be devastated knowing I would see my sweet little girl grow up.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 23/12/2025 23:16

I’d be devastated and while I lead a very fulfilling life, I’d be angry as it’s far from over.

My mum died at 41 when I was small and I’m just so aware of how much she missed. My kids are still young and I’d be furious at missing out (me and them) the way she and I did.

MrsSPenguins · 23/12/2025 23:16

Yes I have fulfilled what I wanted to in life in terms of studying, career, travel, marriage, children, finances, house and garden. I've had cancer so there's a risk one day it'll come back at stage 4 with 3 year life expectancy but am not that bothered as I've done what I wanted to and enjoyed my life and had my turn and if I had been born 100 years ago or before the age I am now was life expectancy. I would hope to be reunited with my granny, my great aunt and my uncle and be in my great aunt's thatched cottage eating her homemade lemon drizzle cake with tea with her dried flowers hanging everywhere and her amazing garden. I would worry for my youngest child though he's 18 now but rest is sorted. I used to always worry about my lovely DH dying before me and am relieved that may well not happen now.

bignewprinz · 23/12/2025 23:17

Yes, I feel i've had a great life.

My mega worry would be leaving my kids. I'd like my youngest to be at least 21 before I shuffle off this mortal coil. Which would put me late 50s. I hope I am lucky enough to make it there.

@LadyMacbethWasFierce I am so sorry for your loss, and the unbearable pain that leaps out of your post 💔

hattie43 · 23/12/2025 23:18

@LadyMacbethWasFierce your last paragraph made me actually gasp , the description of your grief so raw . The Unimaginable pain you are going through and I am so so sorry x

user1471453601 · 23/12/2025 23:19

I'd think " well, it's been a blast. Pour me a large G&T please.

15 years ago, I was diagnosed with lung cancer. I started measuring my life, not in coffee spoons, like J Alfred Prufrock, but quite close to that idea. I vowed when I was told it was curable, that I'd enjoy whatever time I had left.

by and large, that's what I've done for 15 years. And now, on my 75th birthday, I'm hoping that when I go, I go like Elsie, to paraphrase the song Cabaret.

Maddy70 · 23/12/2025 23:21

This almost happened to me this year. I do feel I couldn't have lived a fuller and Rich life but I feel I have so much more to go (which is probably why I'm still here )

caringcarer · 23/12/2025 23:22

I've seen my DC grow into amazing adults. I've got dgs's who I love very much and enjoyed a great weekend with in early December ice skating and painting Xmas pottery and sharing Xmas gifts. I'd worry my partner would struggle to care for our 2 foster sons on his own. I retired at 57 after over 20 years of teaching which I really enjoyed working with young people and I've now had 7 years to enjoy being at home, going on holidays and doing as I please when I please, so I think I've had a great life. I'd like it to go on longer though.

Grapewrath · 23/12/2025 23:23

I’d be sad as I have a lot left to live… but I’d also be super proud of what I have lived and achieved- very much against the odds most of the time. I have an amazing family and though I’ve not made my fortune, a really fulfilling career that has made a difference to people.
I am really grateful and lucky.

NooNooHead · 23/12/2025 23:24

LadyMacbethWasFierce · 23/12/2025 21:55

I have been loved greatly and loved greatly in return by grandparents, parents, a husband (my only serious partner), 3 children and some good friends.

I have had a fulfilling and interesting career that has provided a degree of financial security and the ability to do some fun stuff.

I had enjoyed my life immensely and done some good along the way (a rewarding, socially useful job and a long term commitment to volunteering).

Until 7 weeks ago I lived a fulfilling and maybe even enviable life. Then my DD1 died, aged 24, entirely unexpectedly. I am demented with grief and death tomorrow would be welcome. Every day I spend on this earth henceforth is a day that will further diminish my fulfillment. I would like to think I might be reunited with DD after death. But oblivion would be preferable to this torment. The only thing that keeps me from taking my life is the presence of my other children for whom such an act would be devastating.

I'm so sorry 😞 Those words made me cry. You poor thing. Huge hugs 💖😢

Grapewrath · 23/12/2025 23:26

LadyMacbethWasFierce · 23/12/2025 21:55

I have been loved greatly and loved greatly in return by grandparents, parents, a husband (my only serious partner), 3 children and some good friends.

I have had a fulfilling and interesting career that has provided a degree of financial security and the ability to do some fun stuff.

I had enjoyed my life immensely and done some good along the way (a rewarding, socially useful job and a long term commitment to volunteering).

Until 7 weeks ago I lived a fulfilling and maybe even enviable life. Then my DD1 died, aged 24, entirely unexpectedly. I am demented with grief and death tomorrow would be welcome. Every day I spend on this earth henceforth is a day that will further diminish my fulfillment. I would like to think I might be reunited with DD after death. But oblivion would be preferable to this torment. The only thing that keeps me from taking my life is the presence of my other children for whom such an act would be devastating.

im so so sorry

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 23/12/2025 23:26

Well, I’d liked to have done a few more things before I went, so I’d be slightly pissed off. I’m still on my bucket list, so, hold off tiger!

ScrambledEggs12 · 23/12/2025 23:28

LadyMacbethWasFierce · 23/12/2025 21:55

I have been loved greatly and loved greatly in return by grandparents, parents, a husband (my only serious partner), 3 children and some good friends.

I have had a fulfilling and interesting career that has provided a degree of financial security and the ability to do some fun stuff.

I had enjoyed my life immensely and done some good along the way (a rewarding, socially useful job and a long term commitment to volunteering).

Until 7 weeks ago I lived a fulfilling and maybe even enviable life. Then my DD1 died, aged 24, entirely unexpectedly. I am demented with grief and death tomorrow would be welcome. Every day I spend on this earth henceforth is a day that will further diminish my fulfillment. I would like to think I might be reunited with DD after death. But oblivion would be preferable to this torment. The only thing that keeps me from taking my life is the presence of my other children for whom such an act would be devastating.

I am so very sorry for your loss x

iamnotalemon · 23/12/2025 23:31

LadyMacbethWasFierce · 23/12/2025 21:55

I have been loved greatly and loved greatly in return by grandparents, parents, a husband (my only serious partner), 3 children and some good friends.

I have had a fulfilling and interesting career that has provided a degree of financial security and the ability to do some fun stuff.

I had enjoyed my life immensely and done some good along the way (a rewarding, socially useful job and a long term commitment to volunteering).

Until 7 weeks ago I lived a fulfilling and maybe even enviable life. Then my DD1 died, aged 24, entirely unexpectedly. I am demented with grief and death tomorrow would be welcome. Every day I spend on this earth henceforth is a day that will further diminish my fulfillment. I would like to think I might be reunited with DD after death. But oblivion would be preferable to this torment. The only thing that keeps me from taking my life is the presence of my other children for whom such an act would be devastating.

I’m really sorry for your loss. @LadyMacbethWasFiercex

Oldandgreyer · 23/12/2025 23:37

I think I'd feel a bit sad. It's not that I've got a list of things that I'm desperate to do, but there's some things I've promised to do.

I have enjoyed my life. I have enjoyed the ups and grumbled at the downs. I have laughed and cried, had people in my life that I have loved so much.

I have been involved in all sorts of things and I hope I've made a difference.

iamnotalemon · 23/12/2025 23:38

I would be sad that I haven’t had a great big love of my life and that I wouldn’t get to see my nieces and nephew grow up but I’ve done a lot of travelling and had a lot of fun along the way so have had a fulfilling life in some ways. It’s also been rough in others (mental health) so part of me would be happy not to struggle on with that.

I definitely would live my life differently if I knew I only had a few years left that’s for sure!

ResusciAnnie · 23/12/2025 23:38

Turkeysahoy · 23/12/2025 21:34

Would you feel you have lived a fulfilled life?

Inspired by a post I have just read which made me think.

I am 34 and would answer No at this moment in time. As I’ve stayed in a career I dislike for too long and haven’t been as carefree as I would have liked. Things I hope to change of course.

How about you?

Yea! Definitely! 36, 3 kids, happy marriage, love my job. Have done something epic every year since I was 21, that’ll do me nicely.

SisyphusDad · 23/12/2025 23:46

To be honest, the only reason I wouldn't like it is that my DSs - 18 and 22 - who lost their Mum many years ago, would be left adrift when they're still young, trying to figure out adulting, and look to me for help and, I guess, stability and continuity.

Onelifeonly · 23/12/2025 23:47

I'd be furious! My life has been blessed in many ways but I'm not ready to go, despite being over 60. I've got lots more to do, particularly in supporting my young adult children.

MyCatStoleSausages · 23/12/2025 23:48

I circled the drain this year and very nearly died due to a sudden medical emergency and tbh I didn't much care at that point in time. It was just a fleeting oop this might be it for me before I lost consciousness , I wasn't sad or scared or angry or regretful just indifferent really so I'm kind of like does it matter? Does any of it actually matter? Don't get me wrong I'm glad I didn't die but I'm not out frantically doing all of the things I wished I had done iykwim. So I suppose I would have no regerts.

dontletmedownbruce · 23/12/2025 23:49

Would be ecstatic. Thank god that’s over without me taking action.

Stompythedinosaur · 23/12/2025 23:49

I'd be satisfied tbh. I've done a lot of things I wanted to. Not that there isn't more I want to do.

Onelifeonly · 23/12/2025 23:50

LadyMacbethWasFierce · 23/12/2025 21:55

I have been loved greatly and loved greatly in return by grandparents, parents, a husband (my only serious partner), 3 children and some good friends.

I have had a fulfilling and interesting career that has provided a degree of financial security and the ability to do some fun stuff.

I had enjoyed my life immensely and done some good along the way (a rewarding, socially useful job and a long term commitment to volunteering).

Until 7 weeks ago I lived a fulfilling and maybe even enviable life. Then my DD1 died, aged 24, entirely unexpectedly. I am demented with grief and death tomorrow would be welcome. Every day I spend on this earth henceforth is a day that will further diminish my fulfillment. I would like to think I might be reunited with DD after death. But oblivion would be preferable to this torment. The only thing that keeps me from taking my life is the presence of my other children for whom such an act would be devastating.

I am so so sorry. That would be my worst nightmare. Wishing you the strength to carry on.

EmeraldRoulette · 23/12/2025 23:52

I see I'm not the only person with this stuff on my mind tonight

I feel like I packed in a huge amount by age 40. And sometimes I am amazed at how much I packed in.

I'm not particularly sure that the world really suits me any more so I can't say it's a disaster if I go now aged 49

It's difficult because some of this is down to my choice to look after my mum - which to be honest has been going on longer than I expected

So I have to accept that that sacrifice is made and done and I really hope it was the right thing to do 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean I can't change it now! I do feel I missed out on my 40s somewhat. But then I packed in so much before so maybe that's just the trade-off.

Maybe I wasn't really able to do any more.

Honestly, I'd quite like to talk all of this through with someone but I suppose all you get if someone else's opinion. The question of "did I do the right thing?" Will actually never go away.

so, it's not a disaster if I die tonight, but I guess I wish I'd done more with the last 10 years?