DP (married) is accusing me of being “controlling” for trying to reduce our day to day spending.
For context, I am the sole earner, DP has been SAHM for 10 years but our DC are now 12 and 10 so she is looking for some PT work.
We have been spending - in my view - way too much on general day to day living - food, coffees etc. DP doesn’t really seem to care about money, but I’m the one who has to fund everything. I totally don’t mind being the sole breadwinner, but it frustrates me when she doesn’t appreciate that money we fritter away is ‘stealing’ from our retirement.
I had set us a ‘budget’ for household spending. I am not enforcing it, but I keep a weekly Excel of what we have spent versus our budget so we can see how much we are overspending.
I mentioned this weekend how much we are “over budget” for this month, and she went off about me being “controlling” and made out that IABU. Am I?