To think it's really rude to keep your shoes on when you visit someone's home

[Pavementworrier]

There's so much dog poo about now it's basically a trampling of dog poo

i wear slippers at home, but I don’t carry my slippers with me just in case I go to a shoes off house!

No they never wore their shoes unless they were going back out again or werent staying in the main kitchen. Its guests they (generally, will always be the odd outlier!) dont expect to take their shoes off.

I haven’t read the full thread - but for me, it’s a bit of a dilemma.. if I visit a house with the shows off rule I’ll take them off but my daughter is in a wheelchair and that will carry way more bits and pieces in its tyres and I can’t put slippers on that. So I expect them to factor that in I suppose..
Hard floors in my house for this reason and I don’t anyone to remove shoes unless they are ok with whatever may be on the floor (I clean it twice a day.. it’s still never good enough to walk around in white socks (and it never will be).

Quite. The clean freaks on MN fascinate me. Give it another couple of generations and they’ll be having themselves laminated just to be on the safe side.

Shoes off. ✔️
Anti-dogs. ✔️
OP posts and runs off. ✔️

Mumsnet click bait bingo!

This would be a 🎣 10/10 if only you'd mentioned SAHMs as well.

Yep, wonder if the dogs are called Bingo 😆

This.
A hard floor can be swept, mopped and squeaky clean in minutes. No need to embarrass guests by asking for shoes off. With fitted carpet you have drag the hoover out, hope it sucks up the worst of it, and never be sure that all the grunge, dust mites, skin flakes and other nasties are gone.

I once lifted a corner of a fitted carpet and found black mould growing under there. We got rid of it the next day. When I lived in Europe they all commented on the weird British love for fitted carpets - they had wood floors, tiles, or laminate.

What is “U” and “non-U”.

Google ‘Nancy Mitford’

YABU for not speaking up. No-one is traipsing through my home with their outside shoes.

Multipack flip flops are available on Amazon and a disinfectant wipe for those who need to clean the slippers before they wear them.

No.

I have a lot of Muslim friends as well I’m always happy to go to their houses/ they come to us as they always have the no shoes rule. It just seems like common sense and cleanliness

shoes are clothes. Do you demand they take off their trousers too? If you wouldn't expect it in an office I wouldn't expect it in a house - unless we were intimate.

It’s rude to take them off when you visit my house.

😂😂😂

Yeah. The type that can be thrown in the washing machine between users. It’s really common in substantial sections of the world. A Romanian friend of mine had a basket of thick socks by the door instead. Shoes off, socks on for warmth, straight in the wash basket after use.

I’m baffled by the people in this thread who find the thought of a naked or even besocked foot on their floor worse than whatever is on lurking on the bottom of your average outdoor shoe. It’s not about visible dog shit FFS, it’s the invisible animal and human piss, spit, traces of vomit, bin juice, oil, petrol, soil, grit…

If you're going to expect people to have their shoes off, then I think you need to have spare slippers to borrow. Nothing worse than hosts who will wear slippers themselves but expect their guests to wear their socks.

It’s down to the individual household. I don’t care either way: I’m not offended if asked to take shoes off and will happily comply but nor do I think shoes on households are unhygienic. It’s more to do with respect. If you visit someone’s home you respect their customs.

Hygiene is an irrelevance really: you are just as likely to pick up germs from someone’s carpet as from the pavement.

I have 32 people coming to my house on Christmas Eve for a fork supper and mulled wine…I cannot imagine 32 pairs of shoes in the hall and 32 barefoot people in my house

Yes I think people should at least ask not offer to remove shoes

It’s a bit like marmite. You are either a shoes on or off house and like to follow to the same rules where you visit.

However if you visit another house of the opposite rules you have to follow them and be prepared. Doesn’t matter if you agree or not it’s that’s persons house.

I have a friend who makes us take shoes off...I hate it.. my feet are always freezing

If I'm out with the dog the shoes obviously come off at the door
If I'm staying in then the slippers are on
If I'm in and out in the car the shoes stay on until I'm not going out again.
If we have a visitor who asks i say it's up to you
If a visitor leaves their shoes on that's absolutely fine. No one is going to die and the chances are they've only gone from door to car to door anyway

Doesn't bother me at all if folk don't take their shoes off. But I am not houseproud and if any mess gets in the house, it cleans up.
I wouldn't be happy if someone trampled a load of mud in without a care of course, but normal shoes that aren't especially dirty is fine.
Having said that, I do ask others if I should take off my shoes when I visit their house, unless I am aware that they're definitely not a 'shoes off' house.

I'm not wearing someone else's slippers