To judge a couple’s chemistry based on their wedding kiss?

[PearlMember]

Sometimes I watch wedding videos or see pictures and can’t help but think that kiss told me everything I needed to know. The ones that look awkward, stiff, like they’ve never kissed before…it just gives off no passion/bad sex/this was arranged by vibes and pressure. I know it’s just one moment and maybe they’re just shy, but AIBU to think you can tell when the chemistry isn’t there?

Honestly OP can't you think of a better hobby than analysising kisses on wedding videos?
Sounds a really voyeuristic sad thing to do.

You'd be a bit of a moron if you thought one fleeting moment is representative of an entire relationship or chemistry.

I'm a private person and don't especially feel comfortable showing my emotions or my relationship in front of an audience.

Hmm

Not of the kiss, but definitely from the body language at the wedding 👀👀

It's an unnatural situation with an audience. It's a performative kiss.
Lots of people will feel awkward and stiff at that point.

Oh absolutely, couples should only be judged on how passionately they kiss in front of their granny.

I dunno. I mean few wedding kisses are passionate. They are generally loving and celebratory. But I think there is a germ of truth in what you’re saying. If the couple don’t look comfortable and affectionate with each other that’s a bad sign. But I’ve never seen a wedding kiss like that tbh.

What? Many people would feel
awkward about having to kiss their other half performatively as the sole focus of a hundred-odd people.

I don't know about the kiss, but the wedding I went to where the bride did the first dance with her ex-boyfriend (who she had never got over), because her husband "doesn't dance" ended exactly as you would expect.

I’m guessing you are engaged / newly wed or been married less than 7 years?

I think anyone with more life experience would know that love changes throughout a marriage. My husband and I have a completely different, better, kind of love than we did on our wedding day. We are different people. This post smacks of your life inexperience.

😮

It’s not that deep, just a casual observation from things you happen to see. I’m interested in whether others notice the same.

What is a wedding kiss?

Kissing in front of family and friends is highly embarrassing unless one is an exhibitionist.

I really wouldn't read too much into a very public and -usually- quick kiss!

Why would you want to "judge" anyone like this, OP? It's really bizarre and unpleasant of you.

Most passionate kiss I saw at a wedding, fuelled by coke, they had separates six months later

of course you can’t tell

Well you're right about one thing OP. It certainly isn't that deep. It's not even approaching deep. Not even a distant relative.
This is the most shallow barely existential claptrap I've read on here for a while. Congratulations.

Yeah, I noticed the kiss between an old pal & her new husband, in their wedding pics. She just wanted the frock & a big party with all of her work cronies (London media types).

Marriage lasted a year before she was caught with her pants down…

Tbf that doesn’t mean the didn’t have great sexual chemistry.

😭😭 oh dear

Really? You don't think maybe a kiss in front of all their relatives might be different to a kiss behind closed doors?

You’re free to play all the games you want inside your head, as long as you don’t share them with other people. That’s when it becomes weird and off putting.

I was so nervous of fucking ip on our wedding day I had to be told we could actually hold hands. Stood there like robots 😅

But here we are decades later.

The most passionate kissers I’ve seen the groom has a secret child after the marriage. He and the bride basically live separate lives in the same house.

Other way around, IMO: the ones who go at it hammer and tongs in front of their parents will be shagging someone else within 10 years.

For a start I actually hate weddings. I would have been happy to just go to the registry office and get married but my husband actually wanted a wedding and I didn’t mind but I wasn’t bothered. I dunno , I mean I woundn’t pass any heed on how anyone behaves during a wedding . I hate being the centre of attention and felt self conscious, that’s got nothing to do with how I feel about my husband

I hated kissing DH in front of an audience. Felt so weird. Not to mention my Dad conducted the wedding so was standing directly in front of us.