To judge a couple’s chemistry based on their wedding kiss?

[PearlMember]

Sometimes I watch wedding videos or see pictures and can’t help but think that kiss told me everything I needed to know. The ones that look awkward, stiff, like they’ve never kissed before…it just gives off no passion/bad sex/this was arranged by vibes and pressure. I know it’s just one moment and maybe they’re just shy, but AIBU to think you can tell when the chemistry isn’t there?

@OP have you not learned anything from observing Hollywood marriages? all handsy and face sucking before & on wedding day, 'AMAZING chemistry!' 6 mths later they're separated/divorced, citing 'irreconcilable differences'.

This HAS to be a joke?

Well I wouldn’t have wanted to play tonsil tennis at the altar and in front of family and friends. Highly inappropriate.

If it looks awkward they're probably not into PDA. I don't think it has anything to do with chemistry.

That. No way would I have snogged my husband in front of other people.

I cringe when wedding kisses turn into a snogging season.

I refused to have a kiss in the ceremony for both weddings. I think they're really tacky, always look staged & artificial & i wanted our first kiss as a married couple to be intimate & special - which is never going to happen with however many people watching.

Yes of course, everyone should feel extremely passionate while their grandparents, parents and the vicar all stare at them. Its not at all off putting. 🙄

I don't think we had more than a quick peck - low key register office wedding. We've been married more than 20 years now.

The thought of snogging my husband in front of my dad makes me squirm. We had a nice normal kiss and had a snog later on when nobody could see us!

I think we shared a quick peck on the lips.

Funny enough it wasn’t our first kiss and all the places we’ve ‘made out’, standing in front of both our families has never made the cut.

But don’t worry OP, our sex life is amazing and we’re still madly in love.

I had great chemistry with my bastard narcissistic ex. But nothing else.

I think that’s maybe all the had

Me and DH’s wedding kiss was a bit stiff and awkward.

I’m really not a fan of PDA. Kissing infront of an audience with people who I’ve only met a handful of times is dead awkward.

But our sex life is not to be sniffed at. What’s that saying?

a lady on the streets but a freak in the sheets?

Haven't thought about it before, but now I look back over the many weddings over the years I'd say it was the exact opposite - those with the most passionate kisses are no longer together and those that had normal or even slightly awkward kisses are.

There's something in this.

The problem with what you're saying is you can't test your theory because who knows if they genuinely have chemistry in private.

I think the posters banging on about not snogging in front of your parents are misunderstanding you - there's a wide range between awkwardness and an open mouthed snog. The couples I know who are very close and committed looked like they were sharing and enjoying the moment.

I haven't paid too much attention to the kiss but I've always found it fascinating seeing how differently brides walk down the aisle.

This… do you have an empty life to have so much time to be judging others?

You are 100% right OP.

When I got married I licked my husbands face just like Tommy did to Pam right in front of the vicar and all our relatives, and we are still happily together years later.

It was very important to me for everyone at the wedding to realise just how completely sexual we really are.

🤣

I don’t know because
a) I don’t watch other people’s wedding videos, or my own for that matter
b) I’ve forgotten what the kiss looked like by the time people divorced

"told me everything I needed to know"

What do you "need" to know OP? You don't need to know anything at all in most cases do you?

Or do you "need" to have a good idea of how much fun and passion the couple have in bed? Really? Why?

I wouldn’t judge someone’s wedding kiss. It is one of the biggest days of their lives, so possibly already very nervous, then being stood in front of a large crowd can also make people feel nervous topped with them having to kiss in front of everyone. It might not come naturally in that moment

OK now this I would judge. WTF???

You have too much time on your hands

It was very awkward. Her husband knew he was "second best", but was so besotted with her that he wanted to marry her anyway. The poor man stood awkwardly on the side of the dance floor telling his astonished guests that he "never dances and didn't want to spoil the day for his wife".

God knows why the ex-boyfriend agreed to participate in the groom's humiliation. He was married himself by this time and never showed the slightest interest in the bride after he ended their relationship. I can only assume it was some kind of misplaced pity for the bride that made him do it.

You need to get a life 😂

How do you confirm that you're correct in your assumption? Set a camera up in the honeymoon suite so you can watch them shag and see what their chemistry is like?