Just been told to remove my pronouns from my Teams profile

[Horrace]

I'm weak 🤣
My manager just phoned me to say there has been some serious complaints made about me that he must urgently address.
I panicked.
In the Pronouns section of my Teams profile, I have

'Take a Wild Guess'

Its been there for a few years. Its finally been noticed and I've been told to take it down because it's made someone or more than one possibly, FEARFUL of me.

Your personal beliefs don't entitle you to act childishly and unprofessionally at work. I think Nigel Farage is a steaming turd of a human but I don't add that to my email signature. And laughing in your bosses face can't have gone down well either, hope you're not too attached to your job if that's how you choose to behave.

The pronouns section is there for whoever feels they want to use it. If you don't want to, then don't. It's pretty simple.

The whataboutery is irrelevant. What other people do is of no relevance to OPs behaviour, which is unprofessional.

The discussion has evolved.

Fearful is ridiculous. People are such wet cabbages.

But you didn't really need to put that in your signature, did you? It wasn't necessary.

Mine is blank. I am clearly a woman. I'm happy to leave it at that.

You work in a sexist industry where you recognise the disadvantaged by being seen as female. Your industry ranks roles based on males and then female not by capacity to do the job you are being paid to do.

Your employer decided that you should brand yourself as having a "feminine thought process/ outlook" in work or opt out to be "inclusive" where your employer knows or should know that this act directly disadvantages you and all other female employees.

Do you think that your new starter if female will be treated better if she pretends she is not female (or not to have a "feminine thought process")?

Or will there be a new way of spliting and ranking by sex eg males, males who claim to females, females who claim to be male, and females?

I can only speak for my own experience up until my late teens when I grew my hair and started looking less 'tomboyish' but I was misgendered frequently enough then.

And It's not that uncommon that I will see someone and not be sure of their sex and/or gender. Which is partly driven by people who are trans or non-binary, but not exclusively. Maybe I'm peculiarly unobservant but when I see people on MN say "oh but we can always tell" - well personally, on first glance, no I can't.

It’s harder to tell with teens for sure, but adults have such different doors I’m surprised people have any trouble at all!

It’s what’s implied.

If Janet from accounting had pink hair and you set your status on Teams to ‘only blondes have fun’ and people amongst the office knew it was about your dislike of Janet’s hair - it would constitute as bullying and / or harassment. For a supposedly non issue, “bit of banter”.

OP I think it is imperative that you take this request very seriously and immediately reassure your boss that you would hate for anyone to be fearful of you not least because you take pronouns extremely seriously. You will therefore immediately update your pronouns (you assume they cannot be depriving you of pronouns altogether because that would be literal violence) so that they are clear for all rather than anyone having to guess them - you had assumed that it was obvious to all that your pronouns are ze/zem hence your little joke but you’ll get them on your profile loud and proud pronto and assume that everyone will respect them.

I haven't said how it came to light

You utter legend.

Incorrect. OP says specifically she is ridiculing those that prefer to share their pronouns- not an idea.

Sobbing, even.

Ah that's where I've been going wrong, I've been paying no attention to people's doors at all 😂

A colleague of mine has Ho/Hum as his pronouns on teams. Makes me laugh every time I see it.
When I was on Twitter my pronouns in my bio were she/her/Satan.

You haven't. Probably for good reason.

You did say: "The reason it was noticed is a whole other story which also got me in trouble"

I would put he/him to annoy them all(they have requested and you don't need to give any further information). The whole thing is ridiculous. I think if you have pronouns which are different to your sex then definitely you would need to tell people that is how you would like to be addressed but otherwise it is all a bit mad.

By leaving my pronouns blank, all colleagues will now have to take a guess at my pronouns.

Companies bring these ridiculous and unprofessional ideologies to our work environment but expect professionalism in return. Sometimes they won’t get it and will get their own behaviour mimicked back to them.

Do you have to put pronouns on? Or can you just leave it blank?

Yes but it also got them in trouble.

I don't know. I don't have gender dysphoria. And I don't think you are asking in good faith.

Fwiw they did play with cars, a bit. Trains were their favourite though.

All that she 'implied' is that its obvious she is a woman. Still not harassment.

No, she mocked the idea of pronouns. Which I’m going to take a wild guess (based on some people complaining about this) a portion of the company use, if not identify differently. Mocking is harassment.

Harassment is defined as unwanted and unwarranted conduct that has the purpose or effect of violating another person’s dignity, or creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for another person.

Can leave it blank which i now have.

What I'm pointing out is that now, people will have to take a guess. Which is what was written in the first place