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To email the teacher

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Princesspollyyy · 18/12/2025 08:20

my daughters (secondary school GCSE year) teacher is really good, very dedicated and committed and just an excellent teacher and lovely person. Would it be weird to send her an email thanking her for all her hard work and wishing her a lovely Christmas?

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Fionasapples · 18/12/2025 17:56

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

You sound really strange and very bitter.

LifeOfAShowgirl13 · 18/12/2025 17:58

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

Oh behave

MathsTeacherandLoveit · 18/12/2025 18:06

@LemaxObsessive
In the opposite spirit of another thread about things you don't say out loud, I'm going to say it out loud.
I'm sorry that you hate the job that much that you've become a cynical old miserable teacher who hates anyone who survives the job better than you do.

And if you are not a teacher/retired one:
Dont write any emails to any teachers because the ones you write will not be gratefully received

Nice one @Princesspollyyy I'm glad you sent it!

dh280125 · 18/12/2025 18:12

My mum was a teacher and always loved that sort of thing. Do it.

JoB1kenobi · 18/12/2025 18:24

Princesspollyyy · 18/12/2025 08:20

my daughters (secondary school GCSE year) teacher is really good, very dedicated and committed and just an excellent teacher and lovely person. Would it be weird to send her an email thanking her for all her hard work and wishing her a lovely Christmas?

Please do! And make sure the subject box is evident so she doesn’t ignore it and panic. I’d love this as a teacher although I’m very fortunate that my kids in my school don’t have access to our emails otherwise they’d be emailing constantly!

CelestialCandyfloss · 18/12/2025 18:39

Not weird in my book, I think that's really nice. I did the same thing with my daughter's maths teacher, she was so fab and basically got her motivated and out of the bottom set and in target for a 4 or 5.

eastegg · 18/12/2025 19:13

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

It has absolutely zero elements of bribery.

User79853257976 · 18/12/2025 19:21

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:24

Yeah I’d see that as a bit sucking up-ish and an attempt to get your child ahead in some way. Say it at the end of the school year with a thank you card. Can you imagine if every parent sent an email? His/Her inbox would be full!

Yeah, better to leave us with the zero thank you emails we get in secondary!

Kidsgotothatschool · 18/12/2025 19:23

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:24

Yeah I’d see that as a bit sucking up-ish and an attempt to get your child ahead in some way. Say it at the end of the school year with a thank you card. Can you imagine if every parent sent an email? His/Her inbox would be full!

Do you teach?

Honestly I don’t know a teacher who wouldn’t appreciate it, primary or secondary!

Do it @Princesspollyyy it’s a lovely gesture! Edited to say just seen your update well done!

Duechristmas · 18/12/2025 19:31

Do it. She will treasure it more than you can ever imagine. It's a soul destroying job, being recognised is worth the world.
If you want to make an even bigger difference, copy in her line manager or head. If you send it directly to her, she's unlikely to pass it on herself.

biscuitscake · 18/12/2025 19:54

Best present a teacher can get at the end of term is a personal note from a parent. It does mean a lot.

Noodles1234 · 18/12/2025 20:12

Please do, they mean the world and make our month.

if you really want to add the HeadMaster please do, like most places they don’t always realise who are the good staff important to keep.

we should all do this more often to others.

MrsHamlet · 18/12/2025 20:16

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:24

Yeah I’d see that as a bit sucking up-ish and an attempt to get your child ahead in some way. Say it at the end of the school year with a thank you card. Can you imagine if every parent sent an email? His/Her inbox would be full!

What absolute nonsense! How is that "getting them ahead"? Am I going to give that kid 10/10 on a year instead of 9 because their mum sent an email????

goudaandserrano · 18/12/2025 20:16

After receiving a few really special feedback emails in my own job, I now make a real effort to send positive feedback whenever anyone goes above & beyond! Was super impressed with the service from my local theatre recently so sent the guy an email & asked him to share it with his boss. Done the same with my DDs teacher last year. Did it with Sephora a couple of months ago after I ordered something to my old address & their CS team was so helpful. No matter what job you have, it’s SO nice to receive positive feedback & will pretty much always get you brownie points with your boss. People will often only ever reach out if they have complaints or criticism - but if we want to live in a nicer world, we should all try hard to spread more positivity. Everyone should do this I thinkSmile

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/12/2025 20:18

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:24

Yeah I’d see that as a bit sucking up-ish and an attempt to get your child ahead in some way. Say it at the end of the school year with a thank you card. Can you imagine if every parent sent an email? His/Her inbox would be full!

Presumably you are not a teacher yourself. I think it's a great idea.

MrsHamlet · 18/12/2025 20:18

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

What nonsense!
An email from Bob's mum will have precisely no impact on his GCSE in June next year.

peanutcookie · 18/12/2025 20:19

As secondary school teacher, I love emails like this from students/parents. We generally don't see parents unless it's parents evening so it's lovely to get feedback like this. As another pp has said, cc in the Head so they know too

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/12/2025 20:23

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

What absolute nonsense.

Casperroonie · 18/12/2025 20:24

Princesspollyyy · 18/12/2025 08:20

my daughters (secondary school GCSE year) teacher is really good, very dedicated and committed and just an excellent teacher and lovely person. Would it be weird to send her an email thanking her for all her hard work and wishing her a lovely Christmas?

Copy the head. Nice to hear lively comments instead of teacher-bashing. 🙂🙂

peanutcookie · 18/12/2025 20:26

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:27

🙄😆😆 As if they don’t have enough to do! There’d be an awful lot of eye rolling going on if they received a suck up attempt a matter of months before GCSEs and will be judging massively. Sorry OP but it’s got elements of bribery imo.

You do know that the exam papers are marked externally, right?

Grandmashorty · 18/12/2025 20:27

Not an email but I once saw my son’s A level physics teacher at a train station. My son had said how great she was and how devoted she was to the students and the subject. I didn’t know her well but went up to her and explained who I was. I thanked her for everything she had done for my son and the other students. She was really pleased and she told my son later that it meant so much to her.

ThankYouNigel · 18/12/2025 20:27

I think that’s a really lovely idea and would be very well received and appreciated by the teacher OP 😊

LlynTegid · 18/12/2025 20:28

If you have the opportunity to thank in person, even better.

Pearlstillsinging · 18/12/2025 20:29

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 08:24

Yeah I’d see that as a bit sucking up-ish and an attempt to get your child ahead in some way. Say it at the end of the school year with a thank you card. Can you imagine if every parent sent an email? His/Her inbox would be full!

You are obviously not a teacher! @LemaxObsessive

MyOliveStork · 18/12/2025 20:29

I never went in for gifts and cards when my kids were in primary school (youngest is now 19).
My last child had a wonderful teacher in Year 6, she was so good for him and all the other children, really sought to help them realise the best of themselves.
I went to see her near the end of term to tell how amazing I thought she was, how thankful I was for what she had recognised in my son and helped him to achieve. I made her cry. It made me realise that it isn’t buying gifts, it’s telling your teacher how much you support and appreciate them.
My friend works with this teacher and has told me that my words are still something she mentions now.
My daughter became a primary school teacher and says a supportive parent is worth a hundred gifts.